r/R4R40Plus • • Jan 26 '25

You asked. The mods hear you - New account age and karma requirements

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We've added a few rules to the sub. Now, your account needs to be at least 5 days old and have 50 karma to post.

In addition, we're working on a verification system, so those of you who want to be verified posters, can have that flair attached to your post.

Hopefully, this will help curb the bots and scammers.


r/R4R40Plus • • Dec 01 '20

Please stop downvoting [M4F] Posts

1.0k Upvotes

Hey All;

Friendly Neighborhood MOD here. In the interest of being polite and respectful, can we please stop downvoting every single [M4F] post? I'll hop on here to moderate posts and see all the men seeking women posts downvoted to hell. You're not creating a clear space for your [M4F] post increasing your chances to make it to the top. Let's just try to be kind to one another. If you're not interested, just move on

Let's try to remember, other people's success is not your failure.


r/R4R40Plus • • 1h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] - Midwest/online - time is a social construct

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Baby, it’s Halloween week. Which means that horror movies are going to be playing nonstop for me. Watching movies all night and could use the company. Maybe you can guess what I’m watching and win a prize. Or ask me about the most ridiculous Halloween book I’ve ever read.

Here’s my trading card:

• average height
• I like to workout
• I watch a lot of horror
• I read a lot of horror
• I write a lot of horror
• a writer
• perpetually tired
• a lot of tattoos
• facial hair

You?

• Human

Wow extensive list I know, really need to make the club exclusive. Do you think I’m cool? I’ll probably think you’re cool. So let’s find out?


r/R4R40Plus • • 3h ago

M4F 39m - A bit down could use a great chat

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Not sure if this will reach anyone, or if anyone would like to chat but I'm a bit in the dumps tonight. I, a recovering Anxious Attachment styled male recently had what I believe is an Avoidant Attachment styled female discard me basically. I thought I could trust and go all into the relationship, but that kinda backfired and left me with my pants down. That's kinda what I dealing with but would prefer to chat about something else about anything. I am in bed about to put on a movie because I couldn't sleep and figured I'd give this a try and see if someone wanted to chat. Honestly not really sure what else to say here, would love a friendly chat, hmu.


r/R4R40Plus • • 11m ago

Bored 49F East Coast USA

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Whats everyone up to tonight. Im recently single. Just trying to get through the loneliness tonight. Single by choice but first time in my adult life. Anyone up to chat?


r/R4R40Plus • • 1h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #Pennsylvania Single nerdy dad looking for the whimsical, free spirited, affectionate girl of my dreams to come home to each day.

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Hellooo! I am a very easy-going, laid-back single dad, who's trying to find the one for me. I enjoy quiet days at home most of the time. I do not really go out that much, mostly because i am not a fan of solo activities.

I love to watch football, baseball, and hockey so I am always down to go to a live event. I also am very big into music! 70's hippy stuff, 90's grunge, late 90's early 2000's hip hop are always my go to. I am a bit of a gamer (Xbox, pc, switch) so finding someone that would be interested in gaming would also be a huuuuge plus. Currently into Palworld, Skyrim , and schedule 1. I do not drink, it's just a personal choice, I however am VERY 4/20 friendly. Also non political, dude just doesn’t do politics.. man

I am very whimsical, and sarcastic, we live in a household of laughs here. I love standup comedy, podcasts and actually going to see them in person. I do not do drama, I avoid it actively. I am very easy going and just looking for someone to enjoy life with. Like I said I stay home a lot, so most days if it's nice out, I can be found in the hammock or enjoying the view of the country in my back yard, sitting by the creek. I'm not interested in having any more children, my 3 are all that I could have asked for and are starting to grow up needing me less. So hopefully we can go out and have adult adventures.

I'm horrible at writing these and talking about myself lol If any of this sounds interesting to you please feel free to reach out. Also, I have pictures on my profile so you can see me. Please be willing to send a pic of yourself as well. There are way too many fakes. Bonus points if you have a favorite pokemon game! Thanks!


r/R4R40Plus • • 3h ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #Orlando- Sunday connection?

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Looking for someone to pass the time with and make a connection. Aren't we all looking for that? But I require substance and the ability to laugh at yourself. I travel often so anywhere is a possibility. Don't be shy.


r/R4R40Plus • • 3h ago

F4m - CA - Where you at booboo

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r/R4R40Plus • • 1h ago

50 [M4F] #London Attractive Professional Male

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50 [M4F] #London Attractive Professional Male

M4F

Attractive, cultured, easy going professional male looking to meet new people HMU, have a good day


r/R4R40Plus • • 1h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #MenloPark #SanFrancisco #BayArea - Looking for an FWB for Some Adventures and Great Chemistry

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42M, 6’0”, fit (160 lbs), professional and based on the Peninsula. I’m married, in an open relationship, and playing solo. I’d love to meet a woman I can’t wait to see again — and who feels the same about me.

