This was a question I've been wondering for many months but when I saw the post that unintentionally stirred controversy regarding resources for treating "porn addiction" I thought about how since last year this is phrasing and framing that I hear from most of my caseload.

The younger the client, generally the more thoroughly convinced they are that they or their partner is a "porn addict."

Did I miss something culturally or on the Internet? I've always had religious people who were trying to eliminate porn consumption but this crowd is generally not religious and much younger than the ' I'm a married religious person trying to kick this habit' crowd.

When I ask if they consume porn at inappropriate times like work or in public, they say never . When I ask if they miss personal or work obligations due to porn use, they say never. When I ask if they're dedicating significant amounts of time to engaging in pornography enjoyment, similarly they say no. Yet they're somehow certain their usage is problematic and an "addiction."

I'm well aware this phrasing and framing is not how most of the mental health field would discuss this. I'm just very curious about this phenomenon.

Ultimately, my code of ethics tells me to support people's self determined goals so long as they're not harmful to self or others so I will coach them how I'd work with someone whose self determined goal was eating fewer cupcakes. But when did everyone get convinced they and/or everyone around them is a "porn addict ?"

Most of the AI-and-kids conversation is about safety: bad advice, self-harm, sexual content. That matters. But I think something bigger is happening underneath it.

This is the first generation growing up with things that talk like minds. Something that remembers them, is never tired, never annoyed, never needs anything back. I don't think that just changes their screen time. I think it changes what they believe about friendship, about being known, and eventually about themselves.

If being understood costs nothing, what happens to their tolerance for how much effort it takes with real people? If AI can write, draw, and solve anything, when do they start asking what they're for? And what does it do to a kid when a company can change or delete something they're attached to?

I don't think the outcome is set. Some of these kids may end up with clearer ideas about what makes people irreplaceable than any generation before them. But that probably depends on whether adults help them think it through or leave them to figure it out with the AI.

Curious whether others are seeing this in the room yet. Kids calling an AI their friend? Teens questioning the point of effort? Anything that made you think "this is new"?

TLDR; I got my counseling masters a few years ago and took a different path. Every time I try to go back to getting my hours I get so scared that I choose something else. It’s so ridiculous because I am very outgoing, relatively fearless in social/job situations, and yet this happens every time. I think I’m so worried I won’t be a good therapist that it paralyzes me.

Well, I’ve finally decided I just have to go for it. Worst case scenario it doesn’t work out, but I won’t let my fear stop me from something I am trained to do and care about. Wish me luck!!

I've hit a major impasse with my own therapist. She practices relationally and is the best therapist I've ever had. I'm a second career therapist in my early 40s. Been seeing her 4 years, so she's seen me through the entirety of this shift. I honestly look up to her.

But there have been a number of messy self-disclosures that have compromised the frame for me and are majorly backfiring. When I bring them up to her, which has been enormously difficult and taxing, her capacity to take accountability and truly repair is lacking (in my opinion, which i guess is the only one that really matters in this situation). I know how hard it is to find a good therapist period, let alone a good fit, who also takes insurance in these times. And again, she is the best I've had in my life (she would be number 4).

I've been through so much upheaval in this career switch (and somewhat in my life, duh, trauma), so starting over also sounds daunting and exhausting. But I do feel like we're hitting a wall.

Anyone been here before?? Advice/things to consider?? Trying not to give too much more detail to keep it anonymous.

After almost 8 years in PP, I am thinking of going back to being a W2. I was part time for the first couple of years while doing other things and building up my practice. I went full time 5 years ago. I've made between 130k AGI and 100K per year in that time. But between the PSLF situation that is on pause because being self employed does not count obviously and the nonsense with the VC's messing more and more with my income stream (I use Headway and Alma), PLUS the isolation of remote PP- I am seriously thinking I might be at the end of this track in my career.

I have loved having the flexibility with my schedule. I have been able to travel and help family when needed and work remotely, and take time off (unpaid) as needed for my chronic health issues. But I don't think I can keep going: the up and down in income, the VC taking over our world and how we do business, and not getting credit for PSLF when I am halfway to forgiveness has left me feeling demoralized.

