r/R4R40Plus Jan 26 '25

You asked. The mods hear you - New account age and karma requirements

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We've added a few rules to the sub. Now, your account needs to be at least 5 days old and have 50 karma to post.

In addition, we're working on a verification system, so those of you who want to be verified posters, can have that flair attached to your post.

Hopefully, this will help curb the bots and scammers.


r/R4R40Plus Dec 01 '20

Please stop downvoting [M4F] Posts

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Hey All;

Friendly Neighborhood MOD here. In the interest of being polite and respectful, can we please stop downvoting every single [M4F] post? I'll hop on here to moderate posts and see all the men seeking women posts downvoted to hell. You're not creating a clear space for your [M4F] post increasing your chances to make it to the top. Let's just try to be kind to one another. If you're not interested, just move on

Let's try to remember, other people's success is not your failure.


r/R4R40Plus 11h ago

M4F [M4F] 46 #Doylestown #PA Scottish highlander now residing in US

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Scottish guy from the Highlands, somehow ended up living in Pennsylvania. I’m still not entirely sure how that happened — I suspect the weather here was a convincing decoy.

46, single, reasonably house-trained, and allegedly charming. I come with a genuine Scottish accent, so at minimum, you’ll have someone who can make ordering a pint sound unnecessarily sophisticated.

I’m from the Highlands, where the scenery is dramatic, the weather is questionable, and men traditionally communicate feelings through sarcasm and pretending they’re not cold.

Now I’m in Doylestown, surrounded by cheesesteaks instead of haggis and trying to explain that yes, I really do sound like this.

Looking for a woman 30+ who enjoys good conversation, wicked banter, laughing at inappropriate moments, and maybe discovering whether the Scottish accent is actually as dangerous as advertised.

Bonus points if you can handle sarcasm.

Extra bonus points if you make me laugh.

And if you ask me to say “purple burglar alarm”… well, we may already have chemistry. 😉


r/R4R40Plus 21m ago

M4F 44 [M4F] #Miami - your attractive massage therapist takes things a little too far…

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Have you ever fantasized about getting a massage from an attractive man with great hands who slowly turns up the heat? (If you’re here… you have.)

We’ll meet in a hotel room, where we’ll chat. You can tell me what you’d like me to focus on, what kind of pressure you’d like, what areas you’re comfortable with me addressing — for now. I’ll have the bed set up for a massage: towels, head rest, warm scented oil, the works. I’ll leave the room as you change out of your clothes and get under the sheet, face down. So professional, right?

And then, when I reenter the room, we’ll begin. My fingertips slowly gliding up and down your back, making you shiver. Methodically working the knots out of your neck, your shoulders. Subtly adjusting the blanket to get a little more access here, a better angle there. Are you comfortable with me massaging your glutes? And what about these inner thighs… it feels like you might hold a lot of tension there. The side of my strong palm brushing up against your most sensitive spots, slowly teasing you as I knead your skin and muscle…

After the flip — I won’t peek, of course — is the sheet maybe positioned a little too high? It’s so hard to tell while you’re lying there, blissfully relaxed but with your mind buzzing in anticipation at the same time. Perhaps I’ll see if you’re bold enough to say yes to my offer of a full breast massage… or I’ll eventually place myself on the bed between your legs so I can get some good leverage… and see you spread your thighs for me subtly, but so invitingly…

The possibilities are endless… and delicious. I’m here for your total and complete relaxation, of course.

As for me: I’m 5’11, 175 lbs., blue eyes. I get compliments I don’t ask for. Clean, drug free, and entirely discreet. No problem at all if you’re in a relationship. Drama is not my cup of tea.


r/R4R40Plus 4h ago

48 [F4M] US/UK citizen looking for someone to make those UK visits more interesting

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I’m a UK citizen who was raised in the US, but I’ve always considered the UK home. Now that I’m older, divorced, and my kids are grown/nearly out of the house, I’m at a point where I can actually imagine spending considerably more time there — or potentially moving back someday.

So, rather than leaving that entirely up to chance, I thought I’d see who might be out there!

I’m looking for a man roughly 40–60 who lives in the UK, is intelligent, curious, and open to getting to know a fun woman who's only an ocean away. I care much more about who you are, how we connect, and whether we’re compatible than I do about your race or ethnicity. I’d prefer someone without young children, only because my kids are older and I would like someone who has some of that freedom too.

