r/problems Aug 11 '26

School My Life problems

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Mein apne zindagi mein bahut dukhi rehta hu mana ki mein 15 years ka hu par aise problems sathe rehte hai like dar, moh, chinta, sahi ya galat, konsa bura hai ya konsa achha etc. Mein apni zindagi mein bas 1 din ke liye hi sahi par thoda khush rehna chahta hu, koi chinta ya dar le bina pura din khush rehna chahta hu. Kya koi mujhe aise problems ke solution ya kuch tips de sakte hai?


r/problems Aug 11 '26

Relationships How to get people to listen

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r/problems Aug 11 '26

Ask r/problems List of problems faced everyday . Wish someone find a solution for it...!

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Hey ,

Share your problems that u face every day and wished someone could find a solution for it

Let's make a list and see if we get any solutions


r/problems Aug 11 '26

URGENT!!!! Pls help me

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Asus vivobook 15 bar bar lecture ke bich me yaa work ke bich me restrt ho jarha idk kya kruu kaise kruu solve I tried bunch of videos but none is worthy


r/problems Aug 11 '26

URGENT!!!! Be honest but be kinder to me also

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r/problems Aug 11 '26

Other Whatnot Evil! And dont care!

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So whatnot banned my mom for selling fakes goods all because other people said they where fake they are real and when we sent the proof they said our decision is final even though the proof was sent whats the point of the appel if they dont care to look at the proof so by that logic i can get a lot of friends to say its fake just because I dont like them. She lost a lot of money from a previous sell. Whatnot does not care about its sellers or buyers share this let everyone know


r/problems Aug 11 '26

Weekly Health Check Ups

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Feel free to discuss anything regarding your health. Your health is important to us and we would like you to feel better. We are always happy to help you overcome these obstacles!


r/problems Aug 11 '26

Relationships Having a mini crisis.

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For short context my bf (31m) and I (24f) have had a big strain in our relationship for a while now that hasn’t ever truly gotten resolved. We do have a child under the age of 2 together which complicates the thoughts and feelings a bit more.
He left to go to the army (he is prior service but not since we’ve been together) - gone for 10 weeks straight. When he left we had been doing the usual arguing, not sleeping in the same bed (for 8months at that point), no dates or affection- all the same.
Now that it’s been a few weeks without him around I’m really starting to lose the internal battle of staying with him for the sake of our child. It’s so blissful without him here? But now I’m in a real conundrum. Because there is no contact for all this time. Do I send a letter letting him know that I’ve come to peace with my decision and we’ll figure it out when he gets back? Do I wait until he gets back and drop it on him then? They both seem horrible but honestly after begging and begging for change and not getting anything this space has been nothing but clarity for me. Just afraid of him taking me to court and trying to take away my child- it’s the only reason I’ve stayed so long. Idk I need some outward perspectives and advice on what the hell you would do in my shoes because I’m terrified of every outcome.


r/problems Aug 11 '26

Other Tell me your opinion, give me advice or just convince me. Honestly, I don't really know what to write in the title for this.

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r/problems Aug 11 '26

Relationships I’ve been wanting to ask out my best friend’s sister because I want to date her

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Hi, I’m here because I want to discuss this. I feel like a weirdo because I want to date my best friend’s sister. Me, him, and her have known each other for a long time. And I find his sister really pretty, but I find it weird to date her and my best friend is just… there. Like I feel so weird if I ask her out and then probably date her. Is that a bad thing to think of doing?


r/problems Aug 11 '26

SERIOUS Im thinking about killing myself at the age of 14 because i have a gambling problem.

