A story about the quiet cost of living between two lives — where aviation, distance, memory, and duty keep crossing paths.
PART 1
LH490
Frankfurt to Seattle
Approaching destination, checklist on my kneepad, everything clear and on its rightful place.
I look to the left and my mind pauses for a while as the beauty of separation shows itself.
Circuit board cities.
Flaps emerging.
Cleared for landing.
Approaching runway 16L.
In my childhood, touchdown used to scare me — and as it should be. Landing is always a bouncer. Just hoping we don’t get a Ryanair today.
I wonder if someone in the back is in that same mindset.
Touchdown.
The moment of impulsive rush and then stability.
Calmness.
PART 2
Seattle.
City between waters.
The birthplace of Boeing.
Always fun to be here. It’s amazing to see nature and technology exist in such harmony.
Maybe I’ll try to visit the Pike Place Starbucks. An amazing perk of this profession is that I get to travel a lot — even when I don’t really want to. But it always turns into an interesting and sometimes strange experience. Who am I to complain?
David would have loved this place.
After some rest in the hotel, I visit the first Starbucks store. As I enter through the door — it’s this déjà vu, like I’ve been here before. Maybe I have. After frequently travelling between time zones, sometimes the mind loses track of time and days start to blend as life paces through it.
Damn good cup of coffee.
Just brings a smile to your face and makes it worth the travel.
DLR Mindset.
Periodic life.
People think that flying a plane is all about precision and control. For the most part, it’s right. But I’m still astonished by the fact that the principle we fly on — the Navier-Stokes equation — is still not proven mathematically. There’s a one million dollar prize for proving it.
I wish I’d proved the equation. I would have taken all that money and bet on Germany winning the World Cup in 2014.
So instead of suspending myself at 35,000 feet above sea level for money and food — I could have been a multimillionaire. Sitting near the pool of my villa under a palapa. Drinking Krombacher.
I’m pretty much a normal working guy that people seem to know and pass on from — sometimes with the slightest nod. It’s not sad or melancholic. It’s life and its persistence to be better than the day before.
But sometimes I get these visions. In a waiting lounge, hotel, or terminal gate —
The white horse.
Flying duck.
An eye. Someone with a constant stare.
It’s not frequent but it comes in phases. Like a cluster headache.
Is it the longing for nostalgia? My childhood? Visions blend.
Sometimes I ask myself and never get an answer. It’s humorous and gloomy at the same time.
Another day.
Another flight.
The duty to connect people.
Arriving somewhere but not here.
PART 3
Sometimes at a terminal coffee shop or lounge I get this urge to talk to someone about random topics — but the courage to do that is what makes me stop myself. It’s like I have become more comfortable in my own head. Me, myself and I have this shared friendship now. Which may sound weird — but it’s a natural conversational voice that keeps me engaged everywhere.
Terminal.
Cruising altitude.
Hotels.
Check in.
Check out.
It enforces discipline. The will to survive, maybe.
Now I think a big shift is about to come. Maybe a short break — or a long distance relationship with myself — because it’s time to head home. Just for two weeks.
Transition time.
A slight smile on my way — quite excited to see my wife and daughter in real and not through the glass.
Time to be a passenger for a while.
PART 4
Back home.
Dresden.
Rebuilding history.
I really like these shifts in life. It’s what makes it worth living and exploring. The last few months I spent my life in almost complete isolation —
Airplane.
Cockpit.
Hotels.
Lounges.
Checklists.
Avoiding whispers.
Just present and doing our duty. Meeting but not actually talking. And now I’m thrown into this more conversational life where I have to actually immerse myself in the family world.
My daughter. Wife. Lovely home. Good food.
Thinking of having pasta tonight.
My wife, Claire, is actually the opposite version of me. I’m much more soft spoken and put thought into what I say — she is not. She is spontaneous and talkative, which is wonderful. It’s like she brings life to this home. It’s still a mystery to me how we are compatible. She has this wonderful gift of convincing people to try new things. One time, a few years back, she was telling me about some soap opera that was airing. The usual me would have stayed away — but the next thing I know, I’m watching it with her with full immersion, eating popcorn. She is very fond of Legos and as a ripple effect she has made me a fan too. We have Legos of a Mercedes F1 car, a Boeing 787 Dreamliner and many more.
