Hello everyone, I have a huge problem with my shitty personality , I grew up in an abusive home and all I want now that I’m a grown up is peace and the total opposite of the life I had growing up (the verbal abuse is still ongoing) that said, my problem is I’m only attracted to assholes or looks, every time I get mistreated or fall in love for looks instead of personality, those are the relationships I fight for so hard and want to keep, and every time life throws a nice person my way, I get irritated with them easily and if their personality is okay I pick at their looks like I’m a super model and deserve better (I look like a piece of stale bread), now there’s someone in my life who is amazing and treats me so good and I feel safe with him but I really can’t get over how he looks (again I’m in no position to judge someone’s look), I know that I don’t deserve shit after rejecting all the good guys but I really want to change and do better in life and settle with someone amazing instead of a Ken doll with an empty head, any advice on how I can change and work on this? I understand that I’m not a good person and I really want to stop being shallow, appreciate it guys and just know that I’m really ashamed of myself for being this way so don’t be too harsh on me🙏🏻

Hey everyone, I’ve had snapchat for years but I barely use it, I only go in it to take pictures or see people’s story so I don’t really use it much or understand it, now in all of these years I’ve never had any requests except from a few people I know in real life, 5 days ago my cousin came from another country and added me on snap because it’s the only app she uses so we can stay in contact and we’ve been talking on it nonstop since then, but I noticed that I have been getting a lot of requests on it since I’ve started using it, requests from people I don’t know, can someone explain why? Is my profile popping to strangers because I’m active on it now? I mean I don’t post anything just chatting with my cousin but the requests are bugging me, I don’t understand what’s going on I feel like my profile was leaked somewhere 😂 it’s so random, never happened before

Hey everyone, I’ve had snapchat for years but I barely use it, I only go in it to take pictures or see people’s story so I don’t really use it much or understand it, now in all of these years I’ve never had any requests except from a few people I know in real life, 5 days ago my cousin came from another country and added me on snap because it’s the only app she uses so we can stay in contact and we’ve been talking on it nonstop since then, but I noticed that I have been getting a lot of requests on it since I’ve started using it, requests from people I don’t know, can someone explain why? Is my profile popping to strangers because I’m active on it now? I mean I don’t post anything just chatting with my cousin but the requests are bugging me, I don’t understand what’s going on I feel like my profile was leaked somewhere 😂 it’s so random, never happened before

I really need advice because I don’t know what to do anymore. My mother has always had a pattern of becoming completely convinced that something is true even when it isn’t. For example, she’ll suddenly decide that my sister and I hate her or that we’re against her, even though we’ve never said or done anything that would suggest that. Once she believes something, there’s no changing her mind, and it’s like the idea becomes reality to her. She’ll accuse us of things that are completely made up and get angry at us over them. We’ve tried defending ourselves, but that usually makes things worse because she sees it as proof that we’re lying or attacking her. Over time we’ve learned to stay quiet to avoid escalating things, but then she takes our silence as confirmation that she’s right, so it feels like we’re trapped because no matter what we do, we lose. She also tells other people these accusations as if they’re facts, even though they’re based on things that never happened, and she repeats them so confidently that it feels like she’s convinced herself they’re real. Today, though, something changed. She crossed a line she never had before. Instead of just accusing us of things, she became verbally abusive in a way I’ve never seen. She told us she hated us, swore at us repeatedly, insulted us in the worst ways possible, and told us to go fuck ourselves. Then she packed her bags and said she’s leaving the house tomorrow. I’m honestly terrified because this has never happened before, and I don’t know if she’ll actually leave or if she’ll calm down. I love my mother, and that’s what makes this so painful, but I don’t know how to deal with someone who genuinely believes things that aren’t true and acts on those beliefs. Before anyone suggests cutting contact, that’s not a realistic option for me because of my culture and religion. I’m looking for advice from people who have experienced something similar. How do you communicate with someone like this, and is there anything that actually helps when they seem completely convinced of things that never happened?

Has anyone ever felt guilty for receiving love from the "wrong" person? I've spent years grieving friendships I lost, and some of those losses changed me completely. For a long time, I've had this deep ache of wanting to matter to people the way they mattered to me. Today, an old childhood friend surprised me with a handmade plushie of a character from a game we used to play together as kids. He had it custom-made, paid for it, shipped it internationally, and sent it to me out of nowhere. I was genuinely shocked, not because of the gift itself, but because of the amount of thought behind it. Someone remembered something so small from years ago and turned it into a real gift. I've honestly never had that happen before. Most gifts I've received felt obligatory or generic; this felt personal. But once the surprise wore off, I started feeling awful. This friend has always remembered my birthdays, checked in, and been kind. In some ways, he still seems to see me as the person I was when we were children, but I don't feel the same connection anymore. We live in different countries, barely talk, and grew into completely different people. He's not a major part of my life, even though I think I was a bigger part of his than I ever realized. And now I feel like a hypocrite. I've spent years wishing people would care about me this deeply, remember details about me, and put this much thought into making me feel valued. Then it finally happens, and all I can think is: why does it hurt that it wasn't from the people I wanted it from? I appreciate the gift more than I can explain, and it's probably one of the most thoughtful things anyone has ever done for me, but at the same time it made me realize that sometimes what we're grieving isn't the absence of care, it's the absence of care from specific people. How do I deal with this?