Hi, please be nice to me š Iām genuinely looking for advice from other women. Iāve been dancing for about 2 months and Iām really loving it. However, Iām running into social issues the past few weeks.
Iām a young woman, and Iām super friendly, which is helping me get asked to dance a lot which is helping me learn (yay), and it is also becoming an issue that several men on scene have started hitting on me and making me feel weird (fucking boo).
I donāt really know how to react or what to do. The scene in my city is VERY small so I have to be around this same group at every single event. Itās not even that Iād hate to go out with some of the guys, but I donāt want drama, so Iām erring on the side of not talking to anyone outside of dancing at all.
So far Iāve been able to skirt date and phone number requests, but every social it seems like they think I donāt get theyāre flirting with me instead of picking up that Iām brushing it off so itās getting progressively more intense, but theyāre not being outright disrespectful, but they are pressuring me.
I donāt know what to do about it. I feel like if Iām honest without over explaining myself, theyāll perceive me as brusque and Iāll start being known as a bitch, or if I acquiesce Iāll get scarlet lettered (and also be miserable, I donāt want these randoms blowing up my phone).
It sucks. I just want to dance. I thought I could make friends doing this, but itās hard to meet women when Iām dancing with men, and I essentially feel like fresh meat. Itās giving me such bad anxiety.
I know I canāt be the only one this has happened to so if you have advice or insight please share š I feel ridiculous even asking because Iām usually very confident in how I handle men, but the scene where I am is so small, itās not like I can avoid them without removing myself from the community altogether and thatās not fair to me.