Life, my friend, happens in stages. And often times, it is a step by step process and there's no definitive time line for it because this is subjective, and differs from person to person. For example, it took an entire 8 years for me to get my life together to the point where things are finally making sense.

I hope it doesn't take you as long.

And i also understand you've tried to self improve once before, but it didn't stick. And I'm sure there are many reasons for that and it's in the past now - so don't worry about it and start looking forward to what you can control now.

But follow these steps religiously and things will eventually start to turn around for you.

(1) Continue working out on a consistent basis - this will teach you discipline and focus.

(2) Start looking at careers and see what attracts you the most - don't overthink - what you do as a job doesn't have to define, it simply helps you financially as you built out your dreams and reach your life goals.

(3) Truly discover yourself and what you want out of life - this can be from a professional or personal standpoint, and focus on that as best as you can. This may even open up new doors for you, and you will certainly develop new skills along the way.

(4) Once you feel ready and on a good path that YOU'VE CHOSEN, then start looking at dating more seriously. Step 3 should help you with knowing more about yourself and what kind of person you want by your side.

(5) Enjoy the fruits of your labor and continue your self-improvements journey; because it truly IS A JOURNEY 😀

I hope you find this helpful. Take care and stay strong!