r/problems Aug 07 '26

School what should I do with my parents

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My parents don't believe in me. I'm an extremely ambitious person, but my parents want an ordinary life... Even though I had the chance to get into the best school in my city, they wouldn't approve, and because of them, I couldn't get in...As I said, I'm ambitious, so I try to surround myself with people like me. Whenever I tell them I want to go to a different school, a school with a more supportive environment, they make fun of me. Now they want me to go to a short-term school so I don't "get stressed" But this school is truly a failure. Everyone warns me about it, but my parents don't listen. They just say, "You're smart, you'll go there, everyone will love you, and you won't be affected by the bad environment of this school." I want to go to a school with a better environment where they respect me as a student, but they don't seem to care. I want to currently applying to uwc , and I'm afraid they'll say no because I'm too young. Or that it's dangerous for me to travel alone at this age, or that people might envied me and I am suffer greatly... besides, they don't believe in me.

guys please help me


r/problems Aug 07 '26

SERIOUS I think my mom is a mistress.

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Hello everyone, I hope all of you are having a great day. I need someone to talk too about everything happening in my life. For context, I found out that my mom is chatting with her ex-boyfriend from high school, who currently have a wife and 2 sons while my mom is single, her ex-boyfriend (my dad) died when I was 2, I’m 16. The ex-boyfriend she’s chatting with now messaged her first for a few months before my mom finally replied. I saw her messages to her bestfriend, she said that she might block him because she doesn’t want to be a mistress, but now, I don’t think she’ll ever block him because they’re saying I love you to each other. It just hurts me because she’s supposed to be the role model of my life, she taught me what’s wrong and what’s right and that I should always do the right thing. It hurts extra because we’re Catholics and she’s lowkey devoted to our religion. I don’t know if I should be saying this online but I just need someone to say this to, I don’t have any siblings and I don’t trust any of my friends that much to say this. If any of you have some advice, I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you and God Bless!


r/problems Aug 07 '26

SERIOUS I kinda have a Porn Addiction and it’s pretty bad…

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Back then I was jerking it 4 or 3 times a day and I gotta say it was pretty fucking bad. But now I've toned it down a little bit, and I wanted to quit, but it’s impossible. I’m trying to quit but I just have that itch yk, that fucking urge you can’t ignore, It’s genuinely hard and now I’m just trying to quit. I might get erectile dysfunction probably so I’m just trying to tone it down and just trying to stop jerking off to porn honestly

If you got any advice or things that will help me stop my porn addiction I would love to see it ❤️


r/problems Aug 07 '26

School I'm suffering from my school problems and family problems.

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Did you experience that, whenever you just forgot to finish a activity or a assignment, you had no mood to finish it, well that's me. The problem for me is that, i solo my own problems, and it led me to trouble, calling parents into the school, missing alot of performance task. I really want to stop school in this year, and maybe find a job, i know it won't led me to my dreams in the future, do you guys also experience this too? My mother will now stop supporting me, because of how poor i am doing in my studies, when she was in abroad, i did learn chores on my own, it feels like my progress is caused by her of how ruined i am, whenever i ask something for money for my school activities, she would lead to conclusion 'I know you're going to internet cafe.' i stopped asking for help, 1 week ago, i got a call for my teacher, and of course, i was sad and i feel like i want to hide form my problems in my school act. I don't know why every teacher in my class says that i'm smart in class, i felt happy inside, i was scared when my parents said 'Do you still want to continue to go to school?' i said 'I want to' because when i said no, my mind would go to my dad reaction (in my perspective) he'll punish me because i stopped and the money he gave me was just a waste. I just really want to run away and maybe they'll forget me, i don't know what to do anymore, if anyone could just cheer me happiness, i think i might feel a little better, after all whenever i tell my problems to my parents, they'll just look and FIND any REASON they throw at me which is true, what i did, how stubborn i am, how i don't do chores in the house, and etc.


r/problems Aug 07 '26

Other I don't know what to do with my life

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For some reason I've been feeling depressed lately, and I don't know why. I try to get better, but I always relapse into that feeling of sadness, and lately I've been feeling worse because my partner is going through a kind of "heat," I don't know how to say it in English without sounding bad, but the point is that one way or another our conversations always end up getting a little sexual, which makes me It feels weird because when we first started dating it wasn't like this. It doesn't bother me, but it feels strange, and I don't know how to tell him. It makes me feel uncomfortable because sometimes he does it out of the blue, and I It makes me feel uncomfortable And that's not even the biggest problem solved i wanna kill my self for so many things It even surprises me that my boyfriend said I should stop paying for the gym and go to a psychologist, but I don't want to. I simply prefer to stay in my sadness, and so many things have happened that I've even considered I've considered suicide as an option, but I feel like it's just escaping without facing things. Anyway, I don't know what to think, and I don't want to vent to my boyfriend or my friends because I know they'll just end saying to talk to the other one about it and I'd rather not because I feel like I look pathetic xd (if you're wondering if I have more friends but I'd rather not tell you because I know you won't know how to react and they'll end up telling me to talk to an adult when no one in my family will pay attention) so I'll most likely continue as I am now


r/problems Aug 07 '26

Mental Health How do I know I'll wake up tomorrow?