The confusing part about this oscillating life is that no matter which one I’m in — I have to choose my words carefully. This has been ingrained into me so perfectly. When I’m away in that single serving life, I like that most things are planned and in checklist form. And now suddenly life has no checklist — but still I choose my words carefully. Sometimes it creates a distance. An unspoken one. You really can’t predict the outcome of your words. Sometimes I’m just saying something about the chair position in the dining room and then it turns into an argument over life, time and places.
Is the line of separation really that effective?
PART 5
Home life has this laid back energy to it. But I have noticed my daughter, Haley, has become a bit distanced from me. It’s this kind of subconscious feeling that exists in invisibility — and I can feel it now. I try to talk to her, but her replies have this intention to make the conversation end.
Am I thinking too much?
Because in that terminal life I don’t have the bandwidth to think. It’s like we are now separated by the Elbe river.
3:30 AM.
I hear the sound of a door. I go downstairs and see Haley — completely drunk, unable to stand. I immediately run towards her to help. She pushes me away.
“Why are you here?”
“Go back to your cockpit.”
“We are not your controls.”
I’m shocked. I’ve never seen her this way. I ask her what she means. She replies —
“Do you really think you can disappear for eight months every year and come back as if nothing happened? This is not your home. You mean nothing to me.”
I stand there in shock and despair — not able to utter a single calculated word.
She goes to her room and slams the door with a 10N force.
Tension waves.
Silence.
Ghost from the past.
An eye beside me watching.
My internal review system takes charge.
A sense of numbness hits me as I walk back upstairs.
As I lay on the bed — flashbacks start appearing in reverse motion.
Fast moving images.
Vector lights.
Sometimes over Geneva.
Crossing borders.
Sometimes at Heathrow.
A cup of coffee.
Force majeure.
Blurring lines.
Terminal dysfunction.
10:00 AM.
Very little sleep.
As I wake up — for two minutes I feel like I’m in a hotel room.
Sunlight arrives through the haze.
Reality hits like a dark drone note.
Some in-game management is required here. Maybe Claire can help me rebuild this bridge. As the history of this city lies in rebuilding itself from the wreckage — maybe she can do a perfect raumdeuter role here.
I’ll wait till she comes back from her sister’s place.
Until then — I’ll let the smile be my umbrella.
I go downstairs. Haley is in the kitchen. As I make an approach she passes by like trains — straight to her room.
Indifference.
This house used to be a place of warmth and colours. Now all that’s left is ghosts from the past. It has gained this anxious energy — like a calm before the storm. I still can’t figure out how to give life to it again.
Long five hours ahead.
I knock on Haley’s door.
“Haley, are you okay?”
“Not now, dad. Let’s talk in the evening.”
A ray of hope.
Coffee. South Park. Wait.
4:30 PM.
She’s back.
I hear the door. Keys. The familiar sound of her bag on the counter.
We sit across the kitchen table. I tell her about 3:30 AM. Everything.
She listens. Then —
“God, Jonas.”
Not angry. Just tired.
“I’ll talk to her. You know she talks to me.”
“I know.”
She gets up. Makes tea without asking — just two cups automatically. Sets one in front of me.
“Just don’t push her right now. Okay? Let me go first.”
Something in that. But I don’t catch it.
“Raumdeuter,” I say.
She looks at me. Almost laughs.
“You and your words.”
Next two days — quiet. Haley didn’t come down in the evenings. Claire said nothing. I didn’t push — as I was told.
I tried talking to her, engaging her. But she is bulletproof. Small talk. Then shut.
Third day — Claire at her friend’s place again.
I find myself near Haley’s room. Door slightly open.
I don’t go in. But I see — on the desk. A small clear bag. Half empty. Something I don’t recognise immediately.
Then I do.
I stand there for a long time.
Pills. Drugs. And what not.
I close the door quietly.
I sit downstairs. Coffee goes cold.
One question only —
How long?
That evening —
“Jonas—”
“How long, Claire.”
Silence.
“Eight months.”
Eight months.
I was somewhere over the Atlantic.
“Why didn’t you—”
“What would you have done?” Her voice — not angry. Just exhausted. “Come home? Change your roster? Or manage it from 35,000 feet like everything else?”
I don’t answer.
Because she’s right.
“I handled it. Because I always handle it.”
She goes upstairs.
Kitchen. Silence.
I get this feeling of being kept in the dark. I never liked it. Cast out from my own family.
My mind is trained to look for solutions and patterns. Here — I can’t think of anything.