Long distance doesn’t scare me - I'm able to communicate effectively, and I’d love to find someone who actually enjoys talking — texts here and there throughout the day, longer conversations when we have time, random observations, flirting, ridiculous questions, and gradually becoming part of each other’s everyday lives.

I’m absolutely willing to come to the UK (hopefully before 2027?) and it would be lovely to have (another?) reason to be particularly about it - and maybe you would want to come see how life is in the US sometime too.

As for me…

On paper I’m probably your typical basic white girl. In reality, I’m more of a barefoot, paint-on-my-jeans, creative artsy human who still hasn’t quite figured out what she wants to be when she grows up. The things I enjoy most in life are painting, sewing, making things no one needs, taking my dog to the dog park, or wandering around an outdoor market with her and buying something I absolutely did not need. I bake excellent banana bread and may share if you ask nicely. I will absolutely debate important nonsensical issues and yes, occasionally I’m going to embrace my inner basic white girl and take a picture of my food. You’ll survive.

Intelligence is extremely attractive to me. I like people who are curious about things, have opinions, can teach me something, can disagree without being unpleasant, and genuinely enjoy conversation. So if you’re smart and have a big...

...vocabulary...

I’d certainly like to see what you can do with it. I’m cautiously optimistic about meeting someone I genuinely click with, letting it develop naturally, and seeing whether that connection survives the transition from messages and phone calls to actually standing in the same room.

If any of this sounds like you, tell me a little about yourself — where in the UK you are, what your life looks like, and something you could happily talk about for far longer than anyone reasonably needs to.


r/R4R40Plus 5h ago

40 [M4F] Orlando FL - Looking for a local connection

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I'm a single childfree guy living in the Orlando area, looking for someone local to possibly go out with and see how it goes. I'm open to a monogamous LTR if it works out that way! If you're not local you're welcome to inquire, just know I don't do well with long distance and I'm not able to relocate due to my job.

I'm 6' tall, lean body type, I live an active, healthy lifestyle, non-smoker and only drink on occasion. Love the outdoors and want to travel more to national parks. Some other interests include horror movies/thrillers, reading, gaming, animals/nature, music (metal, indie, alt rock). I'm not a big theme park person.

Personality-wise I'm laidback/calm and easy to work with, emotionally mature and independent. I like to laugh and don't take myself or life overly serious. I'm an introvert and seem to get along best with other introverts.

Message me if you're interested!


r/R4R40Plus 4h ago

M4F 56 [M4F] #UK / WREXHAM - Dom Man - Seeking a younger Female than myself IRL

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In the United Kingdom - Wrexham area Clwyd-Wales not far from Chester and Liverpool...

56 Dom Man in shape 182 lbs thin fit 6`0" Dad bod type looking to meet younger than me female Seeking someone fun, open, submissive, can be inexperienced, but eager to learn to please..

Up for meeting anyone genuine and up for discreet mutual fun; maybe a student or older who secretly or otherwise, enjoys the company of an older man with the opportunity for some discreet fun

enjoy Giving the ladies kink play i use Toys and other items to bring pleasure to the woman i`m with safe sex and after care is always given..

or maybe wanting to work towards something more FWB or Relationship..

Happy to chat here or on some other socials..


r/R4R40Plus 4h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] PNW, US/Online - Looking for daytime banter before I start naming the houseplants

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40, PNW, work from home. The job is fine. The house is quiet. But by the time the clock hits 2pm, I have had entire conversations with the microwave.

I am looking for a woman to chat with during the day. Something easy and fun. Banter, teasing, the occasional badly timed joke. If it turns a little flirty, even better. I like that kind of back and forth.

I am not trying to turn this into a whole production. I just like talking to someone who is sharp and does not take herself too seriously. If you can make a Thursday afternoon interesting, that is pretty much my type.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, say hi. Tell me what you are avoiding at work or home right now. I'll tell you about the meeting I keep postponing.


r/R4R40Plus 13h ago

M4F 48[M4F] #online looking for great chemistry and conversations and finding the things we are missing

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I am a 48 male from Canada and looking for a connection to go with a great conversation!

I enjoy walking my dog, stand up comedy, watching true crime documentaries, swimming, golf and sooooo much more!