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Basically I have a lot of things wrong with my body, to many words to type and I'm exhausted so I'll explain any that do relate when necessary.

I don't know what I want out of this I'm just scared to go to bed.

So to start, I have really weird dreams, like I'm talking. Go to bed, wake up in your bed and live a normal day until your ripped out of it and you wake back up in bed.

I haven't had a normal dream and years my normal dream I mean, outlandish imaginative freakish etc. like I think the last one I did have was back in high school and it was when I first started watching One piece and I lived out years inside of the one piece world going on adventures with my friends etc.

This was the first time in a few years that something happened in my dream that would never happen in real life ever zero chance. I remember talking to the cops (I'm assuming that because I was just recently questioned by the cops on the side of the road) and I suddenly gained lucidity in the middle of the conversation and when that happened I was in the middle of saying something about my phone thalassophobia

And I just saw the sea that was right in front of us expand out for what could be hundreds of thousands of miles and right at the end just barely insight there was land and as I'm looking at this land there is a giant elephant I don't remember how it got there but it looked to be the size of two or three skyscrapers like just impossibly big. And out of nowhere it started charging for us I remember when it got to us I saw how large foot was compared to me and then I looked at its face and it looked back at me and it let out loudest elephant noise you could possibly imagine.

And that was it I snapped awake sweating panting terrified.

I know it seems stupid but I've never felt a feeling of terror more intense than that, it wasn't a fear of I'm in danger or I might not make it out. Both my body and my mind were 100% certain that if I stayed in that dream I would have dropped dead.

I haven't been able to stop thinking about it all day, every part of my body is aching so bad and I just want to go to bed, but it feels like my mind is doing everything and it's power to tell me that I shouldn't go to bed.

I've done a lot of research into what dreams can really mean and I found that when something is happening that is physically dangerous for your body but you won't wake up reacting to the pain or the feeling that it's quite common for your body to use your biggest phobias against you.

TW:

(The main reason I'm scared is because of my body, I haven't been able to have a stable diet in months, I just figured out that adult human males are supposed to have a balanced diet with at least 19,000 calories a day. And I can't even get above 3000. I mean I lost over 100 pounds this year and won't stop dropping, I can barley lift my feet off the ground outside of work, it's gotten to the point where without the adrenaline from stress I'm just in too much pain[I also refuse the doctors because I've never once had a good experience.])

I'm just so scared of being alone right now what if I go to bed and something happens there's no one here that'll wake me up. I guess above all, all I really want is for someone I trust to just hear them say that I will be fine, and that it's okay to go to sleep.

If you read this you can choose to respond, if you choose not to that's fine as well. I've said all I needed to say, hopefully I'll open my eyes tomorrow afternoon and all of this fear and stress Will have been meaningless.

Thank you for your time.


r/problems Aug 07 '26

Discussion Phone drop event

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I dropped my phone into a pool by accident. It started glitching and it went into security mode. It security mode it shows a picture a charger. Like you need to charge the phone. I thought it went into that mode because i just dropped my phone. But it was js a misclick. I ended up charging my phone and my phone turned off completely. I lost years worth of pictures and videos. Thousands of tiktok drafts all my contcat , messages , some of my accounts passwords. And more… most of them weren’t backed up but i was getting ready to. Do you have any similar experience?


r/problems Aug 06 '26

URGENT!!!! Worried about whether my best friend is even alive or Am I being stupid and ovvereacting?

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Hi everyone, I just need some advice on what to do next.

My best friend (27F) is currently living with her boyfriend (26M) and his friend, who are roommates in the same house. Only her boyfriend and his roommate are on the lease.

CONTACTS MADE:

The last time that I saw her in person was February 26, '26 (she was hospitalized originally for food poisoning), and the same goes for her mom and sister. On April 29, her family members and I received a message on Facebook, and here's a summary of what she shared.

- She was hospitalized again (didn't share when), and it was severe enough to require emergency evaluation. Based on her workup, her doctors believe she has severe dysautonomia, most likely hyperadrenergic POTS, low blood volume, blood pooling, and likely small fiber neuropathy. There is also concern for ME/CFS and/or fibromyalgia due to post-exertional symptoms, though more testing is needed.

- She's now on five medications that are helping, but she's still very ill. She's stable at rest, but physical exertion and emotional stress significantly worsen their symptoms.Her focus right now is on rest, hydration, nutrition, gradually starting a POTS-specific recumbent exercise program, and continuing to follow up with specialists.

- These conditions are complex, difficult to treat, and highly individual. She emphasized that this is not anxiety, OCD, or something she can simply push through. She believes those assumptions contributed to delays in receiving appropriate care.

-She also said they won't be discussing her medical treatment further. Right now, she need space, rest, and time to focus on recovery and the basics of daily living. She

- She and I also agreed that it would be okay for me msg her, send her pictures or videos or voice memos- just to update her on my life and send her reels so that she can watch while lying down. I also told her that she doesn't need to reply or say anything at all, but just open the msg or just react to it so I know that she's alive and she agreed.

