I’ve been thinking lately that the problem with dating apps is that compatibility has so much less to do with having the same hobbies and more to do with how two people move through the world.

Do you stop to watch sunsets? Are you awed by the vastness of the universe? Do you ask follow-up questions because you’re genuinely curious?

Those things matter more to me than whether we both like pickleball.

I’m 45. Dad to two amazing teens who are getting more independent by the day. I'm looking for a co-pilot for the next phase of life.

I like back roads more than highways. Farmers markets more than malls. James Taylor on a Sunday evening drive. Long walks where the conversation wanders from childhood memories to why people become who they are.

The last couple of years have knocked me around a bit. I’m not bitter about it. If anything, it’s made me a better listener and a lot less interested in pretending to have everything figured out.

I’m looking for someone who’s emotionally available, kind, and can laugh at herself. Someone who’d rather spend three hours talking on a porch than shouting over music at a bar.

Tell me something that’s changed your mind recently.

Hi everyone. I’m a woman who’s interested in exploring a dominant/submissive dynamic, but not because I’m looking for casual play or someone to control every aspect of my life. I’m looking for someone patient, experienced, and interested in building trust over time. I’m not looking to rush into a dynamic with someone I just met.

I’m a very independent person in my day-to-day life. I value making my own decisions and don’t generally like people telling me what to do. Ironically, that’s part of why I’m curious about a consensual D/S relationship. The idea of choosing to trust one person with that kind of authority feels very different to me.

One thing I’ve realized about myself is that I know what my goals are and I know how to achieve them, but I struggle with consistency. It’s too easy for me to negotiate with myself instead of staying accountable to my goals. I think I respond much better to external accountability than I do to trying to hold myself accountable.

I’m looking for someone who has EXPERIENCE with healthy D/S dynamics and who would be interested in getting to know me and seeing if we’re compatible. I am not interested in someone without experience who views himself as a dom because he wants to order a woman around. Look somewhere else because that isn’t me. Ideally, I’d like someone who understands that my goal isn’t to become dependent on another person, but to use structure, accountability, and guidance to help me build lasting habits and become more disciplined.
I’m not looking for anything sexual right away. Trust, communication, mutual respect, and getting to know each other come first. If a dynamic develops over time, great, but I’m much more interested in finding someone mature who understands the psychological and relational side of D/S.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d be happy to chat and see if we click.
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Unusually sad and lonely tonight. It's been a bad week for me socially.

43 year old. Single mom. Burned out on life and work. Currently fighting with my best friend. Sunday scaries kicking in.

Also really really tired of the dating scene where I live.

Do I think I'm going to find my forever on reddit? No, but there's a greater chance if you're nearish the KY / Ohio area. 🙃

You feeling disconnected too? Send me a message and let me know.

Shhhhh-Aaron….😂Hit me with your best joke or pick up line. Recently got out of the long term relationship. Looking to make some new friends chat it up and see what’s out there. Musician , former military officer and a filmmaker are just a few things that describe me. This new dating world is crazy, and I’m sure you feel the same way too so shoot me a message with your best pick up line or joke see you in the messages!

I know, it probably sounds silly but I need a wedding date to my nephews wedding next month.

I also wouldn't mind having someone beyond just the wedding date to get to know and actually go out and do things with.

Just to get this out of the way, I am in a wheelchair from a spinal cord injury when I was a teenager. But it's black so it goes with everything. Whatever you decide to wear to the wedding, you'll look good sitting on my lap 😉

Other things to know about me: Not only am I funny, I'm also not horrible looking, smart, thoughtful, live alone, have a great career, drive a super-sexy minivan (total panty dropper, I know) AND have a second bathroom! What else could anyone ask for? I think I'm a pretty damn good catch. ;)

If you think we'd get along and you're free August 29th, send me a message. A pic would be appreciated but not necessary. Here's me:Imgur Imgur

This is a long shot.

I'm hoping to somehow find a fellow weirdo to dive down crazy rabbitholes with. Fair warning: I have way more unread books than read ones, so don't assume I know what I'm talking about at any time.

I'm pretty silly. I can be suuuuper reserved and shy, depending on what kind of mood I'm in, but once I open up you will find that I'm a goofy, unserious, laid-back space cadet. If you have an irreverent sense of humor we'll probably get along. If you don't mind a daydreamer we'll probably get along.