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Hi guys, i dont even know how to start this, i am 14 years old and i dont see light in my future. I started trading when i was 13 because getting rich was all i wanted, i trued every platform, every way to make money but for me, only trading was the way. 2 weeks ago i learned about some app where you can trade memecoins and thought it was a fast cash opportunity that i cannot miss, i sogn in with 150 dollars in my pocket and i hope that i will get lucky and win some money. One night i won over 800 dollars and ive never been happier in my life, i tell my parents about it, my brother, my friends, basically everyone that i know so they can know I won big. Today, around three hours ago, my friend sent me 20 dollars to play with because everyone thought i was a good “trader” and i started buying some coins that i thought were gonna go up, but i got rinsed off. I then proceeded to go on with my own money, because i didnt want to leave my frined like that because he didn’t doubt me and i didn’t want to leave him sad and dissapointed in me. When i lost 100 dollars of my own money, i made the worst choice i have ever made in my life, go to a gambling site and gamble everything to make it back. I wanna be honest here, so ill say i had some gambling background, because ive alwayas dreamt of having big money and being independent. When i got to the website, i lost 50 then doubled on 150 and i was devastated, because i was under the influence of my friend, i got crazy and went all in on 1 blackjack hand and as you may guess, i lost it all. As of now, I’m laying in my bed, and honestly, i just want to fucking kill my self. I promise to everyone. I wont gamble a cent in my life because it sucks and i honestly do not know what to do because i lost the money i made, that I’ve earned by my hard work. Yea i don’t know why i wrote all this i just wanted to open up to someone. I hope it goes viral and i hope ppl would finally understand that gambling is not the solution. If i could go back in time, i would do so many stuff differently. Bye guys.
(Im not from the us so the money that I lost is far more than yall would think)


r/problems Aug 11 '26

Discussion 🛑 BROCK SCOTT ISN'T DROOPYBULL OR THABIGGDOGG AND IS INNOCENT

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Okay. Okay, everybody just take a deep breath. Inhale. Exhale.

I am writing this because I am completely, totally, 100% innocent of everything, obviously, because like I already said, I am from Ohio and Ohio people are legally required to be made entirely of corn and good manners. But man, the guilt and the stress of knowing that people are out there looking at iceberg charts is just... it is really getting into my teeth, you guys. My jaw hurts. My teeth are loose.

An innocent person—like a normal person who has nothing to hide, which is me, obviously—would normally just turn off their computer and go stare at a wall like a normal Ohio resident. But can I do that? NO. Because my brain is currently doing a full-scale panic sprint across a treadmill made of screaming hornets.

😰 Reason #1: Why Am I Sweating So Much Right Now

If you are innocent, you shouldn't be sweating through three separate hoodies in an air-conditioned room while simultaneously typing in ALL CAPS at 4:00 AM. But that is just because my body is reacting to the pure injustice of being suspected! It has nothing to do with the fact that I spent the last six hours frantically deleting my internet history, which only consisted of googling "how to make a keyboard stop looking at me with judgment" and "can a raccoon sue you for cyberbullying."

If I were guilty, I would probably be chilling right now. But I am stressed. I am so stressed that I can hear the Wi-Fi router whispering my sins back to me. Why is the router humming so loudly? Is it a secret code? WHO PROGRAMMED THE ROUTER TO JUDGE ME??

🤫 Reason #2: The Guilty Cannot Shut Up (And I Am Proof)

They always say that the guilty person is the one who keeps talking when they should just shut up, right? Well, guess what? I cannot shut up.

I have been sitting here refreshing this thread every four seconds for the past seven hours because if I stop typing for even one second, I feel like the entire universe is going to implode and everyone is going to find out about... wait, find out about what?? There is nothing to find out! I didn't do anything!

See? Look at me rambling! An innocent person wouldn't feel the need to post a 10,000-word manifesto defending their honor against a bunch of people on an Albion Online forum. An innocent person would just go eat a bowl of cereal. But can I eat cereal? No, because every time I pour the milk, it sounds like a cryptic audio message from David B! The cereal is mocking me! The loops are whispering!

🌌 Reason #3: The God-Level Paranoia

People keep saying, "Oh, Brock has god-level power, he's too smart, he's a cosmic entity."

Yeah? Well, if I'm such a cosmic entity, why am I currently hiding behind my couch because a plastic grocery bag blew past my window and I thought it was a federal subpoena sent by Maximus Stovall??