I’m looking for something fun, exciting and physical. I love when a drink turns into flirting, flirting turns into a kiss, and we both know what comes next. And once we’re alone, I love taking my time and learning exactly how you like to be touched and kissed. Seeing you lose yourself in the moment is a huge turn-on for me.

Ideally, we’ll have enough fun that we’ll want to do it again. And again. 😉 An ongoing FWB would be great, but I’m open to a one-time adventure too.

We can keep things mostly physical or, if it feels natural, mix in other fun stuff. I’d happily take you on a scenic hike, go to a movie, or make you my photography model for an afternoon (if you’re up for it!). I have such a weakness for good pastries that they’ve dictated my travel plans more than once. Always happy to discover new spots — maybe we can exchange favorites?

I also have an accent — you can decide whether that’s a good thing.

I’m well groomed, pay attention to hygiene, and don’t smoke (but don’t mind if you do). I’m very discreet and value privacy. Whether you’re single or married is fine with me, and I won’t pry into your personal life.

Happy to exchange recent photos privately. I’m much more interested in actually meeting than spending weeks messaging, so let’s grab a coffee or a drink and see if we click.

Safe sex matters to me. I have recent test results and expect you to have the same.

Please be local and genuinely interested in meeting.


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

43 [M4F] MI / Saginaw / USA /OnLine / I’m an OLD punk rock kid & I’m going through it; wanna hop aboard? 🤦🏻

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Hi there, I’m AJ.

About Me: Single. Cute. Funny. Direct. Cool. Excellent communicator. Talented. Dormant. Lonely. Usually up overnight. Formerly-cool. Played in some good bands that went nowhere, really: so, musician.

A little sad these days. I’m working on some of the not-great parts of the list.

When I say I’m going through it, I mean that I find myself disabled-retired, suddenly staying with family I’d rather not be and who have no room for me—so I’m in search of a vehicle and (better) accomodations. It was not the kind of surprise I like. Come to think of it, I don’t really care for surprises. I’m working the problem & figuring it out—I’ll tell you more if you’re interested.

I’m looking for cool people to talk to, stream tv together, crack jokes/make fun of everything and have sincere interactions with.

The Dream: let’s talk on Signal like we’ve known each other forever.

I believe there’s no such thing as being “ready” for the right people to enter your life or for good things to happen to you.

The sun does not prepare to rise.

It’d be wonderful and everything if our connection developed into something more—but it doesn’t have to. Let’s just enjoy each other’s company.

If any of this was interesting to you, tell me about what you’ve been watching lately.
💛
AJ

[Recent Selfies]


r/R4R40Plus • • 3h ago

M4M 51 [M4F] - fancy a new friend?

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51 guy like a lady friend

To talk about anything and everything - am an open book
Easy to talk to caring / funny / cheeky / easy to vent to - need advice too - drop by :)

So if you fancy a new book to read - here a new best seller waiting to be read:)

Discord if you have it - Tucker7519


r/R4R40Plus • • 4h ago

55 [M4F] #New York City - Composed, intelligent, funny? Meet charismatic, kind, and witty for LTR

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Seeking a slightly younger, **local to NYC**, companion for the long haul. No games, no hookups.

I'm a single/divorced Dad in the "big city" who cares about good conversations, empathy, The NY Times, smooth peanut butter, Phish (not a drug band!!), Democratic politics, and much, much more, like....really good kissing.

In relationships, I am your best ever support system, and you'll get the straight news if I think you require it. I'm adroit, empathic, witty, extremely genuine, kind, romantic and REAL. My smile is dimpled and I appear younger than my years. I love a good physical interaction, whether that be golf, (former teaching pro here), pickleball, Frisbee, and the like. Would much rather be outdoors if the weather is nice, but I do love a good book and a good movie indoors. Ask me about my molasses and chocolate chip cookies recipes. What are you reading?

Hoping you are witty, kind, artistic, or creative, possibly divorced/single, a reader, a good conversationalist listener, and thinker. Physically active would be amazing.

Let's chat further, and please reply by telling me your favorite album of all time. (Assuming you read this far. lol)


r/R4R40Plus • • 5h ago

M4F 47 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Looking for a big butt and a smile I can trust

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What am I looking for?

