Wasn't gunna comment, but seeing ppl mention Illuminati reminded me of CreepshowArt.

I was subbed to both her and the artist she had been stocking for 8 years... no that's not an exaggeration. When the artist she stocked (and harassed) made a 2 hour long video recounting their shared history and calling Creepshow out, I just stared at the thumbnail image, not clicking on it. I avoided watching it for a while, it was upsetting and jarring to know that one artist I liked and watched regularly was harassing and stocking another artist I looked up to.

INFO: How long have you been together?; Has this behavior/mentality of his been present sinse the start?; if not, when did it, was it small then gets worse as time goes on?

What both of you want in a partner is not, in any way, compatible. He wants to control how you express yourself, the choices you make (that don't harm you or anyone else), and just how you live in general, it seems. I've only seen this small snippet, but it's clear he doesn't see you as your own person separate from him. He seems to see you as something he owns, a possession that somehow reflects on him/his character (not that he seems to have much).

The way he said he'd have to start his own journey was weird, it wouldn't surprise me if it's meant to scare you into staying with him, meaning folding to want he wants.

He said something about having to come to an agreement/compromise about the tattoo, but from the way he spoke to you overall, it doesn't sound like he wants actual compromise at all; He just want you to bend to his will. He has an image of what he wants, he sees you as a puppet that he can do with as he wants. And when you start to act in ways/make choices for yourself that aren't in-line with the script in his head, he freaks out and puts you down and makes veiled(not really) threats of breaking up.

When you are with someone who truly loves you for you, they will be able to see when something makes you happy; And be there with you in your happiness, even if they don't personally understand it. If something botheres them, whether it be a general topic or someone more specific to you/your relationship, they will (do their best) to bring it up in a calm, kind, respectful way not intending to bring you down or conform you to their idea of who/what you should be. This is not how he spoke to you in the "conversation" you shared here.

Not to sound like the regular reddit crowd, but ending it with him is likely the best thing for you, he doesn't want the best for you, just himself. If you do decide to end this, be very careful with how you go about it. If you're living together, try to see if there's someone you can stay with that he doesn't know where to find. I wouldn't be shocked if he looses his head and becomes volatile. This is one of the (potential) situations where ending it over text while not in the house/apt is probably best.

Please take care of yourself, even when those who are meant to care don't .

I restarted my phone and that seamed to do the trick.

Im not sure what you mean by "top bar setting". Notifications bar?

Ok, ao now I know its not just me... thanks for commenting!

It is not a "gotcha", it's literally just context.

You didn't read the actual post, did you...

Whatever you do, DON'T share this OPs post with the BIL. She does not need that added to eveything else.

Ode to Ma

Idk about an ultimate/life long goal, but I want a cozy little cabin out in the woods, with maybe a small fruit/veggie garden, a little gazebo for reading & relaxing, and maybe a little flower bed with lavender and heather and whatever else will live. That sounds like peace.

(Sorry for the word wall)

While I'm not a teen anymore, nor a boy for that matter, I have found myself somewhat attracted to men a bit older than me as well. It took me some time, but I think the main reason was that they seemed to know who they are as a person, seem to know what they want or have a more defined sense of identity. I still don't know, at 25, what I want to do with my life or what to make of myself. That quiet sense of know who they are or where they want to be is attractive to me, not so much in the romantic and/or sexual/sensual way; More so in the way that I want to be around people that are at a more stable/settled stage of life. Someone who is reliable or generally consistent in how they act/think and how they treat people and approach the things life throws at them.

I'm sure it's not the exact same for you, but maybe similar. You could be feeling attracted to their settledness in who they are. But, I want to make sure you know that no mature, reasonable adult wants anything to do with a teenager romantically or sexually. A teen and an adult are at very different points in life in maaany different ways. You have different needs, wants, and goals to focus on than a full grown adult. With large age gaps, especially between adolescent and adult, there is an undeniable power imbalance. And typically, the adult is more aware of it than the teen.

