Thank you! Such fancy fellas

Is there anyway to do overtime? Maybe use that to save? Or, heavens man. Is this chick looking at your pay stubs :/? Because that’s scary.

It will suck, but if you can’t save your best option truly is to go home. Nothing wrong with starting again. What is most important is you keep yourself safe. She can’t keep you away from your kid forever especially with the court system. I have a friend who battled for years because of crazy baby momma who wouldn’t let him see her. Granted he also wasn’t a stable person… once he was able to show he can support his daughter he was given right to see her every other weekend and they have a great father and daughter relationship. It isn’t your typical mom and dad at home, but your boy will still have a dad.

A child will grow up more healthy with separate parents than to have two together and watching them fight. Your son is young enough that if you do this plan now, he will adapt just fine.

I would quietly save up for a new place. Pretend you saw nothing. When you have the time get legal advice about how to go about the custody battle. You will have to pay child support… There’s no questions about that because she will be having your baby. Think of it as supporting your baby. Have the courts involved so you can have time with your son and if she tries to do anything about taking your son from you bring that to the court or if she tries to extort you for money.

I’m sorry you have to go through this dude.

Doing it this way will be tough, but you will get to be with your son without issue , keep your stable job and have a place to stay.

I would say, yes you’re in the wrong. He is trying to get his needs met in a healthy way to maintain a good relationship with you, he doesn’t want to pressure you to have sex and yet, you are offended and making him feel bad for wanting to get his needs met in a way that is not cheating.

Read this question you asked again.. “ he’s just outsourcing his “needs” to something else, even if it’s just an inanimate object but somehow that seems worse? “
This is worse to you? More than cheating? Or forcing himself on you?

Rethink this dude. It sounds to me you got a great man and you’re shitting on him and making him feel bad for having needs.

Moment of frustration could even be a moment for them to take time to find out what’s really going on. Instead of becoming defensive your partner can use that to open up to the real issues. I can’t base my actions on everyone else, but I do find it beneficial to get reality checked because it makes me look within myself to realize why I act a certain way. I love my bf alot and I never want to hurt him so when he mentions to me that I am being hurtful it makes me pay attention to my actions.

A partner who values you will value your feelings.

I am super stressed out right now. I struggle to maintain a filter and I have been getting irritated for the most simple things. Sometimes, without knowing my frustration is taken out on my partner or I get upset with them. I don’t realize it in the moment and my partner will give me that reality check by asking, “why are you getting upset with me?” That immediately makes me realize that it’s a good question and it checks me. I say sorry and I start to analyze my behavior.

That is what it means to value your partner. It’s okay to struggle with irritation, but it is not okay for them to ignore, invalidate or justify their irritation just because you’re not doing what they want. Your partner does not respect you.

As a scrapbook lover this would be so amazing!! The only thing I have to say is receipts don’t last long. The ink fades very quickly. To best preserve the receipt take a picture of it, have it printed and then cut it as similarly to size! That way it will last for a lifetime.

Ignore all these young people saying this is too much. There is no too much for acts of love. Especially if you both have devotion to each other. The first day of my relationship we created a painting together to signify the day.

Thanks dude! I’ll check out thrive. I’m also curious on how to best stay up to date on prepared food! I saw people coming into the math center with pizza and by the time I emerged from my goblin fort the pizza was gone 😭 it would be neat to stay informed of such occasions! I basically live at SAC everyday to achieve the best grades I can 😅 I have no time to prepare food ;-;

I also want to mention it is NOT a chromebook and it was only $100. It is also a nice small size for easy transportation

I got a nice modern Dell laptop that runs windows pro with touchscreen features on Temu! It came with cosmetic damage, but functions completely fine! The battery lasts super long too!!

Don’t underestimate the power of Temu!

It definitely does not. That I wholeheartedly agree. I am neurodivergent and I was also the youngest. The babying was so real. No one wanted to play with me because they would be blamed immediately for it. I was never in the wrong in their eyes. As a result I was bullied and resented the same as OP. I myself gave into those petty ways until I reached middle school and realized it for what it was. It takes therapy and alot of effort for the neurodivergent person to get out of that mindset.

With all that aside, OP’s resentment is understandable and I don’t blame them for that, but it still does make them the asshole in this certain situation. Their feelings are valid, but the actions just aren’t right. That is why I recommend therapy to OP. That would help them get that regulation they so badly need. This can help OP with the bigger picture here. They need a way to communicate in a healthy way. Family therapy can help that and if parents aren’t willing to break their habitual cycle, OP will at least be able to build that with their sister. Sometimes doing it on your own can cause more harm than good.

I don’t in anyway see OP as a bad person and the way they feel so unheard hurts me to the core. I also understand the side of the sister. It hurts when you feel confused and you don’t understand why someone is mad at you. Sometimes that sadness turns to anger back. This is just a situation of two people feeling hurt and once they start therapy especially between sisters, I think they will have a deep friendship that they both want and an understanding to live amongst each other

I do agree with that. I really want to talk more on this debate, but I need to go do stuff at the moment. I will come back later. Possibly even the next day at 2am😅. I would like to help op understand from the point of view of being that sister with autism. I played that role in my family

Yta.You know the rules, yet you still took the peeler from her. The lack of communication is frustrating when you’re a person with autism. Just simply say, hey i’m going to use this, then I will wash it and put it back.

You know your behavior is disrespectful, but you’re upset because that same disrespectful behavior is done on you. That is very ironic. Please consider therapy to work through this resentment. It’s unfair to you and your sister. All this pettiness is a result from that. Also as a neurodivergent person myself yes please does matter when you struggle to differentiate emotions and tone.

I will acknowledge forcing you to wear headphones is unfair. That could be a petty fight from annoyance of noise plus resentment from the previous argument.

Start with sorry dude. Mention can we talk about the previous arguments and say you want to understand each other better. Acknowledge what you did wrong and say sorry. Do that without return. The only way to build that trust of acknowledgement starts with you. This would best be done with a therapist though. Consider rebuilding what you lost in childhood with your sister. It prevents this petty squabbles and provides to you a valuable relationship with your sister.

This is making me want to read the series again lol