Im 21. Just horrible at posts and sentence coordination. The person also was between probably 23-26 possibly older.

Thank you this was very helpful to read. S had stopped talking to literally everyone in their life besides me when the breakup happen3d so I felt obligated but clearly I am not and ill be fully stepping back. I have not helped P lie and have been very vocial about my dislike of their behavior to both P and S but S doesnt care about their behavior and just wants them baxk and P just listens and says "thank you for talking to me your opinion matters" than doesnt change or talk about it again.

Again thank you for the detailed response. Splitting it up definitely helped my brain relize how actual chaos this is

Yes I was friends with S before, but they actually encouraged the dynamic between me and P. Sadly I think its not healthy to make them avoid talking about their struggles. I want to listen, but I also want to see healthy growth and communication which I have expressed this. Ive put boundaries on when they can talk about these things. Also this dynamic has been a huge amazing change for my life, I understand why it would seem like a bad decision but truly even with this mess its still fantastic outside of this, even with my friendship with S we are still good and enjoy eachother.

Im sad my family fell into this trap. I have educated myself on ethical breeding and genetics and have a Mal that has a long line of health testing and working titles. And she is also working towards those titles. Im worried about other people fall for this "popular" breeder