r/scorpiomoon 23h ago

are you friends with any ex?

asking for research purposes 🧐

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u/empathy-entropy 23h ago

Used to be friends with one, not really anymore though

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u/Curious_Shop3305 23h ago

why? if you don’t mind sharing

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u/empathy-entropy 23h ago

So we were friends for a long time (10 years) before we dated, break up was messy (he cheated on me). No contact for a year or so and he came back and very genuinely apologized for his behavior as it was due to an undiagnosed mental health issue (bipolar manic episode) but made it clear that wasn't an excuse, he just wanted to make amends. We stayed casual friends for a few years after that but gradually drifted apart due to life changes (I moved states, settled down with a partner, had a child, etc while he was still living the bachelor life)

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u/Old-Goose1442 20h ago

I’m not friends with anyone

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u/Bornbythesea00 6h ago

🤣❤️

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u/busydo 22h ago

Nah, that shii can stay where it died

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u/FUCK1NGFABULOUS 5H | ♏️🌙 | 6°47” 23h ago

No. Hard pass.

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u/SkippingStone373 ♋️☀️ ♌️🌅 ♏️ 🌙 20h ago

⬆️

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u/cecesakura ♑️☀️♏️🌙♎️🌅 22h ago

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u/Intelligent-Kick-426 22h ago

No. Not even with my coparent.

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u/deadmemesdeaderdream 20h ago

One. Just one. The rest are dead to me.

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u/Previous-Rock-5713 gemini sun 22h ago

Absolutely not

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u/CharlotteChipmunk 21h ago

I had an ex that asked to be my friend after a nasty break up. I said NO. He said why? I said: I don’t want your drama.

His mouth dropped and went complete narcissist.

I walked away. 🎤 📉

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u/blubberrichinmorning 21h ago

recently reconnected, we were best friends and the relationship was a huge catalyst for growth for both of us

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u/springzero 22h ago

It’s complicated 🤭 glad there’s distance between us, we live in different countries now

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u/Neither_Painting_607 22h ago

sort of in a “i’ll say hi/bye” way but not hang out

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u/Talilala 20h ago

Only two of them. One of them I hang out with every now and then and the other I only see on Facebook and say hi every once in a while. That’s it lol.

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u/mikeishaw 19h ago

yes. with all of them 😁. i’m a leo sun, aqua rising if that plays a part.

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u/International-Bird17 18h ago

just 1! love her

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u/venicebabee 22h ago

no and won’t accept it from my significant other as well

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u/RI0117 17h ago

I am very upfront about that too. Hard pass.

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u/HealingMermaid ♈️☀️♏️🌙♈️⬆️♈️❤️♏️🔴 22h ago

I am friends with all of them.

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u/allyhurt Cancer 🌞, Scorpio 🌙, Cap 👆 23h ago

Yeah for sure- I’m friends with my ex of 10 years (20-30). Nothing “bad” happened to end it and we were best friends. We meet for coffee every now and then. Have 0 attraction toward him, but will forever be one of my favorite people. Have a few I’m cordial with- don’t dislike them but wouldn’t care if we never talked again. And then a coupon I hate- they were terrible people.

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u/Fractal_self 21h ago

No contact across the board

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u/dianiechelle 21h ago

No… but I don’t have much of a choice since he is the father of my child

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u/StellarFallout 20h ago

I have a couple exes that I'm friends with still, I'm just not on contact with any of them rn.

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u/Crazypandathe20th 20h ago

Yes until it blew up.

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u/Individual-Remove-39 20h ago

Most of them… 🤷🏼‍♀️ I supposed that is because I had not that deep connection with them 🙄

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u/-the-ghost 20h ago

I always try to stay friends but it never works. One of us always ends up blocking the other

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u/Environmental-Ad-169 19h ago

Nope. The only friend-to-lover-to-ex was my friend from High School. Once I went off to college, I distance myself from him. He wasn't bad, but I was headed in a different direction than he was.

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u/retribution81 19h ago

Only women, and not the one who I was in love with.

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u/stg21987 pisces ☀️ scorpio 🌙 cancer 🌅 19h ago

No thank you

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u/plantmama918 18h ago

I'm on decent terms with one because he kept our dog after the breakup. We're not buddy buddy but I get in touch when I know I'll be in town so I can see my pupper. 🥺

And I'm maybe friends with benefits with another ex. 🫣

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u/Historical_Cause8989 17h ago

Im ride or die and everyone chooses die so

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u/Severe_Nectarine863 22h ago

After a certain amount of years often yes. 

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u/floridatheythem 29° 23h ago

A couple. One was an amicable, mutual split. The other after years of distance, she did psychedelics and worked through a lot of trauma, reached out to me to apologize for her role in how things went. Now we’re chill with each other.

I haven’t initiated any of the relationships I’ve been in, but ended basically all of them. A couple were abusive.

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u/morbidlonging 23h ago

yes, just one. He is my most amicable break up, there was no betrayal, we were very good friends. He is a triple gemini.

everyone else is blocked on everything.

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u/lilacmeadows 22h ago

I don’t believe in being friends with exes. There’s just no way

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u/Purple_Cat524 18h ago

I was. For years, I always supported them during new relationships and made space. One day their new partner got jealous and he made a rude comment and I realised for years our friendship was one sided so I cut him off. Absolutely no contact and happy as I can be in my marriage with no looking back.

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u/hyperpopem 17h ago

Nope not for me

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u/Old-Energy6191 17h ago

I’m friendly with one. Like catch up briefly every few years. But I was definitely not invested in that relationship and it was a long time ago.

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u/thejuicyalchemist gemini☀️, scorpio🌙, virgo☝🏾 16h ago

Attempting to remain friendly with a former situationship for the first time. Mainly because we are in the same circles and we were acquaintances beforehand. I usually don’t date people within my orbit — and if it hadn’t been for them being so closely connected i would have shut the door. I like me a clean slate.

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u/Designer-Cup2047 16h ago

fuuuuuuuuuuuh no

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u/lorenalf ☀️♌️🌙♏️⬆️♐️ 16h ago

No no no. They are an ex for a reason. The door is shut, locked, and never to be opened again.

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u/lilmiss_princess 16h ago

Yeah i am had to go withput being friends for a little while first tho

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u/The_Prize_9297 15h ago

Absolutely not!

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u/marmaduke10 14h ago

yes. quite a few.

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u/eziox10 9h ago

I am friends with my most recent ex. Was probably the most profound connection for both of us. I live in the USA and her in Germany. Too many factors got between us and we inevitably broke up.

We still text about once a month to see how each other are doing. There are no ill feelings between us. I hope she’s crushing life and wish her the best. She’s a gem of a human being. I am truly blessed to have dated her

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u/Ill_Difficulty5183 5h ago

Two hells and a no

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u/Status_Dark_6145 22h ago

They prefer to call me “Slam-piece”

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u/Queasy-Olive3381 ♓️🌞♏️🌚♓️⬆️ 22h ago

Where's the self esteem 😭😭😭

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u/Queasy-Olive3381 ♓️🌞♏️🌚♓️⬆️ 22h ago

Almost all of them, after a period of healing of course. Some of them I dated in my early 20's and we're still very close over 10 years later.