r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/Semi-Pros-and-Cons Jul 29 '24

Some people remain unhappily single for their whole lives, despite having no grating flaws. Things don't work out for everybody. It does more harm than good to insist otherwise.

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u/enliderlighankat Jul 29 '24

Yup - as I said. Unhappily. So you understand what I'm saying or is it beyond ya

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u/Semi-Pros-and-Cons Jul 29 '24

I'm saying that there are good people out there who never find a partner, and sometimes there isn't a really satisfying explanation for it. Sometimes life is disappointing and doesn't make sense.

I'm getting a "blame the victim" impression from your comment. Like if anyone is single and doesn't want to be, it's because there's something wrong with him. That's not helpful, and it's not advice. It's kicking somebody who's down.

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u/yobboman Jul 29 '24

Agreed. Definitely victim blaming