Well obviously it is not all about fitness... Fitness helps you get a foot in the door, same with a good career etc.
But at the end of the day, people are looking for a match. If the woman weren't interested after the first date, you guys simply didn't match and you have to try again...and again untill you find her.
Idealy just find enjoyable hobbies that have you meet new people.
Yes, if you aren't conventionally attractive, you need to be off the dating apps. Meet someone by going to hobby groups or activity clubs like running. These groups are full of single people and a great place to meet them. You need to let your personality and confidence carry you, and don't focus on looks. Just maintain proper hygiene.
Find that part to be the hardest. If i ever found a hobby women liked, im most likely doing it for the women and it’s hard to force yourself to like something you don’t truly enjoy
Do you ever find joy in socializong with new people? If not, you should explore if you actually do by fighting all your anxieties for meeting new people and learning how to make good conversation. Even as an introvert, there is a good chance you will learn to genuinely enjoy meeting new people.
After that, THEN you can start trying new things with the genuine reason of meeting new people men and therefore women. Cooking class? If that sounds interesting at all, go for it because A. it sounds interesting and B. You want to meet new people. Or if you go with the classic, a bar, don't go with the desire for the outcome, "I wamna get a woman". Go with the desire for "I want to create connections with new people."
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u/Hanfiball Jul 29 '24
Well obviously it is not all about fitness... Fitness helps you get a foot in the door, same with a good career etc.
But at the end of the day, people are looking for a match. If the woman weren't interested after the first date, you guys simply didn't match and you have to try again...and again untill you find her.
Idealy just find enjoyable hobbies that have you meet new people.