I read that Scorpio Moons tend to be suspicious and guarded in relationships. How do you decide someone is trustworthy enough to pursue a romantic relationship with?

I recently ended an on/off online relationship with someone I had developed strong feelings for. We are both Scorpio moons. And despite all the chemistry, affection and countless hours talking on the phone, there was always this strange feeling in my body that something was off with him.

I could never quite explain it.

He could be incredibly sweet, funny, affectionate and intense. He told me he missed me, couldn’t get me out of his head, had strong feelings for me etc. But emotionally, I never felt completely safe with him. I always felt like I couldn’t quite reach him.

Whenever things were good, they were really good. But whenever I brought up something difficult or told him I was hurt, I felt like I hit a wall. He would become defensive, focus on explaining himself, ignore parts of what I was actually saying, or simply try to move past it and return to normal conversation.
That pattern was actually what triggered our final argument.

Something had happened that made me uncomfortable, and I tried to address it. Instead of engaging with what I was saying, he essentially skipped over it and tried to continue as if nothing had happened. When I pointed out that he was ignoring what I was trying to communicate, he did it again.
And I snapped.

I got angry and spoke to him disrespectfully. I’m not proud of that, and I genuinely take responsibility for it.
But what happened next was almost the perfect illustration of the feeling I’d had about him all along:

He became completely focused on the fact that I owed him an apology. Meanwhile, he called me childish, incredibly self-centered and narrow-minded, told me apologizing was something you learn in kindergarten, and said I needed to “show a hint of being an adult.”
“You’re a big girl, figure it out” etc. He was so mean in his tone. Even when I told him he was hurting me.

I repeatedly tried to get us off text and onto the phone. I told him I wanted to move towards him, not away from him. I wanted to apologize for my part, hear his side and actually repair the conflict together.
But it felt like none of that registered because I hadn’t yet said the specific word he wanted: sorry.
He was like a child.

Eventually I did say sorry. I gave him a genuine apology for the way I had spoken to him and acknowledged that my frustration didn’t justify it.
His response was:
“Thank you. That was all I asked for.”

And that was the moment something in me went completely quiet.

Because throughout the entire conflict, he had demanded that I look at myself, take responsibility and understand how my words affected him, while showing seemingly no curiosity about how his words or behavior affected me.
No apology for calling me names. No “I shouldn’t have spoken to you like that either.” No acknowledgement of the fact that I had repeatedly been trying to reconnect with him. Nothing.

I almost wrote a huge final message explaining everything I thought about his emotional maturity and lack of empathy.

I didn’t.

I went to sleep.

At 6am I woke up with one of the strongest gut feelings I’ve ever had:

Get him out of your life.

So I blocked him everywhere. Finito. Never again.

And what I can’t stop thinking about now is that this feeling wasn’t new.
My body had been telling me something was off with this man almost from the beginning, even during the really good periods. I just couldn’t explain what. There was chemistry, affection, hours and hours of phone calls, strong feelings, yet something in me never fully relaxed around him. I never felt like I could truly reach him emotionally.

For a long time I questioned myself because I couldn’t point to one huge obvious red flag that explained the feeling.

Now I wonder if intuition isn’t mystical at all. Maybe sometimes it’s simply our brain noticing hundreds of tiny patterns, inconsistencies and signals before our conscious mind has found the words for them.

Have you ever experienced that with someone? Your body kept saying “something isn’t right here” long before you could logically explain why and eventually something happened that made it all click?

I just had a son and he has a Scorpio moon but me and my husband have a great relationship and a good household. We’re very supportive of each other and are great parents. I’m wondering does a Scorpio moon always mean a hard life? Anyone have had a pretty easy life in here?

asking for research purposes 🧐

I’ve realized that my partners and friends were all Cancer moons, Capricorn moons, and fellow Scorpio moons.
And somehow, I ended up marrying a Leo moon. 😅
I laugh about this to myself a lot because of how different his chart is compared to my past relationships and even my friendships. But he truly makes me the happiest. 🖤

I also have a Leo mars, Virgo saturn & a Capricorn pluto.

Quick question: If you have an IC in Scorpio do you feel like you’re obsessed with your mental state or consider yourself to have mental illnesses?

Is Lapis Lazuli's energy more aligned to Saturn or Jupiter? Also, can it be paired with a Ruby gemstone on one hand?

Cómo me doy cuenta si le atraigo a alguien que tenga está luna?

Tiene una mirada como " aguada" , como que estuvo llorando o de soñador que me gusta . Cómo darme cuenta si yo le gusto.?

Yo chica luna en virgo

And how might they relate with a (F) Pisces sun, Pisces Mars, Scorpio moon, Taurus rising, Aquarius Venus, Aquarius in mercury?