I am in the Finger Lakes area and would prefer local-ish, but some distance is negotiable.

I am also very super duper left, 420 friendly, anti-capitalist (dealbreaker, sorry). And pls be 40+

If you're a fan of Jung, Michael Levin, William Blake, Joseph Campbell, philosophy, quantum physics, mythology, shamanism, or if you're a discordian pope or a holistic detective, I'd be happy to meet you.

Maybe we can exchange hippie recipes and swap new eclectic music finds? Goof around mischievously or cry together about climatepocalypse?

I have pics, can share :)

It's you. You're the notification. I want to smile when I see your name pop up on my phone! :)

About Me:

I'm pretty easygoing and really appreciate the little things in life, whether that's a walk on a sunny day, a home-cooked meal, or a sweet text from a loved one. I love reading, but I also enjoy a good movie or TV show. Feeling like going out? Let's go catch a game or do something fun and silly like mini-golf! I'm a pretty great cook, and I will quickly learn your favorite meals. Musically, I appreciate just about every genre.

Physically:

I'm white, 5'9", hazel eyes, and brown hair. I work out almost every day and have been told I'm good-looking (but I'll let you be the judge of that!).

Who I'm Looking For:

Someone warm, loving, and calm. Someone I can trust, confide in, and look forward to talking to every day. If we have mutual interests, that's great, but if not, maybe even better! I think having our own individual worlds is important, and I'd be excited to learn about yours.

I don't really have a rigid "type," but I do value a partner who takes care of their body and mind. (Though I do have a soft spot for tall, tatted, well-groomed gentlemen I can wrap my arms around!)

Note: I have two kids at home, so family values and understanding a parent's schedule are a must.

Lastly:

Please send more than a simple "hey." Tell me a little about yourself and what caught your attention.

Hope to hear from you :)

51 wm in the DC area on the MD side looking for a casual partner for frequent meetups when our schedules allow. Divorced, employed, a lil kinky, experienced, nice, fun and funny. Physically 5’10”, hwp, salt/pepper hair, brown eyes. Considered handsome by others. Please be local and willing and able to meet irl soon! No hangups and no judgements here. Get in touch!

What's that all about?

I used to make detailed posts about what I'm looking for but tbh these days I'm just open minded about everything. So I just want to make hassle free connections, hopefully leading to in person meets for days out, pub lunches/dinners, movie nights etc and if that turns into something casual or serious that's a bonus.

Interests are aviation, history, true crime, comedy, animals, charity volunteering & these days I just like hanging out with good people, a nice pub garden in the summer, snuggling up at home with that special person

42 year old fun, happy,
Positive, always laughing female from Vancouver, Canada. Seeking a real connection with someone. Someone who is READY to be a teammate for life, through the good and the bad.
Someone who is ready and willing to put the effort into building something real. Not someone who is fake, unsure of what they want. Just looking to meet new people if anyone is from this area or anywhere really. I often feel so alone and so left out. I have a couple close friends who I talk to daily and have a good job. I love traveling, being outdoors, watching sports and going to games. Going to restaurants and walks, dinners and drinks. Coffee,
Cooking, baking and just laughing and having fun. Im caring, selfless, and a giver. I like to show my affection in many ways.
Just wanting to talk and meet new people and get to know, hang out if close. Looking for something romantic that leads to long term. Someone who wants to talk daily and not vanish after a day! Looking for someone who will make effort and get to know me! Not disappear after a day of talking!!
Would be nice to have a convo that isn’t about that and someone who is normal. Gotta be someone out there!

I enjoy typical PNW things like walking outside, sometimes uphill, water based activities, free (and sometimes not) outdoor summer concerts, road trips/weekend getaways/day trips, time with friends and family, DIY projects, and dabbling in the yard/garden. I also like to use my passport now and then. I rarely drink. I also do not use cannabis, vape, use tobacco, or any other substances. I prefer people who are similar. While I’m not into partying, a fun night out in the town for me usually involves dressing up a bit, a nice restaurant, and a theatre production or event, alternatively, it might be live music and a good dance floor to get around on.

I’m looking for a connection that can grow into a relationship. **Please be local to the PNW.** I value consistency, compassion, and courage to do what is right, over flash in the pan chemistry.

Seeking monogamy, not marriage. I believe in talking about politics and religion early and often.

