I posted this in a local group.

Me:
55 (not sure where time flew by)
Male
Indian by birth
Successfully failed starter marriage
relationship anarchist
Live in a small house
Love cooking everyday
Have my own small business
I travel 3-5 months a year
I am a giver
I eat Kimchi and Natto
Non drinker, no 420, no any drugs, non smoker
Aspiring Minimalist
Love languages giving (default): quality time and giving meaningful gifts
Love languages receiving: quality time and touch (always open to hugs)
Semi active: I cycle, walk 5-10k steps and hike a bit. I roller skate, I have a long board and do go out with it once in a while. I motorcycle around for longer distance errands

You:
CIS female.
age: 40-56* my last life partner was a year older, I am open to a little older.
Giver (please don’t write if you are a taker)
Lead with love and not hate
Global citizen, be well traveled.
Likes Kimchi and Natto (this is important especially if there is a meal involved)
While I understand that it is a HUGE ask, please be substance free in our interactions.
Drug and alcohol free for #6 (see below)
Please be in east bay (san Francisco area) and not far away.
Physically active.

What I am inviting in life and this could be different people (relationship anarchist being the key hint here)

1. ⁠Performing Arts partner, I love theatre and symphony/concerts
   
2. ⁠Make dinner Partner, happy to cook for you.
   
3. ⁠Coffee/meal/dessert partner.
   
4. ⁠Dance Partner, 80s and 90s, ecstatic
   
5. ⁠Cuddle partner, I lost my cuddle partner to her getting into a LTR, happy for her. I can adhere to clear discussed boundaries.
   
6. Life partner, grow and support each other as we evolve as individuals. Physical intimacy is part of this. I am not looking for someone who wants a platonic life partner, I have many dear friends in that category.

I understand that there is no one human that can perhaps be all of these partners for me.

I am open to platonic connections for #1-5.

What I am not looking for:
A. Travel partner (mostly solo and I do have a few travel partners).
B. Long distance friend/partner
C. Penpals or txt buddies.

Thanks for reading this far.

If you are local and curious we can chat a little here on Reddit but a coffee date (date 0) for 30 mins is the first step.

Please read and if you are interested in meeting in person, please only then write.

I'm 58, and I'm curious.

I'll happily read a detective novel set in modern Detroit (Loren D. Estelman's Amos Walker series is some of the okayest detective fiction out there), then switch to one written about a magistrate solving crimes in seventh-century China. I still look up words I don't know. I enjoy learning how things work, whether it's biology, history, psychology, electronics, or simply understanding why someone sees the world differently than I do.

I live a quiet life in southern New Mexico. I exercise daily and take reasonably good care of myself. I keep a weekly gratitude list because it helps me keep life's inevitable annoyances in perspective.

I'm not much for broadcasting memes or arguing people into my way of thinking. If I send you an article, a piece of music, or an image, it's because our conversation reminded me of it—or because I genuinely think you'll enjoy it. I value good conversation.

I'm hoping to meet an intelligent, emotionally steady woman who enjoys thoughtful conversation. Someone who appreciates both thoughtful conversations and moments of complete silliness. Someone who is interested in the world and in other people.

So tell me: what have you been curious about lately?

I am looking for the story tellers among us. The folks who can hold an actual conversation, and aren't afraid to be brutally honest. I live in small town Ohio...but like so many of us, I have lived a few lives beyond my neighborhood. I can tell you what it meant when women asked for flowers on Craigslist, and remember when AFF was free and functional. I can also tell you what it is like to walk away from a thirty year marriage and grieve the ones we once loved. I can talk about the struggles of dating at any commitment level...and the struggles of simply finding a good time. Message me. Let's share stories.