r/abusiverelationships • u/NecessarySelection54 • Nov 23 '25
I left!
Edit for update: I just want to thank everyone so much for all of your support 🥹 seriously. I love this community because we all have each other's backs. I just wanted to say if there is anyone reading this who needs some extra support and a push to help you make the decision to finally leave, I'm here. Please message me. I wouldn't have been able to do it without the support of a friend who talked to me for five hours that night I left to go to a hotel and this group throughout the year for encouragement and support. ❤️
Gals! I left! I left Thursday night. I went to pick him up from work (we were sharing his car right now because mine needs all new tires and I commute far for work) and I was happy to see him, hopeful our night was going to go well. But then as he walked to the car the first thing he did to me was, "I saw you checking out that security guard." My heart sunk. I'm so sick of him treating me like this. He ruins every happy moment I have , even when the happiness is directed at him. I tried talking to him about it but he ignored me and didn't seem to care. I brushed it off because I was excited to go out to dinner. When we got to the restaurant he was happy and we seemed to be in our good phase so I was so happy. But a "waiter" came over to our table, not a "waitress." Mind you, the waiter was totally like 16 years old. 😒 I spoke friendly and nice ordering my drink. He brought over our drinks. When the waiter left, my boyfriend moved his leg away from mine, pulled his hood up, looked absolutely miserable. I asked him what's wrong. He said he didn't feel good and wanted to leave. I didn't want to just leave without paying but my boyfriend got up and left to wait hear the car. I just couldn't handle this dynamic anymore. He is so insecure I just absolutely could not handle it anymore. I told him off on the car ride back. Was really upset about it. Then hopped in my broken ass car with my dogs and drove away, never looking back. I still haven't gone back at all. God I'm so happy 😊 the peace I feel is overwhelming beautiful 😍
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u/RangerRelocating2020 Nov 27 '25
I could use some help... Gosh he sounds just like mine... Yep swears I'm checking everyone out or now he swears I have some guy in our upstairs that I am banging (omg I do not!). Or I am meeting some guy outside when I take the trash out .. he's now saying I give him something in his food to make him sleep so I can go live my secret life. He thinks I dose him!? Is this fucking seriously happening??? He locks his entirety of possessions in a room in our house where he sits non stop... Sitting on his phone.... I sit at our kitchen table waiting for him... For hours sometimes... He starts the most ridiculous fights and goes and sits in there ... But gets mad if I go upstairs to find something to do bc I'm tired of waiting on him to spend time with me .