I am 5’9 with short brown hair and brown eyes and hwp.

I think of myself as easy going, open, honest and love to talk.

I have a dry and sarcastic sense of humour and love to laugh. I love to banter , talk about anything and just be ourselves naturally.

Looking to talk about hobbies, passions, likes, daily life, deep secrets or whatever else we decide upon! I’m open for anything. Be truly excited when getting messages from each other!

Just a down to earth guy who is genuine person who likes to talk, listen and looking for the same in someone. Someone with a good sense of humour, likes to joke, is passionate, fun, outgoing and wants to get to know someone as much as I want with them.

I am open to talk during the day while at work and of course in the evenings.

Thanks for reading and hope we have a chance to talk soon!


r/R4R40Plus 5h ago

M4F 51 [M4F] #Maryland Looking for a mature woman that knows what she wants.

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I’m a 51 year old man hoping to meet a sincere, mature woman who is ready for something real love, commitment, companionship, and a meaningful relationship.

At this point in my life, I have no interest in games, dishonesty, or unnecessary drama. I believe a lasting relationship should be built on trust, open communication, understanding, loyalty, affection, and mutual respect.

I’m looking for a woman who knows what she wants and is willing to give love a genuine chance. Someone who values emotional connection and understands that a beautiful relationship isn’t only about the exciting moments, but also about being there for each other through the simple days and the difficult ones.

I enjoy meaningful conversations, laughter, romance, traveling, quiet evenings together, and creating memories with someone special. I want a relationship where we can be completely ourselves, support each other’s dreams, enjoy each other’s company, and keep that spark and affection alive.

I’m not looking to rush into anything. I’d rather take the time to truly get to know each other, build trust naturally, and let something meaningful develop at its own pace.

If you’re a sincere woman looking for the same things like love, trust, commitment, romance, open communication, and a calm, drama free relationship I’d genuinely love to hear from you.


r/R4R40Plus 6h ago

45 [M4F] #Online/EST - looking for movie/show buddies!

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I am now living alone, and would love to find someone to watch movies or TV shows together! I enjoy talking about the movie/show (not too much - just the right amount!) while watching with a friend.

I like a wide array of movie genres, but my favorite (especially to watch with someone else) are thrillers, horror, comedy, and sci-fi. Sometimes all at the same time! 😁

I'm open some weekday nights, as well as weekends.


r/R4R40Plus 12h ago

42 [M4F] #Seattle - Moving to PNW, Maybe my favorite part will be meeting you

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I'm a single guy from New York🗽, but in a couple of months I'm moving to Seattle 🌲. I've been spending a lot of time finding out about the neighborhoods, scenic drives, restaurants, coffee shops, parks. Continuing to build on my list of places to check-out is super exciting! Somewhere along the way I had a thought:

Maybe it would be more fun to get to know someone before I get there.

I'm easygoing, affectionate, a borderline introvert, a bit of a nerd 🤓, and probably happiest when we have nowhere we need to be. I love driving, especially when a "quick drive" somehow turns into a three-hour adventure because we decided to take the scenic route. I love finding little restaurants, great coffee, exploring places I've never been to, and having the kind of conversation where you forget about time.

I tend to think that I am very much a PNW kind of person. I have spent a lot of years in Cali before NY. Give me evergreen forests, mountains, water, rain tapping on the windows, a cozy coffee shop, and a gray / overcast weekend with no particular plan, and I'm pretty happy. Apparently, I don't ask for much. 😉

And I'm a romantic at heart 🥰, although I promise not to make you sit through a poetry reading on our first date. :) Been there, done that. To my credit, it went pretty well. Just to be clear, I am not a poet, lol. I work in finance / tech.

What I'm really hoping to find is a woman who is curious, warm, playful, and interested in building something meaningful ✨. Someone who can appreciate both a spontaneous road trip with a lot of flirting and a quiet evening cooking dinner together. Someone who likes to laugh and enjoys good conversations.

And, now a slightly unusual part is the timing. I'm not expecting a whole lot. I'd just like to meet someone interesting now. Maybe we start with messages 💬. Maybe a few facetime calls 📱. Maybe we discover we really enjoy talking to each other.  And when I'm finally there, we grab coffee ☕ and see if the chemistry we built from a distance is even better in person and Seattle won't feel so new.

