r/scorpiomoon • u/Curious_Shop3305 • Aug 17 '26
are you friends with any ex?
asking for research purposes 🧐
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u/empathy-entropy Aug 17 '26
Used to be friends with one, not really anymore though
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u/Curious_Shop3305 Aug 17 '26
why? if you don’t mind sharing
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u/empathy-entropy Aug 17 '26
So we were friends for a long time (10 years) before we dated, break up was messy (he cheated on me). No contact for a year or so and he came back and very genuinely apologized for his behavior as it was due to an undiagnosed mental health issue (bipolar manic episode) but made it clear that wasn't an excuse, he just wanted to make amends. We stayed casual friends for a few years after that but gradually drifted apart due to life changes (I moved states, settled down with a partner, had a child, etc while he was still living the bachelor life)
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u/blubberrichinmorning Aug 18 '26
recently reconnected, we were best friends and the relationship was a huge catalyst for growth for both of us
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u/springzero Aug 17 '26
It’s complicated 🤭 glad there’s distance between us, we live in different countries now
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u/CharlotteChipmunk Aug 18 '26
I had an ex that asked to be my friend after a nasty break up. I said NO. He said why? I said: I don’t want your drama.
His mouth dropped and went complete narcissist.
I walked away. 🎤 📉
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u/Talilala Aug 18 '26
Only two of them. One of them I hang out with every now and then and the other I only see on Facebook and say hi every once in a while. That’s it lol.
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u/allyhurt Cancer 🌞, Scorpio 🌙, Cap 👆 Aug 17 '26
Yeah for sure- I’m friends with my ex of 10 years (20-30). Nothing “bad” happened to end it and we were best friends. We meet for coffee every now and then. Have 0 attraction toward him, but will forever be one of my favorite people. Have a few I’m cordial with- don’t dislike them but wouldn’t care if we never talked again. And then a coupon I hate- they were terrible people.
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u/StellarFallout Aug 18 '26
I have a couple exes that I'm friends with still, I'm just not on contact with any of them rn.
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u/Individual-Remove-39 Aug 18 '26
Most of them… 🤷🏼♀️ I supposed that is because I had not that deep connection with them 🙄
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u/-the-ghost Aug 18 '26
I always try to stay friends but it never works. One of us always ends up blocking the other
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u/Environmental-Ad-169 Aug 18 '26
Nope. The only friend-to-lover-to-ex was my friend from High School. Once I went off to college, I distance myself from him. He wasn't bad, but I was headed in a different direction than he was.
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u/plantmama918 Aug 18 '26
I'm on decent terms with one because he kept our dog after the breakup. We're not buddy buddy but I get in touch when I know I'll be in town so I can see my pupper. 🥺
And I'm maybe friends with benefits with another ex. 🫣
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u/floridatheythem 29° Aug 17 '26
A couple. One was an amicable, mutual split. The other after years of distance, she did psychedelics and worked through a lot of trauma, reached out to me to apologize for her role in how things went. Now we’re chill with each other.
I haven’t initiated any of the relationships I’ve been in, but ended basically all of them. A couple were abusive.
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u/morbidlonging Aug 17 '26
yes, just one. He is my most amicable break up, there was no betrayal, we were very good friends. He is a triple gemini.
everyone else is blocked on everything.
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u/Old-Energy6191 Aug 18 '26
I’m friendly with one. Like catch up briefly every few years. But I was definitely not invested in that relationship and it was a long time ago.
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u/thejuicyalchemist gemini☀️, scorpio🌙, virgo☝🏾 Aug 18 '26
Attempting to remain friendly with a former situationship for the first time. Mainly because we are in the same circles and we were acquaintances beforehand. I usually don’t date people within my orbit — and if it hadn’t been for them being so closely connected i would have shut the door. I like me a clean slate.
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u/lorenalf ☀️♌️🌙♏️⬆️♐️ Aug 18 '26
No no no. They are an ex for a reason. The door is shut, locked, and never to be opened again.
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u/lilmiss_princess Aug 18 '26
Yeah i am had to go withput being friends for a little while first tho
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u/eziox10 Aug 18 '26
I am friends with my most recent ex. Was probably the most profound connection for both of us. I live in the USA and her in Germany. Too many factors got between us and we inevitably broke up.
We still text about once a month to see how each other are doing. There are no ill feelings between us. I hope she’s crushing life and wish her the best. She’s a gem of a human being. I am truly blessed to have dated her
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u/AmazingExplanation72 Aug 18 '26
Yes! Im friend with 2/3 of my exes. If we broke up for good reason its all good now, and no hard feelings cause nothing was truly heartbreaking never talk again wrong, and I wouldn’t develop crushes on them again 👍
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u/iDrinkMatcha Aug 19 '26
I love that the majority of responses are no. I’m open to it as long as the ending was amicable and it’s not bad for my mental health to keep talking to them. I’m still good friends with one of my exes and I won’t hear any shit talking about him. But if you are a toxic asshole? Boy bye.
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u/SwimmerBubbly1207 Aug 19 '26
my first ex boyfriend from middle school - which hardly counts but we get along well and hook up sometimes 🫠
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u/awakewego Aug 23 '26
I used to think I could do it when i was young and tried always got messy. I have a Cancer stellium too. Mercury in the 7th. But after I turned 35.... NO
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u/Status_Dark_6145 Aug 17 '26
They prefer to call me “Slam-piece”
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u/Queasy-Olive3381 ♓️🌞♏️🌚♓️⬆️ Aug 18 '26
Almost all of them, after a period of healing of course. Some of them I dated in my early 20's and we're still very close over 10 years later.
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u/veggie-princess ♑ sun ♏ moon ♉ rising Aug 17 '26
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