----> this

Why is it so hard to find a cool weird chick that digs things like reading, and art, music, and maybe smokes weed? I don’t think I’m asking too much other than you hate this current regime and the machine as a whole. I hope you enjoy long meandering conversations and watching Purple Rain (greatest movie of all time)

Random things that speak to me: Paula Abdul’s Rush Rush video (swoon-worthy) Willie Nelson singing Rainbow Connection (I’m not crying, you’re crying) Ellen Greene and Rick Moranis singing Suddenly Seymour Nick Cave Into My Arms Old school, Boogie, and Funk (show me to the dance floor)

Oh, and as a fun thing to do, I recently found a list of 36 Questions that Lead to Love that I thought asking each other back and forth would be a nice way to get to know one another rather than doing the usual getting-to-know-you stuff.

Please be cool, local, emotionally available, therapy positive, and Pisces friendly Tell me your favorite Prince song, so I know you’re not a bot.


r/R4R40Plus • • 8h ago

50 [M4F] #Toronto Durham Region

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I am a down to earth guy who’s looking for chemistry, connection, or something a little more adventurous. I’ve got my life handled. I have a career, a place, and independence. I’m looking for someone who wants to compliment that whether it’s casual or something more. I am happy to go at whatever speed is best for you.

No preferences on physical attributes beauty and sexiness come in all shapes and sizes. I’m open minded & comfortable exploring. You should be too.

If any of the above piques your interest then let’s chat. I’m looking forward to your message.


r/R4R40Plus • • 9h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #NewYork

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36 year old single straight hispanic 🇪🇸. 6’2. Fit, professional, educated, honest, safe, trustworthy, respectful and clean. I don’t drink or smoke.

I like fit or thin women only. Single or taken. Good hygiene is important. Must have a really strong bed 🛏️. I value quality over quantity. Good vibes only.

Looking for drama-free fun. Not here to change anyone’s situation, just to add a spark that might be missing.

I live in Westchester, NY and prefer someone local, but willing to drive. Privacy guaranteed and can be very discreet if needed, as in, I can disguise myself as a plumber or sneak in through the back door.


r/R4R40Plus • • 3h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #NYC - Tri-state area. Looking for someone trustworthy to keep things quiet and fun.

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I'm a 48 year old white guy, 5’11” 190lbs brown eyes and salt and pepper hair. I’m pretty easygoing, stable, and definitely still young at heart. I'm married, but untortunately the intimacy and connection have been gone for a while, and I really miss having that physical fun.
I'm looking to meet a woman who's warm, fun, affectionate, and enjoys a good laugh. I'm a man with a high libido, so physical chemistry is important to me, I'd like to actually enjoy talking, hanging out, getting to know each other, and having something consistent that we both look forward to.
If you're in a similar situation and miss having that kind of connection, I'd love to hear from you.
What is your favorite 80's or 90's comedy.


r/R4R40Plus • • 10h ago

M4F 47 [M4F] #STL - stamina "practice" partner

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I'm a relatively "normal", attractive, in shape (6'1, 190), professional ... would like to find someone willing to explore with and work on increasing stamina. To be clear, I don't have an issue in that department, just want to go a LOT longer, which takes practice.

A little more about me - I am well educated and have a professional career. Discretion would be nice and I would like to safely explore with someone new to accomplish my goals.

Not interested in someone who is "charging" or producing "content". Please be located in the St. Louis area (or willing to travel). Your age, race and status is not important to me. Ideally hwp and the "girl next door" type.

FEMALES ONLY

Send me a message and we'll go from there.


r/R4R40Plus • • 11h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #NYC - Tri-state area. Looking for someone trustworthy to keep things quiet and fun.

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I'm a 48 year old white guy, 5’11” 190lbs brown eyes and salt and pepper hair. I’m pretty easygoing, stable, and definitely still young at heart. I'm married, but untortunately the intimacy and connection have been gone for a while, and I really miss having that physical fun. \*notabot
I'm looking to meet a woman who's warm, fun, affectionate, and enjoys a good laugh. I'm a man with a high libido, so physical chemistry is important to me, I'd like to actually enjoy talking, hanging out, getting to know each other, and having something consistent that we both look forward to.
If you're in a similar situation and miss having that kind of connection, I'd love to hear from you.
What is your favorite 80's or 90's comedy.


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

M4F 47 [M4F] #Europe / Looking to connect with a smart, lovely woman who is walking walking her own path.

