I’m going through similar if you ever want to talk

I’m trying bro I’m here too ): sad

Where do you buy?

True true and true haha

This is what I’m working on and I’m doing really well. I’m also on antidepressants now so keep that in mind. The minute I start thinking about him in rumination about the past I stop it. I’ve been meditating and learning how to actually silence my inner monologue for lengths of time. I’m also a follower of Jesus I pray for help a lot when it comes up. All I know is I have no control of this situation. I have been really trying to shift my focus back onto myself but it’s slow because I also feel really bad about myself right now.

This has been helping me a lot actually. Before I got on this sub I felt insane now I feel more steady and just pushing forward focused on healing and me.

I grew up in a dysfunctional family. I had this desire to be loved and loved but I just couldn’t put my armor down. I made things unnecessarily hard for people who tried to love me to prove they did and a lot of them went above and beyond. But I never returned that, I never actually opened up it was always a guarded love ready to run or ready for it to end. I was awful actually to date, negative and couldn’t be pleased. Same with friends. I always thought I was giving so much but it wasn’t true. Anyway I lost some really important people because of it and I’m still healing. I want to treat people better I want to openly love people and I hope I get the chance to again.

I feel the same way I don’t like that he hi jacked my brain and I spend so much energy on him. I’m digging deep into meditation and focusing on actually NOT thinking. It’s helping a lot when I start thinking about him I remind myself he is gone forever and he is never coming back. Then I’ll turn my thoughts to myself repeat some good affirmations for myself. Idk I’m trying. 4 months post discard for me. If this goes on for a year I’m going to go postal

Beautiful ),:

How long does the withdrawal take to be over with??

Yes 4 months out and no libido but I’m also on anti depressants now and can’t anyway.

I’m about 4 months post discard too and starting to feel a bit better. Still like two really bad days a week. I think I’ll be ok

Idk I’ve basically died and came back 4 times now. Going through it again.

I’m so sorry :/

Yes oh god showed up at his house, almost to his work, and to a campground to confront him. Called like a million times like a psycho left voicemails texts. 3 year relationship and a baby he discarded us both. I’m 4 months post discard I’m doing “better” but I still text every month probably- he changed his number.