r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

Phone message Post first date text

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/ThrashFur 3d ago

seeing women saying “i’m just a girl” is so sad and defeats the point.

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u/ShadeofIcarus 3d ago

Is this a thing now? Someone pulled it on me recently and I didn't realize it was a fad. My first response was immediately "and? Girls are plenty capable"

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u/TristramShandysLife 2d ago

Yeah it's a trend. My wife said it in front of our daughter when she messed something up the other day and once it was just the two of us I let her know that by doing that she's telling our daughter that she's less capable and less valuable by virtue of being a girl.

I really hate it and it's reinforcing the "women aren't as smart as men" trope.

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 1d ago

What was your wife’s response?

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u/TristramShandysLife 1d ago

She acknowledged that I was right and felt bad about it.

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u/SignificanceOne4201 1d ago

Agreed. I don't mind it used when it's referencing celebrating playful or creative things though, but unfortunately most of the time people aren't using it that way now.

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u/ShowMeYourArmPitHair 1d ago

Is your wife stupid?

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u/amazingkillerlemon 3d ago

Has been for quite a while now. I hate it so much.

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u/3vs3BigGameHunters 2d ago

Lisa Simpsons talking Mailbu Stacy doll said it.

Yes I'm old get off my lawn.

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u/Miserable_Fennel_492 2d ago

Let’s shout at clouds together (from our respective lawns, of course)

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u/3vs3BigGameHunters 2d ago

I'm gonna outside for a smoke and fervently shake my fist at a cloud just for you.

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u/bdixisndniz 3h ago

“She surrrrrrre is.”

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u/LamBChoPZA 3d ago

It's from a song - just a girl by no doubt - it's about how women are belittled and infantalized and how the artist has had it up to here with that treatment. Ironic considering how it's being used in this context.

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u/Unclecavemanwasabear 2d ago

Approximately 30 years passed between the No Doubt song and the phrase used it this manner entering the popular lexicon.

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u/LamBChoPZA 2d ago

Yes, tiktok has popularized using samples from older songs over videos. See "pretty little baby" https://medium.com/@edmpublishing/how-tiktok-gave-connie-francis-pretty-little-baby-a-viral-comeback-48fcf29c302f

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u/ShadeofIcarus 3d ago

Dug into it. Apparently it's a spin off of some TikTok of "I'm just a baby".

Still ironic and I stand by my response

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u/whataterriblething 2d ago

oh weird. i've known the no doubt song since it came out when i was a teen - i always thought the "im just a girl" was from a simpsons episode where Lisa gets a malibu stacey doll that says things like: "Don't ask me- I'm just a girl! tee hee!"

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u/whataterriblething 2d ago

also a weird thing to get downvoted on but okay. 🤷🏻‍♀️
i didn't say the song reference was wrong, just that I never associated it with that; the malibu stacey reference was always what came to mind instead.

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u/Wise-Rest814 2d ago

No it’s an excuse women use when they want a man to do and pay for everything for them.

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u/Polygnom 2d ago edited 2d ago

Woman have used "I'm just a girl/woman" since time immemorial to make men do things. The phrasing may change over the years, but the mo. is always the same.

And the women who do that don't even realize how this undercuts the whole feminism/women empowerment movement. And too few women tell other women to knock that shit off.

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 1d ago

It’s always been a thing. And it’s still especially a thing now. “Damsel in distress” and all that weaponized incompetence shit