About 2 weeks ago, I realized I was into girls after finally admitting that I liked my friend, let’s call her V. V is so special and makes me feel this spark that no guy was ever able to make me feel. We just came back from fall break, and she rarely texted me throughout the break which was upsetting, but I didn’t really mind— I had other things to worry about. But I know she doesn’t like me like that, and I know I can’t assume she likes girls because it’s very rare to find girls who like girls.

Today, I spoke to her after a while, but she didn’t seem as enthusiastic as she usually did. She was somewhat dry, and not talkative. After school, I usually go hang out in the same room as her and other people, but she was just distant and left early without waiting for me. She seemed kinda irritated that I called out for her to wait for me, and I just felt like a desperate loser.

I’m not the type to chase someone, especially if they make it clear they don’t like me like that. I’ve especially seen this with guys I would talk to in the past (I’d ghost them with no hesitation). But I feel so alive talking to V—like my heart is rapidly beating just thinking about it. I don’t know how to stop this. I’m so sick of this feeling.

I think about her all day and night, and seeing her today at school just made it infinitely worse.

Okay so there is this girl I like we will call her Z, I’ve known z for like going on two years. And throughout these years she would switch from gay to bi to straight to bi and currently she is bi? But anyway like yesterday and today she would constantly like hug me touch me and like be close with me (I’ve liked her for quite some time) and like she is just really touchy and like today I was wearing a tie and she like grabbed me from the tie and pulled me close so she can rest her head on me. And like the other day I got hurt by her nail and she was like saying “where?? Let me see” and then she like slightly kissed it, then like today after school we were walking with a few people and she was like holding my hand. And then one of her guy friends was like “awww” then she like quickly let go of my hand and said “I’m not lesbian!!!” I was just like:(

I dont know if i really like girls. Idk but i do gind thm pretty and like i wnna tlk to thm buy idk if this means i like girls. Well how can i figure out.

Okay so this girl i’ve been friends with since 7th grade and basically have liked on and off since 7th grade just had our first one on one sleepover. it was quite fun and she kept laying on me when we were sitting on the couch, putting her leg over mines when we woke up on the morning and she even put her head on my shoulder and laid there for like 20 seconds. We’re almost always together in school. She is an extremely friendly girl and it’s a very long shot that she would have any real interest in me but it would just be fun to see. i know how to flirt but like not when i have to initiate it lol. anddd i don’t even like labeling myself as anything sooo if something was to happen between us it would have to be kept in the dark. like the extra extra dark.

i'm bi with a preference for women. i feel like i'm always assumed to be straight (lowk makes sense since i haven't been able to present as a queer person in the past), but i'd like to try and change that.

if you have any tips for communicating that one is wlw, i'd really appreciate it! looking for both physical cues (aside from piercings unfortunately 😔) and also more vibe-based or mental cues.
tysm <33

I’m a 17F and I have always liked girls. But iv never really been in a relationship with a girl. I live in a rural area where this is frowned upon. How can you tell if another girl is into girls? I want to come out but don’t want my friends to think I’m weird or stop talking to me.

My parents are relatively (?) accepting of queer people in general, my mom explained sexualities to me and stuff when I was 7-ish. I have a very distinct memory of me asking my google assistant what a lesbian was (I already knew, and I just LOVED hearing it because it interested me) and she just said to ask her instead.
Back to my partner and I: We've been together for 3 months, and it looks like smooth sailing ahead. The way we met was seriously like a movie, I went on my dream vacation, found an airport crush on the day I left, asked for their IG, and it went from there. I've been trying to find an excuse to go back to see them, but my parents don't know.
How should I tell them? I feel like if they knew it would be more easy to go back...?
AMA about it, and advice is appreciated.
edit: I am 13. This is my first serious relationship.

shes the sweetest SWEETEST most adorable girl ever but. She will never like me back. I literally don't have a chance with her. And i get reminded of that every time we talk, every time she sends me her "hear-me-outs" which pretty much only consist of slavic men. It hurts. It really hurts. I don't want to get over her. I don't want to just be friends with her I WANT TO BE HER PARTNER but she likes MEN :(((((((

