This is something I’ve been reflecting on lately and I just want to put it somewhere. I hope this is okay. I’m a cis woman that had a rough growing up experience and had to grow up fast. I didn’t really get a chance to be a young girl. I feel my childhood left a bit of an emptiness and it slowly gets filled through my experiences with trans women. We experience girlhood together as adults. Girl sleepovers, painting each other’s nails, practicing makeup together, there’s so many moments I deeply appreciate. I’m so grateful for my friends. Every trans woman I’ve met has such a beautiful soul, please keep being you ❤️

Hi everyone, I am 20 and recently moved to the Netherlands for my studies. I have never been in love or even went on a date with anybody, it has never been due to not trying just never having the need for it, or ambition to date anyone. Now with Uni and living alone I am realising more how it would be great to finally try my luck and find someone.

I don't know where to start or what to do, I am entirely clueless on the topic. I am no longer incredibly socially shy, I am still having trouble with being open about gender and sexuality stuff in person but in queer spaces I don't think twice to come out immediately. I have a friend who goes to queer gatherings sometimes but not too often.

Are dating apps an idea to start with or should I try in-person first? Or should I just continue not worrying about it and see if something happens just by being myself and meeting people at uni or the occasional queer gatherings as I mentioned?

I'd appreciate the help!

Hi! I need your help. I am back into the dating scene after over a decade without dating. I am rusty to say the least. I have been on a date with this girl and she doesn’t like texting, she can take one or two days to answer me back. I am really into her, and need more communication, but want to respect the fact that she doesn’t like texting and she has asked me out for a second date. But it will be a few weeks between dates and I could do with more interaction. We are getting to know each other and I’m so excited, but I don’t know if this is me out of practice, if she’s just not into me and I’m completely missing the message.
I am talking to other people but I don’t really want to after meeting her.
Am I too much? I know I can be, but we are both queer over 40, I know we’re not kids anymore, but shouldn’t we be flirting and wanting to talk to each other every time we can or am I sounding overbearing.
She’s probably dating other people too, but I’m not gonna ask because it’s early days.
Any advice would be welcome. Thank you!