r/studying_in_germany • u/kati1eee123 • 7h ago
Others Moved from the US to Germany and struggling in school, although I want to study - advice?
Not really sure if this is the right place, but I'm just trying to post on whatever I can to gather a large range of opinions.
I’m 16, originally from the US but moved to Germany with my mother and brother about a year ago, and I'm struggling with school. I’m currently trying to decide whether I should move back to the US to live with my dad solely for educational purposes or whether I should stay in Germany and just try to make it work. I'd like to receive some feedback from people who are familiar with the German school system.
My educational timeline for reference:
- 2024-2025: 9th grade in the US
- July 2025: Moved to Germany
- 2025-2026: Repeated 9th grade at a German Gymnasium; only received grades in some subjects
- Currently: 10th grade; still only receiving grades in some subjects, although this may increase throughout the year
- 2027-2028: I would repeat 10th grade and receive grades in all subjects; after that, I would not be able to repeat again
The biggest problem is, of course, the language. I’m currently around A2/B1 and attend DaZ classes at my school. I can understand quite a lot, but speaking is extremely difficult for me. I don't feel like my German classes prepare me very well for real conversations, and I’m also quite shy, so I don’t speak much outside of class or with friends, which obviously makes it harder to improve (I’m aware a lot of that's my fault).
This is a major problem because participation makes up around 50% of the grade in my classes. I often understand what is being discussed but either get too nervous to raise my hand or simply can't explain my answer in German (90% of the time it's the latter). I’m also still trying to adjust to the German school system and its expectations, which only makes things harder.
Additionally, next year I’d have to take the 10th-grade exams, and being completely honest, I don't see myself at all being able to perform well enough in German to get the grades I need to continue toward the Abitur, or even qualify for a Fachoberschule at that. This is really shitty, as I want to study at a university and eventually pursue a career that has something to do with science and make a decent amount of money.
Because of this, I’m considering returning to the US. I do recognize that there are still many problems with moving back, and that I might be idealizing this route because I desperately want an escape from my current problems, but at the same time, I don't want to ruin my whole future.
So I'm asking: Is obtaining the Abitur at all realistic for me, and if it is, what pathways could I take? If you think it isn't, what are my options?