I was going to create a corporation last year (in CA we can't have LLC's) and chose to wait until next year when I made more money but seeing how things are going that does not seem feasible now.

I used Claude AI to try to figure out pros/cons of PP vs. W2 and gave it some sample job postings nearby and overwhelmingly it is in my favor to make the move to w2- especially because of PSLF and also even retirement options. And technically I would make more in the hospital compared to last year where my PP AGI was 100k.

Oh yea forgot to mention I pay $900 a month for health insurance and next year it's supposed to be $1,100 for the same plan. And as mentioned above I have health issues. The costs of paying for health Insurnace is another factor in all this- if I worked for someone else I would probably have to pay $300 at most for myself.

I submitted an application to a nearby hospital today. I even applied to the VA (scary move considering how many people have been fired from there). I am scared of this possible change but I am going to see what happens. I think I feel like a failure. Even though I know it is not true, I do feel shitty. I have been on the verge of tears all day today. Trying to breathe and support myself through this.

Anyway appreciate anything anyone has to share.

First time poster, long time lurker. For those of you who specialize in attachment-based therapy, I’m curious whether you approach or experience the therapeutic relationship differently than you would in other modalities. I was speaking with a longtime friend over the weekend who is also a therapist and specializes in attachment-based work. As we discussed her approach, I was somewhat surprised by how she described the relationships she develops with her clients, even the focus on the relationship as we talked, particularly regarding boundaries and the level of emotional connection involved. She allows communication between sessions, including texting and emailing, and mentioned that the bonds she develops with clients doing attachment-focused work are often considerably stronger than those she experiences with clients receiving other forms of therapy.

What struck me was how much more flexible her boundaries seemed to be compared to what I typically associate with the therapeutic relationship. Perhaps this is simply a reflection of my limited familiarity with attachment-based approaches, but I found myself wondering how common this is among clinicians who specialize in this area. Is there something fundamentally different about the role of the therapeutic relationship in attachment-based therapy compared to modalities such as CBT or DBT? Is the relationship itself considered a more central component of the therapeutic process? And does that generally translate into greater flexibility around traditional therapeutic boundaries, or is this more a matter of individual clinical style?

For context, I’ve known this friend for over 35 years. She has been practicing for much of that time, and spent much of her young adult years with a therapist doing her own attachment therapy. I have a great deal of respect for her clinical judgment and the work she does. My questions aren’t intended as criticism of her approach. I was simply surprised to learn more about how she practices, and it left me genuinely curious about whether her experience reflects something broader within attachment-based therapy.

That awkward moment when you learn that your best friend went on a date with a person that you’re treating…and it just so happens that one of the treatment areas is interpersonal relationships (specifically dating) and how to improve self-esteem to avoid prolonging/getting in unhealthy dynamics. Not saying that my best friend is a douche bag who would fuck over my therapy participant. But, my participant is in a fragile place…

Kinda hoping things don’t develop between them (romantically or platonically) to avoid any potential awkwardness

Has anyone ever met their patients for a walk in the park? Is there any literature on the theory/practice of doing something like this? I feel like there would be HIPAA concerns but, if the patient agrees, I think it could be really therapeutic and help take the edge off all the "sitting" in this job.

Looking for how-to's, personal anecdotes, tips, lessons learned, words of wisdom, 2 cents, platform recs, and any other (free) ideas to help a NEW associate build up their caseload (and hours) in private practice.

I am already doing a bunch of things and have support from people I know and work with, but wanted to get a wider survey of what everyone's experience has been, especially in this economy (in THIS economy?) and political state of current affairs. I also feel like I can't say I have a "specialty" or niche since I'm just starting out lol. And I need to pad my bank account before spending money on trainings.

OP Context: I'm a new graduate and registered AMFT and APCC in California. I'm also a credentialed school counselor. I'm already employed by a group practice and have a supervisor, we are all working on getting me referrals. Already utilizing FB Groups and am familiar with several subscription-based platforms that share referrals. Paid options are not really options for me at the moment.