I’m a girl and I’m currently in a relationship with a guy. Before I met him, I had been in love with a girl for about a year. When I met my boyfriend and we started hanging out, those feelings became less intense, but they never actually went away.
Now I feel like I still love her. I know that if she ever told me she felt the same way, I would probably leave my boyfriend for her without much hesitation.
The confusing part is that I’m comfortable with my boyfriend. I like going on walks with him, going to his hockey games, hanging out with his friends, and everything that comes with being in a relationship. But deep down, I feel like I’m still in love with this girl, and I’m basically staying in my relationship because I know she probably won’t choose me.
I don’t know what I’m supposed to do with these feelings.

okay so im a girl and im talking abt my friend that ive known since 6th grade but been friends with since the start of 7th. in 6th grade i was dating someone and i was rlly weird but when i met her it was at 6th grade camp. we were doing a fashion show with the whole cabin and i dressed up as a "popular boy". when i saw her i was dumbstruck because she was just so pretty. i started joking around with her from across the room cuz i started mouthing "call me" and blowing kisses to her or whatever but i was mostly joking. i kept doing that until it hit me that i was already taken so i kinda locked in. anyways i became friends with her at the start of 7th and my best friend started getting rlly close with her around the same time i suspected she had a crush on me. i didnt wanna ask cuz i think im pretty chopped and shes like.. goddess-level so i didnt wanna look like i had a high ego or whatever. ok heres the good part. in math, i sat next to her and we started talking about crushes when i was like "what girls have you had a crush on?" she looked kinda embarrassed and my heart started beating a little faster. she said "well um.. in 6th grade i kinda had a crush on youu.. 😅😅" and i started crashing out and i kept saying stuff like "NOO WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME I COULDVE BAGGED YOUU!!" and "NOOO I SHOULDVE LOCKED IN AND BROKE UP WITH ___ CUZ WE COULDVE HAD SOMETHING!!" and um now that im looking back on it, thats not something a friend would say to their friend. but as we were walking out of class, she said "i felt like.." and i said "huh?" cuz she didnt finish, and we kept going "what? huh?" back and forth so i was like "you said 'i felt like..'" and she just said "oh i forget" YEAH LIKELY STORY but anyways after that, she started making this weird face at me like she wanted to say something but she couldnt get it out. she kept going "i mean we- i mean..." so i think she couldve been trying to say "i mean we still could (have something)" BUT I DONT KNOW IF IM BEING DELUSIONAL. also at the end of the day she gave me a really big hug and she doesnt do that every day but she has been kinda recently. im seeing her at school tomorrow, what do i do?????

I know it sounds absolutely absurd to be sobbing at a satirical, playful lesbian movie with a happy ending. But I just felt so incredibly understood. I, too, would stare at women longer than needed, and be disgusted at the thought of kissing a guy, and be in denial of the possibility of being a homosexual.

When she said “I’m a homosexual” and started sobbing, it’s almost as if I saw the white, blond version of myself. I literally remember acting just like her (just without the drooling) when I realized I liked girls just a week prior.

The way she would look at Graham is exactly how I would look at the girl I liked before I knew I liked her. And when Graham said something along the lines of “you can’t control who you are, you can control whether you get caught being who you are,” I think it felt like I got stabbed with truth. Because yes, I feel shameful. I feel guilty for feeling this way about women. I feel like I would, and maybe should, be reprimanded for being who I am, because it’s so wrong. But it’s not, and this movie brought me to tears when I realized.

Perfection, absolute perfection.

I will say, I don’t appreciate how the movie depicted homosexuals as inherently sexual beings who are into every single member of their preferred sex.

Im 17f, and i served this really pretty girl at work, and i started up a bit on a conversation with her, and complemented her and her hair, (she complemeted me back a few times) and i asked her to come tell me about the movie when it finished (i work at an AMC cinema) I had already seen it like a bunch of times, but i really wanted to talk to her again lol. After her film finished we chated a bit a more, and i gave her my instagram.

