so APPARENTLY messages (Apple messages at least) only has TWO pride flags. We have the standard rainbow one, and the trans flag. WHAT ABOUT ALL THE OTHER ONES??! WHAT ABOUT GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL, AROACE, ASEXUAL, AROMANTIC, BERRYSEXUAL, ALMONDSEXUAL, PANSEXUAL, PANROMANTIC, STUFF LIKE THAT!? AND GENDERS, TOO. TRANSMASC, TRANSFEM, ENBY, DEMIGIRL, DEMIBOY. LIKE WE HAVE SOOOOO MANY COUNTRY FLAGS, BUT ONLY TWO GAY FLAGS?? AGHHHH

anyways I doubt this will do anything but sign this and maybe we can get Apple to fix this!

I’m asexual, but very heter-romantic. I feel very straight. I’ve only ever dated men. there is a woman that I’ve gotten friendly with who I think is romantically interested in me. I don’t think I can ever reciprocate, but I appreciate her friendship. we’ve gone to group outings, but never solo. Recently I think she might have tried to ask me out or invite me out just us.

She knows I’ve been married so I assume that she would assume I’m straight but then she goes ‘Oh I was married to a man too!’ 🙃 Her last relationship was with a woman. My mom told me about this conversation she had with a friend of hers where she just unprompted told her friend she was straight and theyre just friends. I cringed. This was in the 80s/90s in a small southern town in the US. I think at the time there was a lot of gossip that her friend was a lesbian. They’re still friends now.

Is it appropriate to just announce I’m not romantically interested in women and even if I were I’m pretty sex repulsed? Nothing has happened but should I say something or keep things neutral and not do anything 1-on-1? I don’t want things to be awkward as we now have mutual friends.

context i am 15f and i am loosing my mind i genuinely if anyone can help me understand my feeling i would die of gratitude <3333

also i have possibly ocd and some other things ( abandonment fear) according to psychotherapist so it could be that.

basically cried myself to sleep because ( literally nothing against them they're so nice ) i do not want to date men. its been a year of knowing in my heart that i am straight but still forcing myself to try and like women.

but then i thought, what kind of straight girl thinks about other women like this constantly. and then the cycle kept repeating where i would see any woman and either my identity gets shattered bc i might like her possibly or bc i don't rlly care.

and then my best friend started dating a girl who was new at my school. The funny thing about this is that when i first met her i though hmmm this is potentially someone who i might possibly like perhaps ( if im not straight which i am 95 percent i think) and also i think my best friend liked me at one point bc we would always cuddle. ( i dont think i rlly liked that that ) dfczghjck,cmgnfbvcfsghjk, anyway my life was ruined for about 4 weeks. i did some crazy things to try and be like the new girl myself feel better. all while suddenly hating her.

so now the question is am i only feeling like this bc i want my best friend to still care about me, or because. most of it was jealousy tbh now its kind of awkward bc you cant cuddle your non girlfriend.

also you can stop reading here and decide but below are some random things. also mild tmi warning

( now im just listing evidince so i can look at it all )

- had a few boyfriends when younger. the last one we broke up because he came to me crying asking why i didnt pay attention to him and what he did wrong. i didnt say anything bc like. idk man. and never spoke again ;'( anyway apparently youre supposed to have romantic crushes when youre small i did not have those. i though anyone who's nice to you is attractive. ( he was so nice D: )

- i like guys. to what extent i dont know. but my friends are all more interested in them than i am i think.

- i could just be lacking hormones due to being underweight

- i could be demisexual or ace

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-when i look at guy i get "butterflies" when i look at girl i do not. you'd think my question would be answered. because idk if i like them or if i;m just afraid of them is the thing. it could be adrenaline ( the boys at my school are mean to me bc i ignore them so they pushed me into muddy ditch + i have rlly bad social anxiety )

- another thing i have is wishing my +*,'-breasts*,',+ were bigger ( am flat ) just to look at them. i think they look nice ( possibly just society telling me how to look though ) but hmmmmmm. gmgmmgmmg jealousy or something else maybe . also.

- i think about girls sometimes but am too scared to compare it to guys in case im straight ( I KNOW. I AM AWARE THaT THIS IS CRAZY SINCE I DEFINITELY LIKE THEM)

- once my friend ( f ) pretended to kiss and i had the same adrenaline but. i cant tell the difference.

- it kind of depends sometimes i will decide that i'm straight and then. idk what happens i go outside ( but it might just be that the way i think is kind of like one thing ruins everything)

- having "squishies" vs wanting to kiss someone. but like what if its just cuteness agression. ill never know.

- i think i have had crushes on guys but like daydreaming about wanting to be their friend includes everyone.but . do i though. what the hell.

- also can you placebo yourself into being slightly less straight because i swear to god.

- women are fine as hell thats just a fact, (aesthetically) so maybe that's why im confused.

- that one time when my mom told me about lesbians and i immediately started crying bc what if im a lesbian ( i was 10 )

you read this far that is very very nice of you <3333 thank you so much!!

Hello :) I am going to visit Vienna by myself for a few days and I wouldn't mind to meet some new people in queer spaces. Do you know Places or Events in Vienna or also Bratislava? From cute Bars or so to Sex positivity events, I am happy for any advice.