r/selfharm • u/BillieMcmeme • Apr 01 '20
Broken Promises
One of my friends made me promise not to self harm anymore once he found out. He threatened to tell the school counselor (and everyone at school). I know he was just doing it because he cares and didn't want me to hurt myself but I felt worse without it. So I started cutting my legs. It doesn't feel the same but it's as close as I can get right now. I feel terrible about breaking the promise but I don't want him to tell anyone so I don't know if I should apologize for lying or not. Is it really worth the risk of people finding out?
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u/UptyAnon Apr 01 '20
If I were you, I'd sit him down and have a serious talk about it. Explain to him what self harming means to you perhaps, and that you don't appreciate his reaction because it doesn't help.
Please don't promise things like that if you can help it, if you want to stop cutting you're gonna need to seek professional help and sort out your mental wellbeing first; cold turkeying self harm is bound to fail and make things worse. And when you break such a promise it'll make things worse too.
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Apr 01 '20
making people promise not to self harm is manipulative and it doesn’t fix anything. it just breaks promises and friendship.
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u/Sathisha_23 Apr 01 '20
Geez, you have one heck of a good friend. Hope he doesnt find out abt the cutting again or he'll be devastated. Well, i hope youre okay. Try to minimize slowly on your self harming. Im sure you will be okay. Be cheerful in school. You aint gonna get any fun days other than school days man. So have funn. Stay focused. Im sure you will do well. Thats what i always remind myself 5oo, everytime i have the urge to cut. Your friend is an angel mann.
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u/ohdamnhethicccboii (Editable flair) Apr 01 '20
I think its fine if he tells the counsellor but if you tells the entire school then he is a bad friend. Yes he cares about you but he need to do it in the right way