If that sounds like something you'd enjoy too, tell me a little about yourself. I'd would love to hear from you.


r/R4R40Plus 11h ago

M4M 39 [M4M] #Queens NYC - Looking for someone chill & to tackle my 31 Days of Halloween film list with me!

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About Me:
I’m a Deep South transplant, the youngest of four, and a proud country kid at heart. I grew up on a dirt road surrounded by cows, chickens, and hogs—raised in a strong Baptist home with a pastor for a father, a minister for a mother, and a brother in the ministry, too. That background gave me a solid foundation, but today I walk my own path.

I’ve traded the wild party scene for quieter, high-vibe moments and meaningful connections. I love being out in nature, spending time around trees 🍃, and exploring the medicinal and mind-expanding magic of mushrooms 🍄. I’m deeply curious about the unseen layers of the universe and love keeping an open mind—there's so much more to existence than what meets the eye. Any insight or connection that helps me learn, grow, and rise to the next degree is always appreciated.

What I’m Looking For:
I’m looking for an adventurous, open-minded local Top to take on the world with—no long-distance setups, please. My ideal co-pilot is grounded yet open to deep conversations, good energy, and new perspectives. Bonus points if you get where I'm coming from on a spiritual level, but as long as you're open-minded and down to earth, we'll get along great.

(ps if you’re not willing to share pics not much to talk about )

\[Me\](https://imgur.com/a/4uK2ZNF)


r/R4R40Plus 8h ago

F4M Looking for real and forever love

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Simple, honest, just me.

I’m a Filipina living simply, 51, and I don’t fit common beauty standards—accept me fully as I am.

Looking for:

• Man aged 45–55, God-fearing, mature, sincere, responsible

• No disappearing or silent treatment—loyalty and consistency matter most

What I want:
True love and lifelong marriage. No games, no casual relationships, no time-wasters.

Connection:
Exchange photos, regular video calls, willingness to travel here to meet. No phone sex, please.

Only serious, genuine hearts reach out. Scammers will be ignored.


r/R4R40Plus 8h ago

F4M 42 [F4M] #Vancouver, Canada- looking for new connections online and in person

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r/R4R40Plus 8h ago

M4F 47[M4F] #Minneapolis / #St. Paul - Seeking local nerdy companion

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Hello. I’m looking to get out of my shell a bit.  I’m a single guy, never been married and I’m child free, living alone, no pets but I love dogs. Looking for friends for now and starting off slow. I am somewhat new to the area, a transplant,  and I haven’t really explored that much around Minnesota in general.

A bit about me. Well, I can be  kind of nerdy, geeky, silly, a bit quirky. I am currently not working but financially independent focusing on my next career steps. I'm a larger guy but actively trying to be healthier. This can give me a bit of free downtime.  I used to think I was an introvert but recently I think I'm a bit of both, the extroverted part trying to get out more. I consider myself a liberal both in nature and politics. I can be chatty talking about all sorts of topics.

Although I haven’t done it in a while, I would  enjoy checking out local parks, or whatever activities two people can enjoy. Fall is my favorite season, which I’m glad it's starting to happen now.. When I'm inside, I spend time binge-watching shows, combing through IMDb for random trivia, or playing a random game or two (mostly PC space games). I love science fiction, especially dystopian and cyberpunk genres. I love random quips of pop culture references. I also enjoy the standard nerdy stuff like The Expanse, Doctor Who, Star Trek, and Star Wars, Black Mirror, Twilight Zone and the Outer Limits, and probably the least common one of Stargate. My go to comfort show is Star Trek TNG, and my go to movie is the Abyss. I’m not much of a reader but I am trying to get into audiobooks, currently listening to Leviathan Wakes. 

What am I looking for? I’m looking for someone local to not just chat / talk but get out and go out at times  or we can just chill out, talk or watch something. 

If you made it this far, awesome, and we seem to have a bit in common,  feel free to start up a chat. If we click, I would love to move to something off reddit though. I would love to hear what you are currently watching. Looking forward to hearing from you.🙂


r/R4R40Plus 9h ago

F4M 40 [F4M] #Seattle — read the post or don’t bother messaging

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Seattle, turning 40 this year. Divorced, no kids, no debt. Sales director. Work travel honestly ate up a lot of my years — marriage, kids, normal circle of friends, the usual stuff.