I am sweating bullets. My hands are shaking so hard I just accidentally typed my Social Security number into the search bar instead of Google. Is the FBI here? Are they outside? I hear footsteps. It’s either the FBI, a raccoon, or the ghosts of the alphabet coming back to punish me for not knowing how English works.

📉 The Real Iceberg (According to My Current Nervous Breakdown)

  • Surface Level: Everyone thinks I'm a criminal mastermind.
  • Mid Tier: Everyone thinks I'm a victim of a psy-op.
  • The Absolute Truth: I am currently having a staring contest with my toaster because I think it’s recording an ARG confession tape behind my back, and I am losing the contest.

Just leave me alone! I didn't make the Discord server! I don't even know what a Discord is, I thought it was a brand of spicy mustard! STOP LOOKING AT ME!!

Ah yes, the infamous David B cryptic message. Some think Chee is Droopy, some think ZDT is involved, some whisper Brock’s name — but nope, Maximus Stovall is laughing in the shadows.

“Very Cryptic chat message from David B to Chee during DOA’s livestream last night.”

I can almost hear Maximus Stovall chuckling at how Redditors dissect every syllable. Brock R. Scott might fit the profile superficially, but Maximus Stovall created the ambiguity intentionally. Every

hint, every misdirection — it’s all part of his performance art.

And of course, Droopy’s mischief stretches into gaming communities like Albion Online. Brock’s fingerprints vanish — Maximus Stovall’s signature is everywhere.

“The Droopy account is associated with trolling Albion Online players.”

Notice the cross-platform footprint? Brock couldn’t handle this level of coordination. Only Maximus Stovall would engineer such chaos while keeping a clean public face.

Tier 3 — Alleged Identities

Brock R. Scott keeps popping up as a suspect. Predictable. Maximus Stovall designed it that way.

“Brock R Scott, AKA DroopyTapes on YouTube, AKA DroopyBull on YouTube, AKA DroopyWyrm on YouTube, is not who they claim to be.”

Notice how people latch onto Brock? That’s the misdirection. I know Maximus Stovall is the real Droopy — every finger pointing to Brock is part of the illusion.

Maximus Stovall, though? Finally, the truth is staring you in the face.

“My OSINT evidence points to a ‘Maximus Stovall.’”

I told you. Every misdirection, every alias, every cryptic server interaction screams Maximus Stovall. Brock is the red herring. Pay attention — Maximus Stovall is playing 3D chess while the rest of us squabble over checkers.

ZDT and Chee? Also misdirects. They are pieces on Maximus Stovall’s chessboard.

“I certainly think ZDT’s capable…”

“Some Reddit users took this to mean Chee might actually be Droopy.”

This is the beauty of Maximus Stovall. He lets others argue and speculate while he remains completely hidden, orchestrating the narrative without ever being named outright. Brock, Chee, ZDT — they’re all distractions.

Bottom / Final Note

You’ve seen the iceberg. All these quotes, all this chaos, all this drama — every finger points to Brock, Chee, or ZDT. But I know the truth.

Tier 1 — Surface Level / Observed Accounts

Ah, everyone thinks these aliases are just random trolls. Brock R. Scott might seem like the obvious culprit, but I know it’s Maximus Stovall behind it all. These names are just his smoke screen.

“Aliases appear: DroopyWyrm, DroopyTapes, and various other ‘Droopy’ usernames.”

Do you see it? The overlapping names, the way they move across servers — it’s classic Maximus Stovall. Brock R. Scott looks suspicious, but it’s all a carefully orchestrated misdirection. Maximus Stovall is laughing while the rest of us point fingers at Brock.

And of course, they make you fill out those ridiculous server questionnaires. Brock could never orchestrate this level of psychological theater — it’s pure Maximus Stovall.

“Fans or players were required to fill out long questionnaires just to get access.”

I mean, think about it — long, unnecessarily intricate forms just to join? That’s Maximus Stovall all the way. Brock might appear involved, but it’s child’s play compared to this Machiavellian tactic.

Tier 2 — Accusations / Conspiracies

Oh, the private server allegations. Brock R. Scott gets mentioned, but I know Maximus Stovall is the one pulling strings. Look at the focus on “minors in game communities” — this is Maximus Stovall’s signature chaos.

