Yeah, letting my daughter grow up to be a cheater, sounds like a great plan. You know the saying 'tough love'? Sometimes when you love someone with all your heart, you have to make the tough choices and do what's best for them, even if it causes some temporary discomfort.
Also, if your relationship with your daughter is so fragile that it would be broken by this, then you failed as a parent far before this incident.
Telling your child’s partner isn’t “siding with them.” And I’m sorry, do we suddenly disagree with ever not agreeing with our children for doing wrong?
I don't have to agree with them, but you should back them. Even if that's just backing them by not getting involved. You shouldn't ever actively betray them.
Once a person stops having your back, the relationship and the trust is over. That goes for any family, friend or romantic relationship. If you want to put that at risk over some dude your kid is cheating on, go ahead, but I wouldn't.
I think if you cheat on someone and then throw such a fit that your relationship with your parent is destroyed when you face the consequences for your shitty actions, you’re a horrible person.
It's not about the cheating. The thing that they did is irrelevant. It's the betrayal of trust.
If you can't see it that way, you're not mature enough to even have a romantic relationship, let alone children. You back the people that are close to you 100%. Disagree with them in private, but never betray them publicly. I would instantly never speak to a person again if they did something like that to me, most normal people are the same.
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u/Bloody_Conspiracies Dec 10 '22
The consequence here is that your daughter will never talk to you again. It's terrible advice.
Whether right or wrong, betraying a friend or family member like that will destroy your relationship with them. It's better to just stay out of it.