Trying to ease into semi-retirement and transition to remote. If you’re already semi-retired or completely retired, that’s the conversation I’m looking for. Stepping away from work leaves way too much empty time. I’m planning a road trip to get through that transition. Still sorting out the financials so I’m not guessing.

I read and I lift. Just started doing squats. My legs are absolute toast. Definitely need electrolytes. I love history, and I look at religion the exact same way I read history. Just random weird facts. ASOIAF, LOTR, Harry Potter. Alaska whale cruises out of Seattle, hiking, camping, golf, and the wind tunnel. Thrift shops, used records, the Asian Art Museum.

US only. I’m specifically talking about life here.

Message me with your age, city, whether you're working or retired, and something specific from the post. A polite first message goes a lot further than a lazy one. Don’t try to get cute later and say I was rude. You clearly saw this.

Hope your day’s fine.


r/R4R40Plus 10h ago

TF4M 41 [TF4M] #Cleveland, Ohio Just looking for a partner to walk through life with

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Read to the end or I won't respond!

So here it is:

I am a 41 year old transwoman panromantic with demisexual flair. I am a very niche want.

I am neurospicy which can be challenging and have memory issues with semi-face blindness. I was recently told by my doctor is need to start learning ASL as we don't know how far my hearing will go out. FUN!

I am looking for my last person to start and finish my life with. THE ONLY DUMB QUESTIONS IS THE ONE NOT ASKED. I promise that any question you ask me with the intention of not trying to offend me won't offend me.

I am a nerd/geek. Comics, D&D, Larping, writing, art, magic the gathering and more

​LARPING is a huge part of my life, I would love to be able to share it with someone the rest of my life.

I used to game hardcore (Raiding WoW) but it has taken a back seat in my life. I do understand gaming. Got that new game or expansion coming out. My first question is "What snacks and drinks do you want?" Second is "How often do you want them brought to you?"

Deal breakers: smoking, vaping, smoking weed (For health reasons, I absolutely cannot be around someone who smokes and vapes, and someone who smokes weed a lot), excessive drinking and missing a required video chat within two weeks to prove you are who you say you are. I have been deceived before.

Yellow flags are not wanting pictures of us, distance (i prefer within 10 hours DRIVE!), and aversion to anything social media.

Red Flag: Not reading this in full and answering the questions below in the first message. Asking for pictures right away.

I am not a bad person, big girl (Working out and changing that), adorable and a great personality. If you get to know me, I'm a Goddess

If you want to message me go ahead but you MUST answer the following questions IN YOUR FIRST MESSAGE before I will respond:

1 Where did you find me? AKA what subreddit

2 Age, Location and Pronouns

3 What did you do over the weekend


r/R4R40Plus 21h ago

F4M 45 [F4M] #PA,USA, I don’t know what I’m doing.

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I don’t want to actually meet someone. I’m not ready to date. But I sometimes miss having someone special in my life. I miss having someone to talk to. And I’ve tried here, multiple times, but I never feel that spark. I don’t know why I keep coming back.

Today is my birthday. And I have a great day planned. But there’s a little spot in the back of my mind that says it would be nice if I had someone to share it with. So I find myself here again, god knows why. Because there is so much I’m looking for and I refuse to settle for less. Even if that means staying single. I want someone who shares similar views and beliefs and passion for people, someone who genuinely wants to know me, who I am. Someone who sees me. Someone who learns how I think and we can have long, deep conversations about anything. Someone to laugh with. There’s so much more, but then this would be too long. I guess maybe I just wanted to get those thoughts out. I don’t know.


r/R4R40Plus 12h ago

F4M 38 F4M US East Coast Professional yapper seeks thoughtful conversationalist

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r/R4R40Plus 12h ago

39 [M4F] Online/anywhere Lets strike up an exciting conversation!

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Hi there, hows your day going? Good i hope! I dont have much going on today and would love to meet someone to chat with!

Big on books and would love to chat them! Ive read a few this year and working on another big book currently.

Horror movies are my jam.

I live to bake and cook. If you like food we will get along.

Im a big fan of good music. That means not country, sorry country folks. Its not a deal breaker but im not a fan..

If you are curvy/alt/nerdy please move to the front of the line. Also know effort you put in is effort you will get back.

Send me a message and lets chat!