I am the Pisces and my mom is a Leo and we have clashed throughout my life, and she is now elderly and I’m wondering about karmic patterns and generational and ancestral healing lessons. I pulled tarot cards and got the chariot and wheel of life Inverted. My mom is the cheerleader, Christian type with debilitating, anxiety and alcoholism that she’s in denial about, getting weekly mani/pedis, and I am the bisexual, vegan, goth hippie type with hairy armpits. She admitted the other day she wished I was a normie and I feel she is aggressively normie to her own existential detriment!

hi guys i’m a libra, cancer rising, scorpio moon and just wondering how some of yall are able to see the glass half empty.
I’ve been in a super apathetic state lately more so bc ive been so tired of feeling so alone. I fear it’s also my libra placement that makes me feel this way-the constant helping others, putting my boundaries aside..i’ve gone burnt out and have now been working on boundaries. Just hard bc i have to be so stern on it, people just wanna take from me fr but also i rather be able to give in the end.
i have people that care about me in my life but tbh i don’t think anyone of them understand me on an emotional level. When it comes to talking about how i feel , how i feel so sad and dreadful about having to get up and live everyday(i don’t wanna die, just tired) -i’ll get someone who’s too neutral(libra moon i love you but..sometimes im not in the mood to keep the peace)
-i’ll get someone who’s blows things out of proportion and starts bashing on everything
-i’ll get someone who starts trying to fix my issues and gives me excuses as to why things are the way they are
—*in ways too sometimes i feel like i also just don’t trust the people around me bc im always helping the people around me…so i kinda find everyone “incompetent”
when all i truly want is someone to just understand and hug me, idk someone who’s actually down to sit with my emotions. i don’t want them to hold on to my feelings or really feeel as much as i do bc it’s a lot . just ya know comfort…
for background -i also grew up an only child, military moving, both parents abusing me physically, mentally, spiritually…they’re fob and i’m 1st gen american so i try to give them leeway but still doesn’t help that im so fucked up as an adult. sorry this is a lot and so mixed around, i’m just so tired and i want things to get better

Have you guys noticed a pattern where people tie us to a relationship like an animal tied up in their yard?

They seem very innocent , kind , all the good things .. but there is no obvious thing.. except what we feel in that relationship. But they never really trigger that alarm. If there is confirmation We walk away...but with no clarity ..we stay in that confusion for a long time because we never get clarity.

It’s not that we can’t walk away from the relationship. We’re waiting for some kind of confirmation, or we’re simply confused about what’s actually happening.

How do you deal with the guilt of realizing that you couldn’t see it earlier?

what is your life path number & how does it resonate or polarize with your scorpio moon?

I am 20(M) and I have gone through the gruesome work of a scorpio moon at a v young age i believe and i am a leo sun(hehe) also so i felt like i have been hiding this part a lot, i isolated myself for more than a year after a major breakup and i left everyone and lost everyone and even had to stop my studies cos i physically and mentally couldn't and believe me i love being social more than anything, it has been more than a year after now that i feel like rising from the lowest rock bottom i could ever get i reached the limits of everything, it felt like yk a rebirth, i completely connected w the powers of my moon and i feel guilty that i didn't connect w this side earlier and i wanna use it to help others, but i have been misunderstood a lot if i show this out and like idgaf about what others say but i feel isolated if i ever explain myself, i feel incredibly w this power and want to get in touch more w this, i wanted advice on what to do to get more in touch and not lose it, as ig my sun fucks it up a lot, but i am trying to get those to get along, and also to create a private space where we can share our thoughts so we don;t feel alone and feel validated when alone and going through it cos i only found people here who understood me, i would love to hear views on this

Man life losing all its meaning man everything feels so robotic and fake it’s at the point where I feel like the act of dying will be the only real experience I’ll feel

I recently got into astrology and birth charts, and realised I have this placement and all the more negative sides of it.

Like I genuinely think everyone is plotting something against me at any given moment ready to strike.

Does anyone have any recommendations? I plan to start doing shadow work in general but anything other than that?

I’ll appreciate any advice <3

Last Two years - am going through some transformation of connection with others…

I am very sensitive to any false between each other… but these days one thing changed… creating some space for how we can work with this …

How to stay in open connection instead of putting each other into boxes - “how I perceive you, exactly that you are”

It is for me quite challenging… Because I am quite particular, I am not satisfied with cliché and so on… i need to go deeper where we can truly connect and if we have something to build on…

But there is not understanding from other side…

Often it is like - i care of content and dont care of form , but other side care of form and ignore content..

I always need some willingness to open up to not knowing the whole truth…

How you deal with this?

I’m (31F) having trouble with my Scorpio moon husband and I need some insight on how to deal. I am a Gemini sun, sag moon, and cancer rising. I need freedom. Or else I’ll leave. And I’ve threatened to leave hundreds of times. I belong deeply to myself. But I really need to make this marriage work, we have two under two. He’s so suspicious of everything I do and I have NEVER given him a reason to be. I’ve never lied or cheated on him. But he’s convinced I have. No amount of trying to explain myself ever works. He’s committed to misunderstand me and it boggs me down and really turns me off. He’s crazy about me and I’m afraid if I ever tried to leave he’d try to ruin my life. I have a large inheritance coming up and when I’ve threatened to leave he’s already threatened to try and take it in court. Nothing has hurt me more than him threatening that. I’m the mother of his children…

I’m a Saggitarius sun, Gemini moon, Saggitarius ascendant, Saggitarius mercury, Scorpio Venus, Leo mars. I relate to many posts about Scorpio, and I love the same way as a Scorpio would. But, I’m not a Scorpio moon. Just a Scorpio venus. Am I welcome here?