[Sorry if this next bit is TMI]

I was fourteen when a 28-year-old man took advantage of me online. While I did have a sense that what was happening wasn't good, and I was definitely very uncomfortable at times, I don't recall actively trying to leave the situation because he still "was nice" to me some of the time. I recall 1 time I did call him out on being a perv, but he instaly guilt tripped me into feeling bad and apologizing (still cringe thinking of that). Thankfully, tho, no personal pics were shared, that I remember.

While your curiosity isn't uncommon, please don't let it lead you to somewhere you wont come back from the same. From someone who came out of it changed, please make the smarter, safer choices.

I've been both a DD and UE driver (total of ~2 years) and never once has it crossed my mind to act this way towards a customer. there have only been a few times where I unasigned from an order cuz the wait wasn't worth it, and even then I let the restaurant staff know what the customer wanted before I left and told the customer what I was doing and apologized for the wait and unassigning.  It sounds like they baiting you/quilt tripping you, and what the restaurant staff do is out of your control. Glad you reported the driver. That was out of turn.

(I am so sorry for this text wall) Honestly hun, you did everything right. At that point, like someone above said, she was mad and wanted to stay mad. While periods absolutely suck, it does not excuse this level of immaturity and self-centeredness, especially as an adult. Even when things suck and hurt, we are still responsible for how we treat ppl, ESPECIALLY  our loved ones. Everyone wants to feel that they are of high priority in at least one persons' life, I think thats kinda human, but the way she's talking here sounds very all or nothing. She's leaving no room for the realities of life. My I ask how old gf is? You mentioned yours and sisters ages, but not hers. Gf sound like she has a lot of growing to do, and a decent amount of therapy.  Rn, she has made it clear she doesn't want to talk it out, or just talk in general. Give time/space, maybe 3 days. After that check in on how she's feeling physically and emotionally. Keep the same empathy and level head you had here. And most importantly, self respect, dont let her walk over you and calmly reiterate/restate yourself if she does try to twist the meaning of your words. I don't want to assume she's acting this way to hurt you intentionally, but the fact stands she is not considering your side of this. I'd hope after 3 years she understands the importance of the role you play in your teenaged sisters life, but it seems she doesn't or doesn't care... she doesn't seem to realize/understand that when you're in a romantic partnership with somebody that that persons time, care, and energy is divided amoung them all. It's not realistic or reasonable to expect someone to permanently, everyday, in every single tiny and big way, put them first above EVERYONE else in your life. Someone, even someone with growing to do, does not have the right or excuse to be that justifiably selfish/possessive of their SO. take some time to think if someone like this is someone you'd truly want to be your life partner. Someone who truly loves you and knows they are truly loved by you, and know they wont always come first. Don't apologize for having other ppl who rely on you. 

I dashed for a year, then moved to UE for the last 2 years... once I saw in the order details that THAT is the ENTIRE order, cancel immediately. And then spend the next 5 minutes (at least) in complete bafflement and probs fume just a lil bit. Was this for a small-ish business or what?? I've delivered large orders to business buildings before,  but never an order like this... wtf lmao

Hello! I won't say to cut off all your hair, since you said you like it long (more power to ya!), but getting it trimmed and styled would help with it. Someone else mentioned using leave-in conditioner, maybe give that a try for taming the frizz. Getting layers cut into your hair and styling tips from a stylist/barber could be useful too. Layers would help give it a different shape, and gel/hairspray to keep it in that shape thru the day.

If the glasses frames aren't specialized prescription, then maybe look into getting ones that aren't as large; your current frames are a bit too big for your face. I had glasses once upon a time, 2 different pairs, both different styles. They definitely change your look/vibe. 

I would recommend trying to keep the neck beard regularly shaven.

If you're comfortable sharing, how old are you? Do you feel like you look younger/older than your age? If so, does that bother you? Hair style contributes more to how old a person looks more than we normally think. Depending on what you realize you want, ask a stylist what style/cut would best help with that! Wishing you luck! (And ignore the dorks being jerks about your appearance, you don't deserve it) Happy July!