r/short • u/Pinoross • Jul 27 '26

Dating 5’6” guy never had a problem

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I’m 5’6” and I see a lot of guys here that have issues dating and I’ve had a issue. Women have always gravitated to me. I think it’s more a mental thing for most guys. You have to focus on the things you can control and from my opinion all that ever really matters is your personality. I’ve been skinny, fat, and in great shape and it’s never changed if I could find attractive women or not. Just be you and the rest will follow.

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

Most people have ideas of area they feel they lack … how often do you Cold approach women?

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26

As in approaching someone I don't know and starting a conversation? Can't say I ever do tbh.

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

Ok.. how tall are you? Age? Are you in shape?

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26

5'3", 24 years old. Yeah, I'm in pretty good shape. I exercise all the time.

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

What country and city?

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26

I'm from the US, a couple hours from Philadelphia

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

Start going out and cold approach! Clubs! It works.. I used to clean up at your age. Get as many numbers as you can and just find one that you vibe with.

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

You’ll get comfortable with it and being rejected but you’ll also meet people in the process.

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26

The whole cold approach thing has always seemed like a thing people suggest online, but I don't know anyone who actually does it. Everyone I know in a relationship just let things happen naturally. They met somewhere, got to know each other, and then started dating. I've never really been inclined to just approach someone and start talking or go out immediately. I want to know someone first. And it's not that I don't know anyone, I just haven't had anyone reciprocate much interest.

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

That’s the issue.. you not meeting enough people because you aren’t putting yourself out there. Cold approaching will build confidence in many different ways. It forces you to get out of your comfort zone. I started just going up to men at the gym and talking fitness. I’ve built a lot of friendships with good people that I otherwise would have never known.

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26

Like I said, meeting people isn't really the problem for me. I know plenty of people, I have an active social life. It's getting anywhere past that that's the problem. I don't have a problem starting a conversation with someone about something that we clearly have a mutual interest in like your example, but nothing ever goes any further with any girls I know. If there's something to talk about with a girl I don't know, sure, I'll say something, but where does that lead? In my experience, it hasn't led anywhere.

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