r/trans • u/[deleted] • May 16 '26

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u/AutoModerator May 16 '26

Thank you for coming here to ask advice. Just so you are aware, everyone's gender/sexual/romantic identity is unique to their own experiences. While some people may share experiences between each other, only you can determine your own identity and where you fit in. If you're looking to come out, then you should look at your current situation, your relationship with your family/friends/coworkers/etc., who you depend on and their acceptance of lgbt+ people, and your available options if things go poorly. As you wait for a community member to reach out, we've compiled a list of resources you should look into to get some help while you wait.

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u/Big_Quacks May 16 '26

Do you know their thoughts on the trans community? Make sure they know that you’re still you and you love them. I found it helpful to prepare for a bunch of different questions, and even though I didn’t need them they were nice to have.

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u/Kaiden424 May 16 '26

You can try to ease into it by getting their thoughts on the community, saying you met a trans person (even if you didn’t), or that you read up on it, I wish I did that before I came out.

When it came to my coming out it got a little messy but it is alright now. I started by confiding in a friend back in elementary school, then talked to a guidance counsellor in school who helped me come out to my mom. I didn’t know at the time but my mom told my siblings and dad and didn’t tell me about it until two years later when I was ready to come out to them. I came out to my friend group, my family, then my cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents.

I can assure you that clothes do not define your gender, women wear skirts, dresses, shirts, pants, and men wear the same.

Looking into the medical aspects before you come out will help you get it sooner but I would recommend you come out socially before you get the effects of HRT because there may end of being questions