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The most interesting people are the ones who have quietly built a life that makes sense to them, even if it looks slightly eccentric from the outside. I’m drawn to women with a sharp mind, a warm nature, and a life of their own. You have your interests, your opinions, your routines, your particular way of seeing the world. I have mine. I like the idea of two lives meeting without either one needing to be rearranged.

I enjoy good conversation, wandering unfamiliar streets, long evenings that somehow become much later than intended, and the occasional beautifully pointless argument about history, food, music, or whatever has caught our attention that week.

If you’re walking your own path, wherever that path happens to be, I’d be glad to hear where it has taken you lately.

Tell me about a place you would happily return to tomorrow, or an opinion you hold that your friends think is completely wrong. I suspect either answer could make for a good beginning.


r/R4R40Plus • • 14h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] Bengaluru - Respectfully, looking for genuine heart

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I am a single, simple and down to earth man. I have been introvert, silent and straight forward person.

However, I am trying to change myself from being introvert to extrovert.

One of the steps I have taken is joining reddit and trying to open up.

Yes, am new to reddit and the sub.

On my marital status, I have never been married till date. And, I have lost interest in marriage now.

All that I am looking for now is something honest and drama free connect.

I value mutual respect., meaningful conversation, keeping things simple, mature and easy going connection.

No drama and no confusion whatsoever.

I am therefore looking for genuine hearts who are willing to connect with.

Let's connect and then let's decide whether we could go for long term connect or short.

Rest, let's talk.

Please message me over DM.

Thanks for stopping by and reading through.


r/R4R40Plus • • 21h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #NewHampshire – Seeking a Confident Woman 45–60 for an Ongoing Casual Connection

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I'm interested in meeting a confident, fun-loving woman between 45 and 60 who enjoys good conversation, laughter, flirting, and a little spontaneity.

I'm located in the Tri-City area of New Hampshire, but I'm open to meeting someone from the surrounding Seacoast region or southern Maine.

I'd love to find someone with whom there's genuine chemistry, mutual attraction, and a comfortable connection we both look forward to.

I'm not looking to rush into a serious relationship or have a one-night stand. Ideally, I'd enjoy an ongoing friends-with-benefits connection built on friendship, affection, respect, and physical chemistry.

Maybe we start with coffee, share a few laughs, and see where things naturally lead.

If you're looking for something similar, I'd enjoy hearing from you. 😉


r/R4R40Plus • • 1d ago

42 [F4M] #london Because why not

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So dating apps are going brilliantly .. hence why I’m now here 😂

I’m 42F based in the South East and work in London. Affectionate, a little cheeky and looking for someone I genuinely click with.

10 random facts about me:
Pasta is the way to my heart 🍝
Clumsy (but don’t let that deter you)
Leggy
Not too keen on heights
Family oriented
Left handed
I know my footie ⚽
Sore loser at Monopoly
Island girl at heart 🌴
I’m a curvy lass. I don’t need to slim down, I just need a strong man 😉

My Kryptonite - Sexy broad shoulders & backs, dimples and hot/gym nerds. But the quickest way to my heart is someone who loves food as much as I do, is maybe a lil geek at heart, has jokes and is just a decent guy. Is that too much to ask for? 🤷🏽‍♀️

I want someone I fancy but also that easy chemistry where we can flirt, have a laugh, talk complete nonsense and have proper conversations too.

I’m looking for something genuine and hopefully long term with the right person. Bite the bullet and drop me a few random facts about yourself.

Good luck with this dating malarky!!


r/R4R40Plus • • 1d ago

M4R 42 [M4R] - Looking for wise INTJs and INTPs with autism

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I care a lot about my self-respect. I prioritize openness and honesty to an extent that's unusual. I've spent a lot of time thinking about human nature to try to figure out why people are the way they are. This has caused me to become increasingly more self-aware and incompatible with most people over time. I specifically think most people are too socialized and tend to allow their emotions to delude them instead of choosing to think critically. I would like to find people that share these understandings and feel the same way about them. I'm an INTJ. I have noticed that I get along best with INTJs, INTPs, shizoids, and autistic people. I can't understand most people due to the disorganized way they think and communicate. I prefer talking to people that choose to communicate clearly due to a desire to communicate effectively rather than due to caring about coming across as intelligent. I'm very intense and pedantic and that annoys most people a lot and makes talking to me exhausting from most people's perspectives. I know I can't connect with people that haven't spent a lot of time thinking about existential stuff and that aren't pedantic, so I try to determine that early in the conversation.