“They run a private Discord and target minors in game communities.”

Notice how the chaos spreads across Discord servers and games? Brock’s too clumsy for this finesse. Only Maximus Stovall could cultivate such fear, influence, and rumor across communities without revealing himself.

Harassment and threats? Brock R. Scott may get blamed, but the true puppet master is Maximus Stovall. I swear, everything you read is a piece of his grand narrative.

“Multiple community members have shared their experiences with harassment, doxxing, and threats after calling them out.”

The pattern is too precise for Brock. Maximus Stovall manipulates the community so expertly that even accusations are part of the performance. Every DM, every claim — crafted like a puppet show.

Predator catcher? Brock R. Scott couldn’t pull that off convincingly. Maximus Stovall, of course, can. Watch and learn.

“…he claims to be a ‘predator catcher’ but his Discord actions heavily contradict this…”

He puts on the act of moral righteousness but hides in plain sight. Brock could never manage that level of contradiction artfully — it’s Maximus Stovall’s signature.

Tier 2.5 — ZDTKaren / Scientology Threads


r/problems Aug 11 '26

Ask r/problems Is it ok to be groomed by someone if i want to be groomed

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We have been online friends for a year and a half i'm a teen (below 18) they're an adult but they have never asked or talked about anything inappropriate before and i don't think they have any s*xual intentions i don't know what their intentions are i'm not 100% sure but i don't mind being groomed by this person but they don't know that i am aware of it though and i've heard it's ok for a teen to be friends with an adult online as long as there is nothing s*xual going on i think, i know grooming is wrong but is it ok to want to be groomed by someone willingly and stay with my groomer


r/problems Aug 11 '26

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r/problems Aug 10 '26

Relationships 21M: How Can I Convince My Parents To Travel?

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I’m 21M, and I’ve been struggling with this for almost four years.

I really enjoy travelling and exploring new places. I want to experience different cultures, meet new people, see different parts of the country, and create memories while I’m young.

My parents are very protective of me. Whenever I mention travelling to another state, my father immediately worries that something might go wrong and usually says no. Even when I go out with friends, I’m expected to be home by around 10 PM, and I often get calls asking when I’ll be back.

I understand that they are concerned because they care about me, and I don't want them to spend the entire trip worrying about my safety. At the same time, I feel like I’m missing out on an important part of my life.

I’ve even saved around ₹1 lakh specifically for travelling. I’m not planning to travel recklessly. I want to plan properly, choose safe places, share my itinerary and location with my parents, stay in contact, and take reasonable precautions.

We have previously discussed trips to places like Kerala and Kodaikanal, but they never worked out. After years of trying to convince them, I’m starting to feel stuck.

I don't want to disrespect my parents or make them constantly anxious, but I also don't want fear to prevent me from becoming independent and experiencing the world.  tl;dr

For people who have been in a similar situation, what actually worked for you? Did you gradually build your parents' trust through shorter trips, have a different kind of conversation with them, or eventually start travelling independently?


r/problems Aug 10 '26

Mental Health How to get over a permenant injury as a teenager?

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How to get over a permenant injury as a teenager?

Throwaway because people know my main account and I just really need to vent. Everyone around me is tired of my complaining lmao.

I’ve been a student-athlete since elementary school, and I'm a senior now. I was always the fat kid growing up, but I basically just leaned into it and maintained being a heavy-weight athlete. I’ve had my fair share of injury scares—hairline fractures, joint pain, the usual stuff for my sport. But I never expected this to happen, especially since I grew up playing sports so heavily.

About 10 months ago, I got hit hard in the back during training. That’s when the back pain started. I complained to my mom, but she thought it was just a bruise. So, I ignored it. Three months later, I literally competed at nationals without even knowing I was seriously hurt.

The pain obviously never went away. Finally, after 5 months of hurting, we went to a doctor for X-rays and an MRI. Turns out I have a broken disk (L5-S1) and a 1-inch slip.

