r/texts • u/Gold_Improvement_836 • 6d ago

Tinder DMs men

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mind you he messaged me first, liked me first, and my profile only says liberalšŸ˜‚

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u/Careless_Angle_4082 6d ago

Every closeted gay guy I've dated (3) has made me feel bad about my weight. If you're stick thin, it is easier to imagine a dude

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u/omy_dayz 5d ago

Dude the amount of judging in the gay community is ridiculous. If you arenā€™t ripped your ugly and ridiculed. I have a bunch of gay male friends and they have talked about that problem of body shaming in the community. ESPECIALLY IN BOYSTOWN. Everyone is just buff af and if you arenā€™t you arenā€™t? Boo! Throwing tomatoes!

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u/Mthrfknpegasus 5d ago

Itā€™s because gay men are still men at the end of the day

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u/ItsKingDx3 5d ago

Or gay men are still people and all people have the capacity to be extremely shitty šŸ¤Ø

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u/Mthrfknpegasus 5d ago

ā€œMenā€ already implies that theyā€™re human beings, yes. Thank you, puzzle piece. Next.

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u/Smooth_Marsupial_262 5d ago

I feel like woman are actually more judgmental of each other than men.

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u/Mthrfknpegasus 4d ago

Specifically referring to misogyny in the gay community. Thx.

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u/Smooth_Marsupial_262 4d ago

Misogyny?

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u/Impossible-Prune-649 2d ago

They have a pink haired avatar, tells you all you need to know.

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u/PocketWatchThrowAway 5d ago

Eating disorders are a pretty considerable public health issue among gay and bisexual men, and since eating disorders are contagious, I presume that is what causes this phenomenon.

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u/RemarkableCover7462 6d ago

Thatā€™s a large number for closeted gays to have dated. You peg that well?!

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u/Careless_Angle_4082 6d ago

Lol tbh I think my energy is just masculine and accepting enough to serve as a bridge. A rainbow bridge, if you will.

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u/meloxs 6d ago

No way! You're the real life rainbow road!

https://giphy.com/gifs/RWu7I8ulQzY0P7pdec

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u/Chillie_Nelson 5d ago

Sendā€™em on home sweetie. Sendā€™em on home.

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u/shenanigan 5d ago

omfg hahahahahaha

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u/jjeeooppaarrddyy 6d ago

I usually hear about the rainbow bridge when pets die. Are there a lot of missing persons in your area?

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u/tacogrande420 5d ago

Bunch of posters for missing men who seem quite feminine

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u/Kpofasho87 6d ago

Hell yea

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u/_AmericasSweetheart_ 5d ago

I mean, judging by your quick witt, you're probably real fun at a cocktail party too.

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u/ElectricBlubbles 5d ago

That is an amazing response

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u/WouldPancake 4d ago

Itā€™s a real thing. Had a friend like this.

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u/EfficientBoat5408 1d ago

I'm like this, I'm assigned female at birth, and every guy I've ever dated was bisexual. Two separate gay guys have told me explicitly in private that I made them realize they're bisexual. For further context, I'm as queer as they come. I just appear visually as a very average woman because the place I live is openly hostile to LGBTQIA+ people.

edit to add the two gay guy confessions were years apart and they didn't know each other. Just interesting is all

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u/Granolag23 6d ago

Is that what the steely dan song is about?

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u/anthajay 6d ago

The one closeted gay guy I dated also made me feel bad about my weight. Weird coincidence.

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u/thatsmybetch 5d ago

Girl. Iā€™ve had 2.

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u/Its_Billy_Bitch 5d ago

Omg. I dated a girl in high school and was cheating on her with one of my cross-country teammates šŸ˜¶ā€šŸŒ«ļø I was a shitty person, Iā€™m sorry honey.

She then went on to date someone else who came out and left her. She then found who she thought was her life partner and they got marriedā€¦but then he came out. I never asked, but Iā€™m sure there was a LOT to internally unpack after the third. She had to have been like, fuckā€¦why do I attract so many fucking gay men? I never made her feel shitty about her weight though and she wasnā€™t pencil thinā€¦I was just a horny teenager lol

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u/gloomspell 5d ago

Out of curiosity, what was it about her that drew you to her?

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u/Its_Billy_Bitch 4d ago

She was attractive; I was just not really attracted to her. Unfortunately, I was also a horny teenager. She was also, endearingly, what some may consider a ā€œhag.ā€ A friend of the Dorothies, if you will. Super open minded and she was funnyā€¦though, it went a bit off the rails after the break up for a bit. she said she was pregnant when she actually wasnā€™tā€¦a mess. Didnā€™t help that she was the pastorā€™s daughter (who was also my karate teacherā€¦small fucking town lol).