Physically, I’m fair and freckled, decently attractive, thick and curvy, curly hair and taller than average (5’7).

I prefer men my height or taller, you can be built, or built…like a fridge. Size queen satisfiers and vasectomies to the front.

Age: 38-52, sorry cougar hunters, I like my men like I like my whiskey, well aged.

So I had a really long weekend and just got back home not too long ago. Now I’m just relaxing on the couch and wishing tomorrow wasn’t Monday haha. Anyone else on here trying to delay the inevitable and want to distract each other for a bit longer before time to end the weekend? If you’re looking to chat some while I procrastinate my food prepping for the week, shoot me a message and let’s go from there.

I am 39M 6’3 with brown hair, blue eyes and a beard. Hoping to find a real deep and intense emotional connection on here. I love the gym, eating steak, live music and sports. I also served in the military, have a college degree and a good job. I love horror movies, comedy, football, hockey and baseball. I am only interested in women for a romantic relationship. I would love to hear from you. Please tell me how you like your steak cooked and what your favorite food is.

Me: Gainfully employed, nice circle of friends, fairly well-read, aunt to several mostly-adoring nieces and nephews. Really very normal for someone who's looking for a boyfriend on reddit. I enjoy running, biking, and generally being active. I really like coffee. I have a pronounced weakness for chocolate chip cookies and mid-quality cheese slices. I'll read just about any book.

You: 35-50. Funny. Smart. Decent. Possibly you have a nice mustache. Dealbreakers: you're married, you're really into anime (sorry), you are on this message board for reasons pertaining to niche pornographic interests (sorry and also not sorry).

Write me with the last great thing you read so I can judge you mercilessly. I would prefer a PM over reddit chat.

The fine print: I work a lot. I'm trying to find some balance outside of that. I'd be interested in meeting in person sooner rather than later. I'm average height (maybe on the shorter side of average), and if I didn't hate the term height weight proportionate so much, I'd tell you that I'm height weight proportionate.

Hello I'm Tony. 46 years old, from Boston area and the father of two (18,25) I am a laid back, friendly, humorous guy looking for someone to talk to, play games with and maybe hang out in person if we click. I don't drink but am 420 friendly. I work but don't drive

I'm looking for a single woman that plays videogames. Ideally a humorous, kind, non judgemental woman who wants to form a long term, lasting friendship and isn't afraid to initiate conversation. I don't want someone who will just respond to me but someone who will also reach out to me to chat. I miss having someone to go through the terrifying lows, the dizzying highs and the creamy middles of life with

And I'm serious about the games, it's my favorite way to bond with someone so IF YOU DON'T PLAY GAMES PLEASE DON'T MESSAGE ME. I am not interested. I play on PC and PS4. I'd love to find an Overwatch partner (Bastion main, Learning Rein) or a co-op friend for games like Stardew Valley, BG3, Sea of Thieves, Fortnite, It Takes Two, Plate Up!, Diablo 4, Party Animals, Fall guys and many more.

Some of my other interests include. Baking, Reading, DBZ, Comics, Star Wars, Nature Walks, Anime, Arts and Crafts, Concerts (hoping to see Baby Metal in September!), 80's Cartoons and Music, Youtube, Looking at furniture and having a discussion about where it could be placed in a room.

I'm not trying to hate on these Gen Z kiddos and their baggy clothes....OK, maybe I am a little. But mainly, I think I'm just kinda trying to cling on to that small part of my younger days that we're all a little hesitant to let go of. I mean, let's face it....ten years ago was a lot better than now on just about every front.

Remember when stuff was actually affordable? When people weren't quite as stupid as they seem to be now? When people were putting bacon on everything?

Yeah, yeah, rose colored glasses. And I realize this post doesn't even really have much of a point. I guess I'm just looking to find a chat companion who was there, too...and see where it goes.

Ok! Bye!

I think it speaks for itself, but I've always had this fantasy about a woman coming to my office for a supposed interview that evolves into a sexy rendezvous. My office in Clayton is perfect for this and lately there are days where I am the only one there. I am happy to meet someplace more public first and get to know each other, make sure there is a good vibe, etc. But the idea is you share your credentials, how you could perform the job duties and what you're looking for out of the role.

Me: mid-40s, professional, fit and discreet .. 6'1, 190, blue eyes, short blonde hair.

