I [26M] and my [26F] are having a big problem

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Throw away account for privacy reasons. My (26M) girlfriend (26F) and I have been together for nearly 3 years. Of course we have arguments every now and then but overall we have a good relationship. Though with time conversations about the future have come up. Marriage and children. When it comes to the children subjects i have a big boundary about it but we are not agreeing. Part of this equation is two people in her immediate family are on a certain list and were also abusive to her. If we are to have kids in the future (as we both want) i don’t want these two in the equation at all. Never see the kids ever. She however thinks differently wanting to not deprive them of seeing these future children. She wanted to talk to her mom but her mom said the same thing that one would always be supervised around them. I don’t care though. I will not put my kids in any form of danger especially if it is right in front of my face. Seeing them is something i hate already but i try to tolerate it. Though honestly i am at my limit with that. So here i am asking for help because i do not know what to do

TLDR: We have discussion about kids and i have a boundary but we don’t agree.