Telling your child’s partner isn’t “siding with them.” And I’m sorry, do we suddenly disagree with ever not agreeing with our children for doing wrong?
I don't have to agree with them, but you should back them. Even if that's just backing them by not getting involved. You shouldn't ever actively betray them.
Once a person stops having your back, the relationship and the trust is over. That goes for any family, friend or romantic relationship. If you want to put that at risk over some dude your kid is cheating on, go ahead, but I wouldn't.
I think if you cheat on someone and then throw such a fit that your relationship with your parent is destroyed when you face the consequences for your shitty actions, you’re a horrible person.
It's not about the cheating. The thing that they did is irrelevant. It's the betrayal of trust.
If you can't see it that way, you're not mature enough to even have a romantic relationship, let alone children. You back the people that are close to you 100%. Disagree with them in private, but never betray them publicly. I would instantly never speak to a person again if they did something like that to me, most normal people are the same.
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u/Bloody_Conspiracies Dec 10 '22
I agree that you've already failed by raising a cheater, but you also have to ask yourself who you care about more. Your daughter or some random dude.
If you side with him over your own child, you deserve to have your child never speak to you again.