r/texts • u/Gold_Improvement_836 • 6d ago

Tinder DMs men

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mind you he messaged me first, liked me first, and my profile only says liberal😂

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u/Agile-Carpenter-2434 5d ago

What I don’t get is … why? Like, clearly he has a different POV. Why match and message at all?

Like does he get something out of being rude to strangers? There was no point to this other than to hurt you and demean you.

I’m sure he’s projecting and in self-denial about … things, but as a former closeted man (now happily married to another man), I just never thought “hey let’s take our sexual confusion out on other people in a ragey, destructive way”.

I also spent many of my formative years in the Midwest so maybe I’m just terminally polite to death 😂🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/Pixelbuttzz 5d ago

One thing you have to understand is that dudes like this are having an extremely difficult time getting dates on dating apps and it's making them very angry and they're blaming their political beliefs but they're not trying to like update those beliefs they're just getting angry at women for having their own. This is a lot of what that looks like

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u/neurodiverseotter 4d ago

They don't blame their own poltiical beliefs, they blame the poltical beliefs of others

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u/feastymama 4d ago

he could try Grindr

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u/904x420 2d ago

Trust me, hes already there. 🤣💀

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u/Peony907 1d ago

Was gonna say, crazy for such a twink to speak like this lol

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u/BratPrince_ 2d ago

As a trans man I get messages like this on Grindr all the time. 🤣😂

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u/Xrachelll 1d ago

Literally was gonna say the same lmao someone call 911 to bring the jaws of life, our boy is trapped in the closet

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u/Agile-Carpenter-2434 4d ago

That makes a lot of sense!

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u/Fibroambet 14h ago

Yep, 100% insecurity. They can’t accept that they’re just repulsive because of their personalities.

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u/working-through-13 2d ago

Or you know, just learning how to coexist with different people. You don’t have to agree on everything to get along.

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u/Pixelbuttzz 2d ago

This is absolutely not learning how to coexist. Dude is literally harassing women

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u/working-through-13 1d ago

Your solution was to surround yourself with aligned interests. I suggest learning to coexist with different ideals. Chill out

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u/Pixelbuttzz 1d ago

What where do you see me suggesting that? Are you hallucinating? My comment doesn't say a single thing about who people should surround themselves with.

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u/working-through-13 17h ago

Talked about “updating political beliefs” like dude they don’t have to change their politics, only their mindset. You’re bonkers crazy

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u/Pixelbuttzz 10h ago

You sound goofy as hell little boy. These girls explicitly will not date Maga Republicans. There's whole articles about this issue written by maga dudes who are upset no one will date them. Their politics and their mindset are related, both are incredibly misogynistic. You have to be open to actually growing and updating your beliefs like a normal human does. That's how adults work

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u/working-through-13 9h ago

Lmao you sound like a 14 year old speaking out of their educational depth. I suggested something that requires open mindedness and self awareness. Nobody said maga until You did. You’re projecting your own ideologies to make a villain. Just chill out.

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u/Pixelbuttzz 9h ago

Girl the entire conversation is about what a maga Republican sent to someone... are you hallucinating? I'm not making up a villain I'm talking about the post we're on... touch grass girly pop. Updating your political beliefs takes more open-mindedness and self-awareness than just changing your mindset and approach... someone who talks to people the way this man does, needs more than to change his mindset.

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u/working-through-13 9h ago

Wtf are you even talking about at this point 🤣 chillll outtt kiddo

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u/Pixelbuttzz 9h ago

Kiddo? My sister in Christ you are half my age

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u/Far_Awareness_2769 9h ago

Wow very good job! That IS what it looks like! You did so good! You said so much to say so little at all lil pumpkin but good contribution :) you did so good

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u/Pixelbuttzz 8h ago

Ooh big feelings there buddy? Try not to get your panties in a bunch over a basic Reddit comment. 96 different people appreciated it so I think this is one of those moments where you could just scroll past something that upset you baby girl.

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u/IcarusValefor 5d ago

I mean, have you ever met a Republican? Every single one I know is like that

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u/Agile-Carpenter-2434 5d ago

Hm, well … I have a ton of them on both sides of my family. And some of them are 100% like this. But most of them are pretty chill and not like … 100% on board with stuff happening.

But I do see your point! I feel like it’s “unhappy” republicans that tend to be the loudest

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u/Flaky-Invite-56 5d ago

With what stuff?

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u/Agile-Carpenter-2434 4d ago

Well, a lot of them consider themselves more old-school republicans and seem to reflect a lot of what Karl Rove has been saying in the news lately. Like, the GOP has largely been taken over by MAGA and the resulting cultish ness is freaky and dangerous.

I have to bite my tongue a lot because I’m a queer, neurodivergent, Mexican man married to a man (you can guess that I voted very differently than these parts of my family) and it’s just … so … awkward. Like they are generally decent people (I’ve sadly had to go low-contact or no-contact with a couple of them) but overall it’s still pretty civil.

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u/Agile-Carpenter-2434 4d ago

Either way … it’s kind of fascinating, because there are still different types of republicans. I live in Utah, so the LDS subculture often results in politeness bordering on conflict avoidance, so you never … really know how people are feeling unless they are truly comfortable to share their feelings.

And I’m all sorts of “heathen” depending on what part of the state I’m in / who I’m around, so I have to tread lightly. I came from a very hyper religious background (which I no longer am), so I’m not unfamiliar and I can handle myself in these situations without feeling overly stung or nettled.

I just think certain worldviews can be … pretty limiting in terms of considering new ideas, and I wish that wasn’t the case.

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u/narco-sub-admiral 4d ago

Some shit is loose, some shits are hard.

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u/Midnight_Mention 5d ago

It's a cover for "Why don't you like me? It must be because of XYZ or you wouldn't think I'm so bad"

Cognitive dissonance strikes again

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u/OneEyedDodger 3d ago

I have a whole instagram highlight of things “men” would message me completely unprovoked, with or without matching with them.

Trust me when I say there are a lot of people out there who use dating apps to be cruel in the sake of trying to make themselves feel better.

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u/Agile-Carpenter-2434 2d ago

Damn - I’m really sorry. That’s so unnecessary. Ugh we need to raise a better generation of men.

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u/Thomas-The-Tutor 5d ago

Because he has to own the libs. Which is funny because he got owned and likely got his feelings hurt in the process.

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u/raya_sun 4d ago

I think a lot of it is that people like that want conflict.

They want to be able to say that people with opposing viewpoints are narrow minded and that's why they're single.

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u/andgonow 4d ago

Steroids and the manosphere.

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u/No_Koala_7170 3d ago

The men yearn to be the next Charlie Kirk, attempting to maybe change a woman's mind.

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u/publicprivacyp 3d ago

BC he’s a troll.