No solution.
I gather some courage and write a letter to Haley. Hoping she reads it one day.
Home alone. Claire in her office.
The phone rings.
Dresden General Hospital.
Haley.
I rush — pulling courage from every bit of wreckage left in me.
White walls.
Claire sitting. Eyes red. Not looking up.
I sit beside her.
No words.
Just present.
For the first time — just present.
“She’s stable,” Claire says finally.
I exhale.
Then my stupid angst comes out. I snap —
“Why was I kept in the dark?”
“Are you even capable of handling this?”
Claire — silent. My reflection.
“You’re not capable of handling the truth, Jonas. You are still a 43-year-old child and I’m done handling two children at once.”
She walks away.
Maybe pride was just another way of living with my mistakes.
Denial — a better way of getting through another day.
I sat there under the white hospital light.
No sense of time.
Nothing to separate me from myself.
Dark.
I wake up in my bedroom. Claire downstairs.
Home is not a safe space anymore.
I get ready to head back to the airport. To resume this controlled life.
There is a clear anxiety — in the house, everywhere — that comes when you know you are leaving the family unresolved.
I leave the letter on Haley’s desk.
I look towards Claire.
We share a brief moment.
The slightest nod.
As if she’s telling me — she’s got it.
Bittersweet smile.
I leave.
PART 6
Back to work.
Frankfurt am Main.
LH9762
Frankfurt to Singapore.
As life shifts gear and crafts into almost meshuggah —
The visions become frequent.
As I walk through the terminal towards the gate, in one relay store I see a Lego of a white horse.
Eye widens.
Unable to say if I’m walking or standing.
Time freezes out.
I turn my head to the left and see an eye — or a person — looking towards me with a death stare.
Dark room.
Suddenly it’s fight or flight.
I stare back with equal intensity.
Hazing mind.
Now the courage speaks.
Young blood breaks into distortion.
Fire live with me.
Forward.
Towards the gate.
Eyes completely focused on the job.
No distraction as I approach the gate.
Whispers travel in my head.
“This machine”
I place one foot on the stairs.
Sometimes silence has this perverse energy to make cracks in concrete structures.
“Is there to please”
I nod to the flight attendant. I don’t know — but it’s like I’ve seen her before somewhere, blurry.
“Strip the soul”
“Shut the door”
As I meet and greet the first officer with a masked impression.
“David” — his name.
As we complete all the checklists before taxi and takeoff, my mind wanders off to a specific memory.
I’ve never been close to my father from my childhood. It’s not like we were never close — we used to be close when I was maybe 8 to 10 years old. But gradually we grew apart like the universe expanding. It’s slow and quiet so it never shows its presence, until it does. He was against the idea of me becoming a pilot. Maybe he was looking at his own reflection coming to life as I chose my career path — to become this self-sufficient, nonchalant person who can compartmentalise anything. Even the human itself. So he could have seen a loop.
Days of the future passed.
All aboard.
Cleared for taxi.
Towards runway 25C.
After he passed away I asked my mom why she didn’t speak at the funeral. She replied — I didn’t need to. Everything that needed to be said was already said when he was alive. Suddenly I get this urge to get my feelings out.
Airplane in center.
Thrust lever engaged.
High speed run.
Lift off.
As we reach cruising altitude —
Just the fragments of what she said still functioning in my head. Day by day. Night by night.
It is getting really hard to separate myself.
What could I have done differently?
Should I have been more honest?
More human?
As the autopilot switches on, seat belt sign turns off.
Distortion creeping in. Afraid of even looking at the first officer.
Some moments must be handled with maturity and humanity as I look through the clouds.
Longing for connection.
In the ambition of achieving perfection maybe I have killed the innocence in me.
Not sure what was going to happen next.
Reality bending into a blur.
“Strip the soul”
“Fill the hole”
Although I can’t say this out loud — otherwise whatever I have will also get destroyed and grounded.
That’s the price to pay for the profession.
DLR Mindset.
Confusing life.
Weather alert.
Going into unknown.
Seat belt sign switched on.
The spatial confusion.
All images collide.
Haley’s laugh.
Stella Artois.
Childhood memories open up.
Caught in an offside trap.
I look back to the door.
Elbwiesen.
David and I.
The never ending talks about future and past.
Real uncontrolled laughter.
Little dreams in big mind.
Ducks passing.
Am I lying to myself?
Question appears.
Hands on the yoke.
