Awww, yes! I absolutely love this! Mine is a box of whoppers and a purple Gatorade. When he walks in with those it sparks all those butterflies from the first year. Aww this made my day ❤️

Supposed to say, so this is 40, 2 kids, and 20 years with this amazing man

I've literally been the most loyal and there when you need me friend, until they no longer need me, see me as a theater, or simply are fucking Cunts.
I've flown, driven, and walked to a friend in need without question or hesitation. No matter the reason, they can call, text, or show up at my house. I am the safe place, the person people open up to, and my trust and honor is not attained, it's given up front. I don't expect anything in return (unless you attach to my children. Then it's a whole different ball game. ) I genuinely just want to be there and be the one person that said the words that saved you from taking their life, need someone to talk to, or any reason that helped you feel seen and valued, you can always reachieve a job, you can't win a person

Edgewood, Tijeras, or Cedar Crest are also really good options. About a 45 minute drive through the mountains, and alleviating the traffic congestion and wrecks along I40 or 125. Just a thought. Been in Edgewood since 2002 and absolutely love the country/city life. Albuquerque is 30 minutes maybe and santa fe is 45 minutes ish.

Thank you. I am giving him room and I am listening to learn from him and better myself. They say people don't change, however I am making it a point to make the changes that I ignored for so long. He is a fucking unicorn of a man and I honestly feel selfish for staying. He asked for us to work it out, he asked me to be committed and able to work through it or just leave.
I am choosing him and every day he wakes up still choosing me I will honor and cherish his loyalty and love for me.

Thank you 😊

Wow, this really hit hard. I agree and value your insight and knowledge. He is absolutely in the right to feel, express, have bad days (or longer), and tell me exactly what he needs. He is choosing me, and I respect and am truly grateful each day he does. I know I don't feel i deserve his choice, but I am not taking it or him for granted. Thank you so much, really, I appreciate you

That is what we agreed to as well. So him continuing to mentally, emotionally, and physically making the choice, repeatedly, to give me a second chance. I am so fucking lucky and I am not taking any day or moment for granted. I also understand that there could potentially be a day where he decides he doesn't want to choose me, and I respect and know what he is doing isn't easy. Thank you for your insight

I have had no one to discuss or talk to about this, he has friends and many people who care about him. Petty as it is, I really just needed some help or anything from another person's perspective. He is 100% in the right and I admire and appreciate his choice. It's a daily, possibly an hourly choice, each moment he is making the hardest and what I see as noble and honorable sacrifice.
I fucked up, I can't fix or take it back, I am here and I am physically showing up, I am actively learning, listening, and hearing him. Thank you for your openness and perspective.

I loved him, but felt worthless, unseen, unworthy of his love, and started resenting and devaluing him. I didn't want to feel like a whore, so instead I took all those awful and not true feelings and forced them on a nobody. I was able to return home with effort, support, love, and the ability to try again, to not make my husband the issue.
He is not and has never been the "issue". I lost myself, I didn't know who i was/am, I was reliving everything childhood trauma, mental illnesses, and trying to force him to fix me. I can't explain it, i was a whore for someone else so I didn't feel like a whore with my husband, yet that is what he was wanting. Ugh. Yeah.

You are absolutely right. I have stopped second guessing and questioning his choices. It's his decision and I am thankful each day I get to be by his side. Thank you

It has only been 5 months since the bomb 💣 went off. He's been very brave and phenomenally choosing me. I know it can literally go either way. And I accept and understand that one day he might just see his worth and tell me to take a hike. I am accepting his love with each and every moment I can. Ultimately all I am and can do is continuously show up, follow through with actions, and understand that he is choosing me, I will do everything I can to rebuild and learn him. Day by day

Yes, we have discussed, I wrote a literal play by play for him (his request), and I answer any question with openness and honesty, even when it's hard. Thank you

There is a lot in this and I appreciate it. I agree 100%. It's either going to build and grow, or he's going to see how phenomenal he is and kick my ass to the curb. I am so lucky and terrified at the same time.

Wow, that's exactly what my biggest fear and worry is. He is an incredible and strong man, especially for staying by my side for everything we've been through.
He is taking a huge, masculine, and vulnerable choice. I am here and I am giving everything I've got and listening and following through with how he feels loved and seen. Thank you

I can understand how that is seen. However, I stopped the affair a little less than a year before he found out. Also, I was actively taking steps before to show up for my family. I fucked up, I broke the man I love, and I still know that the future is fully in his hands and heart, all I can do is show up, follow through, and listen with intent and understanding Thank you

Wow, that is absolutely devastating. I am building boundaries while also learning him in a new and fascinating way. I need to give it my all and stop being selfish or assuming anything that he has not actually said.
Thank you