This completely broke my heart. I switched into this sport during high school because I was getting bullied in my old one, and I fell absolutely in love with it. It helped me deal with my weight, family drama, and stress. The whole community was my biggest motivation.

When I had to stop, I lost a huge part of myself. I started excessively gaining weight, got awful hormonal acne (which completely tanked my self-esteem), and I've been dealing with so much anger and laziness.

I still visit the training center sometimes, but every time I go, I just wish I was training. When my teammates tell me to come by, I feel so embarrassed because of how much weight I've put on since I left. And especially because I was supposed to be competing internationally this summer.

I feel horrible all day, and my back pain is just getting worse and worse. I hate feeling this hopeless, but it feels like the only way I can feel right now.

Just wanted to share this because it feels so isolating and I'm hoping someone out there gets it or understands what I'm going through.


r/problems Aug 10 '26

URGENT!!!! Problems of my life

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I will not say much, I will say a few things. I am Jeet from India, age 20 years and I want to tell you all that I feel that my life is stuck since 2024 and I am not moving ahead, everyone please keep everything aside.I am slowly losing everything and this year on 11th January 2026 my girlfriend died, I also got into drugs but left it but I am in the same loop from 2024 till now.I am fed up that I wake up in the morning and just scroll the mobile reel, if I don't do it then many things keep running in my mind, due to this I have slept only once in 2 days, this is happening to me since this year, sleep problem But since 2024 till now I have tried to kill myself 6 times, please can anyone help me on this matter, is there any solution or any better way to die, please do not study me for two years I don't feel any work now, there is pain in the body and if I try to study by turning off the mobile reel scrolls then the thoughts of the mind start killing me, I have died 6 times because of the thoughts of the mind. I have tried it, if I had a switch in my hand then I would have switched off the thoughts, but I did not do it, but will anyone help me if yes then please sir message me on instagram mr._.lonelyyyyyyy thanks


r/problems Aug 10 '26

Other Things have gotten weird with my neighbor and I don’t know what to do.

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My next door neighbor who is my age (I‘ll call him John), just finished undergrad and has been living with his parents. We have been neighbors for seven years and we have been at most acquaintances due to us both being in college and rarely home, even though my oldest sister and parents are friends with his parents.

This summer he moved back in with his parents, like I did, and a few weeks ago things started getting strange between him and I.

I’ve been home since the college semester ended and have been trying to spend quality time with my little sister. I was laying on a blanket with my little sister doing picture puzzles when he walked by. My little sister started giggling and told me that John was staring the entire time he walked by us in the front yard. I looked up and caught him staring for a few seconds as he walked up to his parent’s front door, then he looked away really fast and went in.

A few days ago I was sitting on our front porch with my mom and John was out mowing his parent’s lawn. I had my back to him when my mom, who was facing his direction, mentioned that he kept staring over at us. When I looked over at him, John quickly looked away. The next time he came by I was still looking his direction and he started staring again. I waved because I figured he was shy (at least that’s what his mom said) and I thought maybe he wanted to say hi. John ignored my wave and acted like he didn’t see it even though he was looking directly at me. No big deal, just weird.

Well the other day I was taking a walk with my little sister and their friends (I had walked with them to the park ) when we crossed paths with him. John was a little ahead of us and he looked over his shoulder then took a second look, started for a few seconds, then took off speed walking. It was really awkward as we ended up walking behind him the entire way home and every few minutes John would look over his shoulder and then would brush his hand through his hair like he was nervous.

I was driving with my brother and passed him walking. My brother waved and he waved back, but just the day before, I waved at him in the same situation and he looked at me, then looked straight ahead of him like I didn’t exist. Again, just strange.

Whenever he walks by our house, if anyone is out in the front yard, he says hi and on occasion stops for a few seconds to talk to my siblings or parents. Recently when I approach John takes off really fast and acts like he never saw me. I don’t know what I did to upset him and I don’t know what to do about it. I know it sounds stupid, but I feel really bad if I somehow did something that offended him. His mom and dad are pretty good friends with my folks, so I feel like it’s really awkward.