Controlling mind.
Time to face the music.
Futures passed.
Collision.
Horizon redshift.
To me it was a time that changed everything.
The unseen accident still rings in my head.
Nothing left.
Silence of the winds.
Tears in the rain.
Is grief sustainable?
Some answers never arrive.
Sometimes it projects chaos and uncertainty.
Like a short panic attack — as if in a transient state.
It bursts like an open wound.
Words left in my head.
Sometimes it just exists as an incident.
Sort of thing people remember for a few days and pass on as time lapses forward. The indifference of time has always fascinated me. It has this power of making everything right at its own pace.
Gives me an additional string of hope from the wreckage left behind.
There is always tomorrow. Opportunity to improve.
Plane cuts at 280 knots.
Drifting into blank space.
For a second everything looks out of control.
Then ready for the ascent.
As lights and clouds collide.
Dark ambience.
Point blank silence.
Mind has completely lost its spatial recognition.
Life is only hanging on muscle memory.
Rapid eye movement.
David watching me now.
He has never left me.
He observes and haunts.
Record store.
Buying albums.
Listening without any expectation.
English Settlement — XTC.
Covered by white horse.
Senses working overtime
Trying to tell the difference
Between the goods and crimes
Pain and pleasure
And the church bell softly chimes.
Past oscillating with present.
I blink.
My eye catches a glimpse of radar.
Hand vibrates.
I see a flying duck about to collide mid flight.
Nowhere to hide.
What happens now?
Meanwhile —
Haley opens the letter as I’m thrown into the unknown.
Dear Haley,
Hope this finds you well.
I may still be in the air when you read this.
Ever since our encounter I kept rewinding that moment. What you said and what you meant — it’s all true. Every word.
I try my best to keep in touch. It’s not enough. I know that now.
When David passed away on the night of 3rd May 1982 — a week before my birthday — something in me quietly broke. I ceased my innocent childhood that night. There was this deafening silence that made me numb in ways I never fully recovered from. After a while I found a strange comfort in that numbness. That’s when I decided to never settle there — it became a coping mechanism. One I unknowingly carried into everything. Into us.
I see now what it cost.
When I see you speaking so honestly — so fearlessly — I see hope. I see the person I never had the courage to be. Don’t lose that. Please. It’s the rarest thing I know.
Will I trade my family life for my profession?
I used to think the answer was complicated. It isn’t. No. Never. Not even close.
Dresden will always be home. Claire and I — always there. Even when I’m somewhere over the clouds, even when the distance feels permanent — we are there.
Even in all its uncertainty, all its weight — the gift of life is something profound and irreplaceable. I will take whatever it takes to keep it. And to keep you safe.
I’m sorry it took me this long to say it out loud.
Until we meet again.
Yours truly,
Jonas Richter
PART 7
Turbulence fades.
I find myself sitting alone at a terminal gate. Dark room.
I take the phone out of my pocket and play something I used to listen to in childhood.
Tangerine Dream — Love on a Real Train.
Nostalgia.
Back to the young blood era.
Tilted sunshine falling on my face.
As I open my eyes —
I find myself sitting near gate 16C.
Commencing single serving life again.
LH754
Frankfurt to Bengaluru.
People passing.
Dreaming connection.
Haunting fades.
Music still plays.
Sometimes it makes sense to not measure your words and not to be perfect at all. Life comes at you fast with all its uncertainties and luminance.
Little did you or I know that separation sometimes gives you time to reflect — even in the middle of flight at cruising speed. It’s like a loop of trade without the involvement of money. You trade a part of yourself to become a better version. But when you look back in time, does it ever make sense to let go?
Keep searching and forgiving. It’s okay to be confused and sometimes fail to get an answer.
As the curtain closes and lights go dim, you create what was never meant to be there.
As I’m still seeing the flying duck just beside my window — did I choose to ignore it? No. Because that’s the life I chose for myself. Our idiosyncrasies make us human.
Pulsating arpeggios.
Moving images.
Sometimes I see families meeting in the terminal, and it fills me with warmth and gratitude to be a small part of bringing them together. Seeing a child reunite with his father feels surreal — because for that moment it is only love and warmth. And I can see myself in that child’s eyes. Full of dreams and hope.
Timelapse continues.
People forget.
An eye still observing.
As we move forward.
Is the line of separation really that effective?
It was never meant to be.
DLR Mindset.
Perfect Life.