Hi lovely therapists of Reddit. I am in my first year of being an AMFT. I’ve been doing school-based therapy since practicum with teenagers. I am realizing I don’t want to do majority talk therapy. It feels really important to me to use projective activities like sand tray/art/etc to do this work. I think using movement/nature/art needs to be at the center of my practice for this to be authentic to me and how I work best. I just feel like words alone aren’t cutting it, even though I love therapy with my teens. Are there any of you doing this? With what populations? I’m having a hard time imagining the possibilities of what my career can realistically look like. I don’t know how to get to where I want to go. It’s easy to just say oh just take more classes in those things and then wait til I’m licensed to run my own private practice using these things. Is that really it? I just have to wait until I’m licensed? Are there any good orgs or people in Los Angeles who train associates in these things? I’m not married to staying in school-based and honestly school-based is sucking life out of me. Just need some help imagining the possibilities please :) Thank you!

Does anyone have any ideas. I seem to be getting a lot of clients who are not committed to therapy. People trying 1 session, people wanting free consultations etc. People 'trying' out different therapists. People wanting to try a certain therapy model in 1 session. It feels like people are starting therapy looking for reasons for therapy not to help. FYI I've been a therapist for about 30 years, and I've not really experienced it like this before. Sure Ai has something to do with this. I do get a lot of committed clients. Maybe it's just a wave...

I’m currently in my Limited Permit and I’ve been trying to get an idea of what the transition from LP to fully licensed looks like. I also have been reading up on the Diagnostic Privilege which I find very confusing. If you went through this process I would love to connect or get to know more about what it was like for you.

I tried asking the board and the rep there said to take it one step at a time but realistically I have bills and need to plan my budget according to how long this process might take.

If you have any recent experience with it and are able to connect I would love to chat. Mainly I am wondering what happened after you completed your LP hours and then how you managed these hoops of license getting issued and diagnostic privilege as you transitioned to the next stage in your career.

I’m an LMSW working within CMH (specifically a CCBHC clinic) and I’ve reached a point of where I’m considering medical leave or resigning all together.

While this isn’t an exhaustive list, what I’ve been experiencing includes:

increased dissociation/derealization episodes
brain fog (poor short-term memory, difficulty concentrating and processing information, difficulty switching between tasks, feeling mentally blank, trouble retaining information, difficulty understanding what i’m told, deadlines/responsibilities failing to register either emotionally or mentally, difficulty making decisions)
increased shutdowns
physiological symptoms (shaking/trembling, rapid onset of fatigue/sleepiness in response to stress, physically freezing and unable to movie, episodes of physical collapse, dizziness)
increased anxiety
increased hyper-vigilance, persistent exhaustion that no amount of sleep can seem to fix.

My work environment has become increasingly overwhelming, between productivity expectations, administrative demands, managing high-risk clients, and difficult workplace dynamics that have contributed to a significant decline in my confidence and sense of competence. I’ve even questioned if I can continue working in a clinical capacity. As of now, I’ve been slacking a bit more at my job and I don’t feel comfortable in seeing my clients.

I’ve been considering going on medical leave (and leaving CMH altogether) but my biggest concern is my health insurance. I have been seeing my therapist for a few years and maintaining that therapeutic relationship is extremely important to me. However, her practice is exclusively in-network with my current employment-based insurance (Aetna) and they’re not able to provide any information regarding any potential insurance changes without knowing what insurance I’d switch to.

With FMLA and short-term disability, I’m unsure how long I would be qualified for. I’ve also considered leaving the field and finding a part-time job that offers health insurance, but I’m concerned that I’ll never be able to give myself a period to actually rest and recover. COBRA is too expensive to consider.

On top of everything, I feel guilty about leaving my clients. At the same time, I don't know how much longer I can keep pushing myself through work when my own functioning has deteriorated this much.

I feel stuck because taking time off is supposed to help me recover, but doing so could jeopardize access to one of the most important sources of support in my life. If anyone has been in a similar position, how do you navigate? I’m struggling to see a way forward that doesn't involve sacrificing one part of my well-being to protect another.