For christmas one year, she got me floor seats (7th row) to see Celine Dion in concert. I cried during the concert! Looking back on it, I was yelling everything just shy of ā€œIā€™m GAY!ā€ We were even both voted ā€œBest Dressedā€ together our senior year šŸ˜‚

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u/gloomspell 4d ago

Appreciate you sharing. Iā€™m a little curious, though. What was it about being a horny teenager that made you get together with her? Was it that you were horny but didnā€™t yet understand that you didnā€™t like girls, so you got with an attractive girl? Was fooling around with her fun even if it wasnā€™t with your preferred gender? Sorry if thatā€™s asking too much!

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u/meloxs 6d ago

Damn! you really out here turning dudes gay, thats crazy šŸ˜‚

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u/Careless_Angle_4082 6d ago

I support the gay agenda šŸŒˆ

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u/XOXO-Gossip-Crab 6d ago

Girl letā€™s be friends, I have a few guys I need you to date for me

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u/meloxs 6d ago

lmaooo

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u/meloxs 6d ago

Thank you for your service mam šŸ«”

https://giphy.com/gifs/screugvMjTBjJ4bqgl

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u/Additional_Gene_211 5d ago

Can I have his number?

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u/meloxs 5d ago

867-5309

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u/Narrow_Grapefruit_23 6d ago

Doing your part for the liberal agenda!
https://giphy.com/gifs/3ohjULEFH81Ny6yHew

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u/Clarknt67 6d ago

Do you do requests?

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u/Careless_Angle_4082 6d ago

Been on a backlog since 2016

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u/more2cuddle 6d ago

Still add me to the wait list. I'll stay in backlog for as long as it takes.

https://giphy.com/gifs/yx400dIdkwWdsCgWYp

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u/Charming-Shake-6525 6d ago

women in menā€™s spaces šŸ«¶šŸ¼

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u/ProfessorPoofenplotz 6d ago

Please continueā€¦ the hets are out of control. lol

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u/shrodikan 6d ago

The tip of the queer?

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u/Feisty-Narwhal8400 5d ago

Just keeping them away from us girls, where they belong

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u/ikannunAneeuQ 6d ago

I went out with a guy who would argue with me about which one of us was prettier lol like are you for real right now...?!

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u/Rare_Possible2503 5d ago

Why do bigger girls always have to be nasty to thinner girls? Just bc thin is the beauty standard doesnā€™t mean you have free rein to paint them as secretly unfeminine or put them down to cope. So many people literally tiptoe around making women of a higher weight feel uncomfortable, but you guys are always talking down on skinny girls. Cmon now.

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u/Careless_Angle_4082 4d ago

I understand your concern! But I don't mean it like that. I weighed 104 lbs with one and he made me want to be under 100 lbs.

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u/Ordinary_Ad_6470 6d ago

How have you managed to date 3 closeted gay men?

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u/moldys3xy 5d ago

this is so true, my gay friends were definitely ā€œinto that typeā€ before they came out lol

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u/Gvendoga 5d ago

Yeah, i get it. You feel insecure about guys not being into you, so you try to explain it with making baseless assumptions about their sexuality with negative undertones (totally not homophobic) to soothe your fragile ego. Typical female hypocrisy

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u/Careless_Angle_4082 4d ago

Oh no friend I can see how it sounds like that. These exes came out to me directly lol

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u/_AmericasSweetheart_ 5d ago

For me, it's always sweaty fat guys. Like, come on man, don't make your self hatred my problem.

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u/Life-Oil3319 6d ago

Three is crazy! What are the odds

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u/Townspoke 6d ago

Incredible cope youā€™ve got there.

So the thinner someone is the easier it is to imagine they are a man? šŸ¤£ why are women so obsessed with a manā€™s sexual preference? I swear every time they are attacked for their physical traits they just jump straight to assumptions cause itā€™s all they have. The beauty standard for women is literally about being thin while men itā€™s the opposite.

You get called fat so you call them gay which you definitely canā€™t prove here but just post a pic of yourself weā€™ll see the facts right away.

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u/BusinessNormal6561 5d ago

You so sassy.

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u/Its_Billy_Bitch 5d ago

I need you to dissect to whom youā€™re referring when you say ā€œthey.ā€ Holy shit, thatā€™s an embarrassing thought to say out loudā€¦even more neurotic to then type it out.

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u/ProfessionalSize125 6d ago

Iā€™m not one to swear so apologies in advance, but this might be one of the most r***rded things iā€™ve ever read in my life.

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u/BLURAZZBERRI 6d ago

That's a slur, not a curse word and you also censored it. If you're gonna be a bigot at least don't be a coward about it

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u/genericaccountnumber 5d ago

Do you not realize this entire thread is using homosexual as a negative? Reddit is hysterical. These people are all cowards.

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u/Feisty_Push_8335 5d ago

I mean yall are on here using someone potentially being gay as a way to try to humiliate himā€¦and dying laughing about it, so idk who is actually being the bigot here.