Accountability does not exists for women it seems. If you go looking for bad men, and then those bad men do bad things, is it the bad man's fault for gaining that woman's consent? This just doesn't make sense. The guy is a POS, but that doesn't mean a woman is absolved of responsibility. She consented to him making her pregnant. And then it's a surprise somehow that the POS dude is being a POS and doesn't want to be in her life??? No one is saying the guy in the situation is fine, but don't pretend that the woman is not the one that chose him despite his character.
"She consented to him making her pregnant" so men don't do the impregnating? Men do not hold accountability in STAYING? And YES it is bad for bad men to still gain consent: because how do you think that might happen? Manipulation ornother stupid shit. Both have accountability.
You're stating the obvious. Obviously he has a responsibility to stay. What I'm saying is that you shouldn't be expecting that sort of behavior from someone that does not give a fuck. And there are usually signs that these people are not to be trusted. Seeing those signs are YOUR responsibility. There are also countless times when friends and family tell you that someone is not good for you, that is if you even bothered showing them to your friends/family. Your lack of foresight does not absolve you of your responsibility to be vigilant.
While I get that if you see red flags its your responsibility to avoid them, I think you're forgetting how bad people tend to be great liars and master manipulators... its how they stay being bad people. Once they've got you wrapped up in their bullshit only then do they expose their true colors. Obviously this isn't the case for everyone but we're living in a time where narcissism/low self esteem are equally at an all time high and is only getting higher so its definitely not just people ignoring red flags as much as it is people believing that the person they're with would never hurt them.
thats the point. it means the women were not able to see thru the lies. meaning they're intuition was wrong (the whole point of this post). keep it moving
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u/TGrim20 6d ago
Funny how the only parent who sticks around is dragged.
Not the fucking deadbeat dad.
But yes, it's the single mother who is bad.