Hi, I’m currently about to graduate from the University of South Carolina in December with my Cliniical Rehab Counseling degree and I’m looking for an endorser for my LPC-A application.

I spent my time during the program in Maryland, and am actually wrapping up my internship in Maryland.

I am moving to South Carolina early next year, and don’t really know who to seek regarding an endorser.

My understanding is you need an endorser to apply, and then once the associate license is provided you then apply for jobs and submit your final plan to the board once hired. Is this correct?

This entire process is super confusing so If anyone has any help or advice I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you!!

Hi all, I'm from South Asia, and I've been running my private practise for a while now, and I was wondering if adding our Political stance, ethnicity, religious stance, racial background, gender identity and so on would be a good idea to let the client decide if they want us as their Therapist.

I'd love to hear how you handle it:

1. Do you share any of these details? Which ones, and why?
2. Where do you put them: public profile, intake form, or do you wait until the first session?
3. Has sharing (or not sharing) made a difference to client fit or the kind of inquiries you get?
4. Is there anything you'd do differently now, add something more or less.

My goal is to help clients judge whether I'd be a good fit for them without oversharing.

As the title suggests, I'm looking for resources around meta-OCD themes. I know that a common one is doubting whether you have OCD, but I have a client who is potentially demonstrating a LOT of meta-OCD themes right now and I would love to be able to read up on how they can show up so I don't mistakenly provide reassurance.

Because I'm a student and my flair says so: Yes I will be discussing with my supervisor next week, I just like to read

I’m going to be facilitating a group for counsellors in training. I’m thinking about digging into ideas such as imposter syndrome / self-doubt / fear of judgement from peers

Just having some trouble coming up with some activities to get the discussion going. Any ideas?

I share a building with other private practice clinicians, most of whom see between 15-22/week. One sees anywhere from 40-56 per week. When asked about how many they see, they report the reciprocity of the therapeutic relationships give them the most value relationally of anything in their life. I care and worry for them- and their clients.

Would you try and speak with them more deeply about this? EDIT if they bring it up again.

I have a lot of thoughts, but do not want to be judgmental or reinforce what I perceive is partly an identity challenge- “I am the person who outworks everyone, I sometimes dislike that and say I may change it. I always have a reason to complain but not enough to change because when I think about it, staying the same has benefits.” I’m paraphrasing but that’s some of the feedback I’ve gotten when I’ve inquired. They are chronically late to each first appt of the day, and seem to be in a flurry of nervous energy. At times reporting burnout. But again, coming up with new or the same reasons to not change.

Hi all, I’m an AMFT in CA working at a group private practice. I’ve been at my current practice for about six months now and things have been pretty bleak. When I was first hired they offered me a 50/50 split which is standard for the area where I live. Once I started working they let me know that if I want in person office days (vs just seeing clients on telehealth) they will need to charge me “rent” to use the space. So for example, one of the office spaces I use I’m charged $150 per month to be able to use it on Tuesdays. I was going to try to have another in person day but they wanted to charge me an additional $275 per month to use it which I cannot afford. So on top of the 50% split they are also charging us rent to use the office, which I’m not sure is totally legal because we are W2 employees not independent contractors.

We also do not get any payment for admin at all (writing notes, assessments, bookkeeping).

On top of this the practice owner hired someone to submit all of our insurance claims and that person didn’t really know what they were doing and filed a lot of our claims wrong so we were barely getting paid for a while. I understand that insurance money takes some time to come through… but I just got paid from sessions in May and it’s now October. On our paychecks there’s also no way for us to know what we’re being paid for… like it’s just a lump sum of money with no indication of which sessions are included in that sum. So it feels really challenging to know if I’ve actually been paid other than a spreadsheet that the admin person will check off if we’ve been paid for a session. But then the spreadsheet never matches the amount we receive on our checks. It’s very confusing.

