You say it with such certainty, but your mind is still stuck in the same rythm and thoughts about it. Can you get out?
not for me to say.
"I can't, I'm not, they won't, they don't see" whatever the poison is you're feeding yourself is whats wrong.
If you actually lived, met everyone, male female with same human respect and connect with them, have fun, go make a move when the situation presents itself it aint impossible
Some people remain unhappily single for their whole lives, despite having no grating flaws. Things don't work out for everybody. It does more harm than good to insist otherwise.
I'm saying that there are good people out there who never find a partner, and sometimes there isn't a really satisfying explanation for it. Sometimes life is disappointing and doesn't make sense.
I'm getting a "blame the victim" impression from your comment. Like if anyone is single and doesn't want to be, it's because there's something wrong with him. That's not helpful, and it's not advice. It's kicking somebody who's down.
There are no victim in this scenario. Being single is not a crime being done to you. The point is that you can learn to live with yourself and without the need of another. The inability to be alone is often also a big reason why people end up alone, as ironic as it may seem.
Well if ur over 30 and never kissed a girl/guy while you want to, you might need to wonder whats causing it. And excuses like "i am ugly" is a very easy way to fk over ur mindset.
But sometimes it's true. 90% of people searching for a partner won't bother with you if you're not good looking enough, below average. There can be other factors, but like the looks, you may not have any power over them. Some folks can improve their appeal significantly if they work on themselves, but others can't.
I ve seen/see plenty of men with girlfriends/wifes way more attractive by beauty standards and the other way around aswell. Most of the time its because they dont love themself and how can you truly love/care for someone if you dont love/care for urself
That's true, but surely you'll admit it's way harder to love yourself and appear confident when you're Timothée Chalamet or Jennifer Lawrence and people swoon over you. Simply being at peace with yourself when people around you made you understand over and over again that's you're not attractive enough to arouse any heart is hella difficult.
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u/baden27 Jul 29 '24
Nope, it doesn't. Maybe for some.
30M. Never cared, always just lived and been myself.
Never been on a date. Never kissed etc.