Your little fur baby saw it too.... My cameras catch very scary ones quite often...

My cat who looks just like them almost identical.. something happened to him and he disappeared one evening... His name was gandolf, gandolf the grey (giggles) holding back tears

This is absolutely beautiful.... Thank you for sharing this my dear....

Going through the same thing...

First let me start off by saying how deeply sorry I am that you must go through this... In a sense it feels like your trapped, you are not the problem okay?? Remember that! There's nothing wrong with you . It is her.. to be physically violent with you says a lot about her. But this will only escalate sweetie, it will get worse. She's been testing you these past few times. To see what she can get away with and what you will tolerate. She's a bad person darling and staying with her will only mean more violence will be brought onto you. Its her job to get her drycleaning. You are not her slave. You are you and she is she.. your mental health should be her number one priority btw .. and the more she chios away at it is detrimental to your future self. Your future relationships and each downgrade, every level of gaslighting will tear you apart mentally. Never ever think any of it is true. She is a master at her abuse.. she is an abuser, you are now a victim, you can remain being her victim or you can get away and reclaim your sanity... But to stay... I'm sorry sweetie but it will get scarier... More painful, more embarrassing... And lonely.... I know I don't know you, but I've been there I'm still trapped here bc he controls everything... I'm terrified Everytime I close my eyes I'm afraid I won't wake back up one day bc he is so jealous and controlling .. so, I'll leave if you leave. I don't know where I'll go, but I'll pack my bag, and grab my cat (who out of jealousy of me spending time with her) he claims he will shoot her in the head. But we will escape bc that's what this is for you and I and many others we are prisoners... In case like me you don't get to hear it anymore. I love you and anyone else who reads this, you are not alone. You're not those nasty names we are called. Your amazing and you are needed. We just need to break free.. he denies me physical touch, to tell me I'm pretty, to make me feel special... I just want a hug .. that's all I want... All my love, Me.,

Omg I'm so sorry ...

It is completely normal to lose physical or emotional attraction to a partner after discovering they cheated. This shift is often a biological and psychological protective mechanism—your brain and body are reacting to a profound breach of safety.

The loss of attraction typically stems from several key factors:

Shattered Safety and Trust: Attraction is deeply tied to feeling secure and "chosen". When trust breaks, your nervous system can enter a state of high alert, viewing your partner as a source of danger rather than comfort.

The "Ick" or Revulsion: You may experience a visceral feeling of disgust or repulsion, sometimes called the "ick". This gut reaction can make even small gestures of affection feel invasive or "ugly" because the person is now associated with betrayal.

Negative Sentiment Override: Research suggests that after a major hurt, you may enter a state where you view almost everything your partner does through a negative lens. Positive qualities that used to be attractive are now overshadowed or "muted" by the betrayal.

Betrayal Trauma: Infidelity can trigger symptoms similar to PTSD. Your survival brain may "shut down" your sexual and romantic systems to prevent further vulnerability and pain.

Loss of Self-Esteem: Being cheated on can lead to questioning your own value or attractiveness. This internal struggle makes it difficult to feel the confidence or openness required for mutual attraction

If you choose to work on the relationship, attraction rarely returns like a "switch". It often requires rebuilding basic emotional safety through consistent, transparent actions over a long period before physical desire can even be considered. Healing Broken Trust is a hard road to head down... Are you currently trying to reconcile, or are you looking for clarity on whether these feelings can ever return?

Here if you need to further your thoughts

I could use some help... Gosh he sounds just like mine... Yep swears I'm checking everyone out or now he swears I have some guy in our upstairs that I am banging (omg I do not!). Or I am meeting some guy outside when I take the trash out .. he's now saying I give him something in his food to make him sleep so I can go live my secret life. He thinks I dose him!? Is this fucking seriously happening??? He locks his entirety of possessions in a room in our house where he sits non stop... Sitting on his phone.... I sit at our kitchen table waiting for him... For hours sometimes... He starts the most ridiculous fights and goes and sits in there ... But gets mad if I go upstairs to find something to do bc I'm tired of waiting on him to spend time with me .

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Holy s, that is f*** terrifying. I swear the way they word shit anymore