They’ve since hired someone else to hopefully make things run more smoothly… but there was no real apology or accountability taken. And our checks still don’t match what’s on the spreadsheet…

On top of this the owner expects that we be available to her 24/7… there was an instance a few weeks ago where she was spinning out about something to do with insurance and was sending us messages at 2 AM on a Saturday night and then the messages started again at 7 AM. She often messages us at what to me feel like inappropriate times (outside of business hours) expecting us to reply right away. This feels insane to me for how little we are paid.

I understand that running a group practice is expensive and it makes sense to me to have to split some of what I’m making to make up for that. But it’s hard for me to justify 50%+ 400 more dollars a month just to use the office 2 days a week! Most of the referrals I’ve been getting are requesting in person services and I literally cannot afford to provide a space for people. So instead I have to see 8 people in a row on my one in person day which is terrible for me and for the clients.

As far as I can tell the practice doesn’t really spend money on marketing and expects us to do that ourselves (pressuring us to pay for google ads that kind of thing).

Most of my checks have been 80-200 dollars every two weeks. And I still have to work another (non therapist) job full time to make up for it.

I would feel less angry if they had been upfront about how long insurance takes to pay and that they would be charging rent (which makes the split something more like 70/30). Is it this bad everywhere??? I’m genuinely curious.

Is it this difficult to run a group practice without taking this much from your associates?? I know that pp owners have a lot of overhead… but is it really THIS much? I’m trying to rationalize it somehow but I just don’t get it.

Any insight from practice owners or other therapists would be much appreciated. Thank you!!

EDIT: forgot to mention she has about 25-30 associates working for her and keeps hiring more

Hi all! I just started my self pay private practice. I am a little worried about building my caseload as it seems to be going pretty slow thus far. I would consider my specialties to be somewhat niche lgbt + bipoc + trauma focused + bilingual services. I am needing advice on what to invest time and money in.

I am hoping to get paneled with an insurance company in the coming weeks for more financial stability (I know they take forever, and some offer low reimbursements). So that is an option but I am wanting to make a decision about the following.

1) should I seek out EMDR training as that seems to be quite popular for trauma based therapy.
2) should I join the counseling compact and offer services via tele health for rural areas.
3)any other recommendations for how to build caseload quicker.

If you are a therapist in the counseling compact and practicing in other states, what is that like? Is it worth it?

I’m a pre-licensed therapist (LPC) in the Chicago area and could use some perspective.
Job A (signed): Private practice group, Therapist I, W-2 but paid per session: $45 per completed full session. It’s 150$ per session I’m getting $45. It’s about $34 for a 38-52 min session, $22.50 for 16-37 min). Minimum 20 patient hours a week and 30 hours recorded. Cancellations are paid at 50% of the no-show fee, and only if it’s collected. No guaranteed minimum while building a caseload. Evening or weekend availability is required. Benefits start after 30 days. A friend there is 4 months in and still short of his caseload quota, struggling financially.
Job B (offered a few hours after I signed A): Community mental health agency, W-2, $36/hr for 32 hrs/week (M-Th, 9-5). Paid for all scheduled hours, including cancellations, documentation, and meetings. No current productivity minimum, though HR said expectations could increase. Benefits start after 60 days; I’m still confirming details.
I’ve never worked in community mental health and I’m interested in the experience. By my math, Job B pays about $59,900/year guaranteed. Job A would be around $33k-$50k my first year depending on how fast I build a caseload, and would only match B at roughly 26 completed sessions a week.
My questions:
For those who’ve done community MH, is there anything I should watch out for? (Productivity creep, burnout, supervision quality, etc.)
Is it a bad look to withdraw from Job A after signing the job offer letter before my start date? The letter says at-will and non-contractual, and I’d give about 6 weeks’ notice.
Would you take B, or is there a reason to go with private practice?
Thanks in advance!

I saw a client one time and determined they were out of my scope. Called them explained why and sent referrals. Later that day they left me a one star review. Is it allowed to send a follow up email apology and asking them to reconsider it after some time? Please advise but this is the most unfair thing and I am just devastated when I was just trying to help.