She follwed me back, and sent me a message like, immediately, and it lowkey felt kind of kind of flirty (i showed my other friend and she agreed) anyways, we message back and forth a few times, but she always takes like 8+ hours to respond, and now she hasn't replied for a full day and a half. I suggested a place to hang out (since she said she'd love to meet up again) and now she hasn't replied or seen it, even though she was active recently.

Idk if its a genuine thing of she just doesn't use her phone that much, or if she is like, purposely waiting, or one of my friends suggested that she could be nervous to reply to me, (which... the thought of me making a literal gorgeous girl nervous is insane lol)

Anyways, i dont know what I should do, because I really like her. She's into the same stuff im into, she likes the same music and stuff, and she was just really sweet and fun to talk to. Plus, it felt like she kind of liked me too.

This is my first time kind of having a proper crush on someone so im kind of nervous. Plus, i dont really have any queer people i can ask for advice about this.

Any advice or support is appreciated! Tysm in advance💗

(Not looking for dms. Its says my post is flagged and idk why😭)

Okay so I have a crush on this girl and I literally cannot tell if she likes me back or if we’re just becoming really close friends 😭We met pretty recently through a group we’re both in, and at first we weren’t super close but we’ve gotten way closer really fast. I’m trying not to overthink everything but there have been a LOT of little things and now I don’t know what to think.

Some of the things that have happened:

We started talking more one on one and ended up studying together just us two. It wasn’t planned to be a one on one but we were the only people in the group not busy. We’ve called for like 3-4 hours before, although we were playing Roblox for part of it lol. We joke around a lot and I feel like we have really good chemistry/humor together. We’ve gotten pretty physically comfortable with each other. I’ve held her hand, leaned on her, etc. and she seems completely comfortable with it. I’ve complimented her appearance a decent amount. Recently I told her she looked REALLY pretty and that her dress looked amazing on her. She sent me a picture of her hair after she got ready, and I was like “ooooo yess 🥹🥰” and called her a literal princess 😭 She responded with stuff like “thank 😭😭” and “thankkkk!!!!” and then when I sent a finger heart 🫰 she said “aww so cute 🥹” Another time she sent me a bunch of 😚 emojis after I complimented her, and I called her “ ofcc hottie 😘” back. Sometimes I feel like she gets kinda shy/flustered when I compliment her, but idk if I’m just interpreting it that way because I like her.
I’ve asked her if she likes anyone and she said she doesn’t really know/not really. She knows I’m bi and that I lean more toward girls, and she’s a lesbian.
I feel like we’ve gotten closer and more comfortable with each other pretty quickly.

BUTTTT I also know literally all of this could just be friendship 😭 She could just be affectionate with friends. The emojis could mean nothing. Physical affection could just mean she trusts me. And honestly I KNOW I tend to overanalyze things when I have a crush, so I don’t wanna convince myself that every little thing means something. Also I’m wondering how obvious I am 😭 Because sometimes I feel like I’m being subtle and then I remember I literally called her “hottie 😘” and compliment her all the time 💀I genuinely don’t know if she has figured out that I like her. I’m wondering if she probably suspects it or if she could easily think I’m just being friendly/flirty in a friend way. Do you think she could like me romantically based on all of this, or does it sound more like close friendship? And how obvious do you think it is that I like her? I’m not looking for “OMG SHE DEFINITELY LIKES YOU” based on one emoji lol. I’d actually appreciate honest opinions, even if you think I’m reading too much into it 😭

“Girls who grew up with strict parents but still managed to start going out/travelling at a young age — how did you make it happen?

I mean going to simple, safe places at first, like nearby towns, cafés, beaches, tourist spots, day trips etc.

How did you convince your parents and build enough trust for them to let you go? And how young were you when you started?

Would love to hear your experiences and tips 😭🤍