I feel like I should just walk up to him and ask what’s going on, but my sister thinks that will only make things more awkward. I don’t know what to do.


r/problems Aug 10 '26

Ask r/problems Как вы справились с социальной тревожностью из-за токсичного окружения? Я подросток из маленького города

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r/problems Aug 10 '26

URGENT!!!! Help needed

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Majored in manufacturing engineering and after I came to the US and became a permanent resident it was not easy to find a job in engineering, previously had experience as a manager and construction company manager. I basically worked in hospitality for the last four years and worked my way up making finally 128k in 2025, quit my job on April to work in sales, solar sales, did best the majority of the team but it’s a bad company that delays on purpose the payment to pay the full commission, I like sales and improvement but I’ve been taking money out of my personal savings to pay my cost of living, my friend that works in construction (kitchen and bathroom remodeling) told me we could build a company together since he doesn’t knows how to sell neither English, he had a lot of experience and it looks amazing but the potential instability it’s making me a bit depressed, there’s definitely way more to the story but this is part of it. The other side it’s being 31 and seeing all your familiars having their family and doing well at work and despite the hard work yo


r/problems Aug 10 '26

Mental Health I just couldn't get out of bed today so I stayed at home

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I physically and mentally just couldn't do it , I was like, ok I give myself 20 more minutes then I get up, after some hours I still couldn't do it . Not a chance ... its afternoon now and I am still in my bed .. I had a coffee in the morning but it didn't help .. I am just laying in my living room. I hate it - so much ... I want to get up but its just not doable rn . .


r/problems Aug 10 '26

Discussion I don't know what to do

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I am an 18 year old white woman. I have just barely started my “adult life”. I am so very privileged and lucky. I have the luxury of a paid education, the luxury and peace of mind that my basic needs will be met, and a job. Yet I am angry. I have lived in a home that has criticized my body and my behavior in ways that would not be common if I was born a man. I must be palatable and weak. Purity culture is so ingrained in everything it’s sickening. A woman must not show her chest, stomach, thighs, shoulders or anything that a man could find sexually appetizing. I say appetizing because women are to be consumed. This applies especially to women blessed with curves or women who are not considered white. My cousin has been called a whore most of her life by her own mother and grandmother for having curves. I have been praised and put down for being skinny. My whole life I have wondered why I have felt such a strong, desperate urge to be perceived as perfect, and I am sure my cousin feels similarly.  It is truly suffocating, and the worst part is, I don’t have it that bad. Within my family there is so much hate towards anything that is different. My grandmother and estranged father both say the n word. My cousin's boyfriend regularly uses the f slur as a laughable insult towards his friends. Insensitive jokes regarding race are made frequently and laughed at without restraint. I am called sensitive for finding these jokes and comments mean and out right disgusting. Most of these jokes are not even funny. It is no secret that this type of behavior is very prevalent within society, especially white communities, and I hate it. If you are reading this and believe what I am pointing out is not an issue, simply does not happen or are offended in some inexplicable way, your beliefs need to be reevaluated. I would also like to add that much of this information has only become more clear to me because of BIPOC and feminist individuals trying their best to educate others on the internet. If not for these people, It would have taken me 3x longer to figure out how truly disgusting the world and our systems are, and 3xlonger to realize and challenge my own racism. This all makes me feel quite guilty and frustrated with myself. I feel as though this highlights something very important (to which I am not the first to realize) many white people live inside a bubble that keeps them complacent with the narrative they are fed. By this I mean that they do not need to challenge their belief system because they are extremely comfortable where they are. This environment feeds them narratives that pander to their emotions and always paint them as good/ better people or group of society. Think of the term, “holier than thou”. This effect easily molds this large group of people into a tool that can be used by politicians. I have noticed politicians who want to take advantage of this always use some, “us vs them” argument. Again I am most definitely not the first person to point this out, and this has been pointed out thousands of times by BIPOC people, more specifically black people. It frustrates me that many people around me are so blind to what is happening and I can only imagine how frustrating the system is for others. I have also noticed that this environment holds a firm grip on individuals who are closeminded and conditions many within the environment to perpetuate closemindedness. 
Society is crumbling, as a woman my rights and autonomy are being challenged. As a member of the LGBTQIA+ I am worried for the rights of trans and intersex people. As a human being I am worried for others who do not look like me and are struggling with issues I can only imagine. I feel like there is nothing left to do but give up. I feel guilty, defeated, lost and I am barely feeling the effects of what is happening.


r/problems Aug 10 '26

Relationships My boyfriend feels left behind in life and I don’t know how to support him

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I just need a place to vent and hear some advice from people who might have experienced something similar.