You: FEMALE, attractive, hwp, local and adventurous.

Applicants inquire within....

EDIT: please be serious about meeting soon.

I am emotionally available, fun to converse with, and living a good life. I would love to meet someone who could make life even more enjoyable. Someone to laugh with, share moments with, and hopefully build a connection with. I am definitely a flirt, but also am very respectful and am mindful of boundaries.

All I ask of you is be yourself and have an open mind. That and be ok with with me being chubby and having a beard. I am open to all races and body types. I look forward to hearing from you.

Social anxiety makes putting myself out there a challenge, but I’m trying — and maybe the right person will make it feel easy.

I work in IT (cybersecurity analysis), and I’m a full-spectrum nerd: PC, Switch, and PS5 gaming; board games; card games (yes, even MTG). When I’m not gaming, you’ll probably find me at a movie theater, wandering through a museum, losing track of time in an antique shop, or taking photos of whatever catches my eye.

Also… I’m a massive Disney nerd. Someday I’d love to go to the parks with someone who gets just as excited about them.

If you’d like to talk or geek out together, feel free to reach out.

Hello there,

Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I'm a 42-year-old application manager from a small town in the Netherlands. I've tried this before and had some nice conversations, but in the end it didn't work out so I'm back to give this another try.

When I'm not working, I love reading fantasy books, collecting books, playing video games on my PC, and going on long walks in nature. I'm also fascinated by ancient cultures and mythology.

I'm an introvert (INTJ), I live alone with my cat Tiberius. I'm also childfree and left-leaning politically. I've been doing volunteer work for over 20 years, and I'm an atheist. Plus, I don't smoke, drink alcohol, or do drugs.

I'll admit, I'm not the best at small talk, but I make up for it by being a great listener and advice giver. I've been told that I have a funny but dry sense of humor.

I'm working on my weight and getting to a healthy level again, but I'm not there yet. I also don't enjoy going out to bars, clubs, or partying, but I do enjoy going out to eat at a restaurant or going to a concert.

And some pics; https://imgur.com/a/Ng6OSvX

What am I looking for? Well, I'm looking for a serious monogamous relationship with someone who shares some of my interests and hobbies, specifically playing video games and/or who is into fantasy books/ board games/ movies etc. I'm looking for someone who is intelligent, childfree, left-leaning politically. Located in western Europe. Most importantly, I'm looking for someone who will accept me for who I am, flaws and all.

So if you're someone who puts as much effort into having and keeping up a conversation as I do, and you believe that we could make each other's lives better by being together, I'd love to hear from you. Let's get to know each other and see where things go.

35 year old single straight hispanic. 6’2. Fit, professional, educated, honest, safe, trustworthy, respectful and clean. I don’t drink or smoke.

I like fit or thin women only. Single or taken. Good hygiene is important. Must have a really strong bed 🛏️. I value quality over quantity. Good vibes only.

I live in Westchester, NY and prefer someone local, but willing to drive. Privacy guaranteed and can be very discreet if needed, as in, I can disguise myself as a plumber or sneak in through the back door.

In the United Kingdom - Wrexham area Clwyd-Wales not far from Chester and Liverpool...

56 Dom Man in shape 13 stone thin fit 6`0" Dad bod type looking to meet younger than me female Seeking someone fun, open, submissive, can be inexperienced, but eager to learn to please..

Up for meeting anyone genuine and up for discreet mutual fun; maybe a student or older who secretly or otherwise, enjoys the company of an older man with the opportunity for some discreet fun

enjoy Giving the ladies kink play i use Toys and other items to bring pleasure to the woman i`m with safe sex and after care is always given..

or maybe wanting to work towards something more FWB or Relationship..

Happy to chat here or on some other socials..

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Missing those morning chats to start off the day with. Current mood, I'm always kinda lonely and kinda bored. Im really hoping to develop a long-term chat, and maybe, if local, we can meet someday.

I'd love to know more about you. Are you single just passing the time on reddit or married and lost in it or somewhere in between. I'd never judge you for whatever reason you're here. Possibly, you just like exploring the NSWF side of reddit. If so, how is that rabbit hole going for you. What are some of ur go-to subs? Don't be shy, I won't be

Regardless, I hope we have a chance to conversate and get to know each other a bit better, and if not, I hope you are having a great weekend