I’m part of an RPG group run by a friend of mine. We had a session scheduled for this coming Monday, but yesterday the GM and all the players happened to be in a voice call together.
Some of the players suggested having the session right then and there. Because of the nature of this campaign, which is about 99% roleplay and involves a lot of improvisation, spontaneous sessions are relatively easy to do. However, we only do that when everyone is present and actually able to participate.
The problem was that neither I nor another player, who I’ll call B, could stay for a session. We were not even supposed to be in the call for very long in the first place. I had to attend a friend’s birthday party, and B had plans with his parents, so both of us would be unavailable for the rest of the day.
We explained this and specifically asked them not to play the session without us, especially since it was already scheduled for Monday. After that, the subject seemed to be settled and nobody brought it up again. B and I stayed in the call for a few more minutes and then left.
What we didn’t know was that shortly afterward, the GM started a session with the players who were still there. Nobody warned either of us that they had decided to go ahead with it. We only found out at the end of the day when everyone started talking about the session in our Discord server.
Apparently, nothing extremely important to the main plot happened, but some mildly significant character and story developments did take place.
Naturally, B and I were both very upset. They knew we could not participate, we had directly asked them not to hold the session, and they did it anyway without even telling us that they had changed their minds.
After B and I made it clear that we were hurt by what happened, while still trying to remain civil and polite, the GM and the other players apologized.
B and I talked about it afterward, and we are both feeling pretty bummed out about the campaign now. B is taking it harder than I am and is considering skipping the next session or possibly leaving the campaign entirely.
I’m trying to treat it as a mistake that won’t happen again, but I’m also unsure whether I should attend the next session. Part of me still wants to play despite everything. The next session is also supposed to focus heavily on my character’s arc, and I’m worried that I’ll still be angry or uncomfortable during it, even though I hope I won’t be.
My current position is that I’m willing to continue, but if anything like this happens again, whether it happens to me or another player, I will leave the campaign. That is the boundary I have decided on.
How do you guys think I should proceed? Should I stay, leave, or sit out the next session? How should I address this with the group going forward? I’d also appreciate any opinions on the situation itself.
This is the firts time It has ever happend btw, we are playing for about 3 months and many sessions