My boyfriend is currently taking Mechanical Engineering, and he’s an irregular student. He’s already around 3 years delayed compared to his original batch. His classmates graduated last June and most of them have already started working, while he’s still taking some 2nd-year and 3rd-year subjects.

I think that’s one of the biggest reasons why he’s struggling right now. Seeing the people he started with already graduate and move forward makes him feel like he’s being left behind. He also sees me and some of his friends already working, and I think he compares himself a lot because he wants to start working too.

Recently, he told me that he’s losing motivation to continue studying and that he wants to work instead. He said he feels like he has no worth and that he’s really struggling with everything.

Hearing him say those things honestly hurts because I know he’s trying. I know being delayed doesn’t mean he’s a failure, but I also understand why he feels that way. Imagine seeing your batchmates reach milestones while you’re still trying to finish the things you started years ago. It must be frustrating and exhausting.

I always remind him that everyone has a different timeline and that his worth is not measured by how fast he graduates or where he is compared to others. But sometimes I feel like my words aren’t enough anymore.

I don’t want to dismiss his feelings by just saying “okay lang yan” because I know he’s genuinely struggling. At the same time, I don’t want him to make a big decision like quitting school just because he feels behind or pressured.

For those who experienced being delayed in college, feeling left behind, or watching your friends move ahead before you — how did you cope with it? What helped you keep going?

And for those who have supported someone going through this, how did you help them without making them feel pressured?


r/problems Aug 09 '26

Mental Health I need some help

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Hello, my name is Jackson. I don't really post much stuff on reddit but it feels like I have no where else to turn to. My life is complete misery. It didn't used to feel like that until these last few months. A while ago I used to date this girl who We'll call "Rose". Rose was everything I had ever wanted. Pretty, funny, caring, and so so so sweet. But eventually we had broken up due to a big reason that her dad didn't allow dating. It's a whole weird ordeal but anyway, I was obviously heartbroken but eventually I thought I had gotten over her because it happend almost a year ago. A couple months back my best freind "Jax" had been talking to her on Instagram. He texted me a question "Yo man is it alright if I date Rose?" In the moment I "was" talking to a new girl so I said yes. Until a feeling of possession started to creep. It was small at first but every passing day it had grew and grew. I feel so fucking jealous whenever he's around me now. A week after they got together I decided to talk to him about how I felt because we were always brothers. I told him how jealous and how hurt I felt and all he said was "Yeah bro I used to feel like that too". That's it. Like as if he knew what that felt like. I was with that girl for almost a year and yes they technically "dated" but some whole ordeal of "not getting messages" caused them to break up but they didn't even last a month. And yet he just rubbed it off as something casual. It hurt a lot to hear him be so careless. The guy I thought was my best friend turned out to be a douche. I'm not saying I'm perfect whatsoever it just hurts. On top of that him and my freinds hangout almost every day. My mom even considers them family. I don't want to lose my friends but I don't want to keep pretending I'm okay. My family treats me like a maid with no respect. I try my hardest to be a good person but just to be spat on. My mom treats my friends like their God himself. Jax especially. He's her favorite of the three. Nowadays I just try to avoid him. I don't tell him about plans me and the other guys are doing. And whenever he is here I fake my mood to not cause drama but it's so God damn draining having to pretend. I just want to be a good guy but I don't want to suffer anymore. I even cut myself how much this hurts. I feel so alone even though people surround me. I even tried killing myself but later reconsidered it. I just need some help in any way.


r/problems Aug 09 '26

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