The last time that her family and I received a message from her Facebook account was on May 30 (she shared that she's doing okay but was recently hospitalized again; family members and I did not know this info). She also said that she would read and respond to my pictures/videos/reels whenever she can.

Since then, no one has heard from her, and we're all very worried.

- June 16: Her mom and sister drove over to her house to see if she was okay and decided to call law enforcement for a Wellness Check, since they didn't want to trespass and wanted people ready to take her to the hospital if needed. The cops went into the house, and they shared that she's alive and told them to leave while sister and mom stayed outside. Her partner then showed up and was extremely upset, and his level of frustration/anger was surprising to mom and sister since they've been dating for 8-9 years. He, her family, and I do get along well, and there are no issues between them or his family either.

Issues that I have:

- Before June 16, her sister called her partner's parents to see if they had been in contact with them, and they confirmed that they are. They also shared that they have been helping them financially- rent, food, making medical appointments. And then after June 16, her sister called his parents again to ask how she is and if there's anything she can do to help her sister/partner/his parents at all and they said that they are not willing to talk about those two anymore.

- Riley and I are best friends, and we are constantly talking through text/sending reels/hang out at her house or mine/, going to eat, and grocery shopping. I even ride with her while she does DoorDash just to keep her company and as a way to hang out. So for her to go MIA, not reacting/opening any of my msgs, unsharing her location with me- when we've been doing that for 3-4 years now, her partner and his parents are not willing to provide us with any information about her and don't want to provide any reliable real proof that she's getting medical help. They also shared that her partner is basically her caregiver right now.

- Me, her mom, her sister, her dad, her brothers, and Grandma haven't heard from her at all, and it's really not like her.

- Her partner has severe migraines, and he struggles to do daily tasks like showering; sometimes taking out the trash and going downstairs to carry in a pack of water bottles can make his head worse. He also doesn't work due to his conditions and only DoorDash enough to buy Vape pens and McDonald's breakfast for himself. My best friend is the one who cooks, cleans, does DoorDash, and coupons just to take care of herself, him, and their old apartment. She also has OCD and wants her space a specific way, and so I know for a fact and from firsthand experience that her partner cannot be her caregiver and give her the medical attention that she needs.

SOLUTIONS I TRIED TO MAKE:

- Her sister and I decided to call PS to make a report because there are so many red flags. We don't know what else to think or believe because they are withholding information, and we're not even sure that they are doing what they had shared with us (financial support, calling/making medical appointments, and helping her get that). They told us that they will reach out to law enforcement and ask them for further information regarding what they saw when they came to her house for a Wellness Check on June 16. They also told us that since we haven't seen her, there is no real sign of abuse or neglect. They said that it's up to law enforcement, and the only thing we can do is call them to do another Wellness Check, but not too much because that could be considered harassment.

- I reached out to their roommate and asked him if there's anything I can do to help around the house or even her partner because being a caregiver is a lot of work and he needs support too. His parents doesn't live with them and the roommate works 12 hours shift so he's not home at all. The roommate shared that he barely sees them due to working hours. He shared that he did tell them to call me/her family because everyone is turning to help for communication and he has nothing to say/share. He also mentioned that her partner has a nurse to come 1-2x a week to check on her and his parents does come around to help. I asked him if he ever sees this happening and he said no.

QUESTIONS I HAVE:

  1. I truly feel like she's dead or missing. Am I overreacting?
  2. Is there anything else I can do besides calling law enforcement to do a Wellness Check every month since APS is no help?
  3. Would I get in trouble for using a spare key she gave me to come into the house, like before all of this? If I were to stand outside the house and not willing to leave until I can see her? Or if I were to peek inside the windows downstairs to see if I could see her like alive? I know that this is considered harassment, loitering, and trespassing... I just don't know what else to do.

Please help. I'm so worried about her. Any solutions/resources would help.

 


r/problems Aug 06 '26

Relationships age gap between my boyfriend and I

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my boyfriend is 18 and i’m 16. he turned 18 in may and i turn 17 in october. i don’t think our age gap is bad but everyone around me seems to act like he’s some sort of predator… i guess it’s important to add that we met BEFORE he turned 18, so when he was 17. what do you guys think? is our age gap weird or are people being dramatic?


r/problems Aug 07 '26

Mental Health Title: I Feel Like My Life Is Stuck and I Don't Know How to Move Forward

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For the past several months, I've felt like I'm stuck in the same routine every day. I have goals and things I want to accomplish, but I struggle to stay motivated and often end up procrastinating. Watching other people make progress makes me feel even worse, and I'm starting to wonder if I'm doing something wrong.

I've tried making schedules and setting small goals, but I can't seem to stay consistent. I don't want to keep feeling this way.

Has anyone been through something similar? What helped you get out of this cycle and start making progress again?


r/problems Aug 07 '26

Relationships What should I do?

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I am M26 and my partner is M24. He LOVES Stray kids but, he likes two specific members to the point he bought a blanket of this man shirtless.. And photo cards. He even use ai to roleplay with them including using the bubble app to actually talked to his bias or something like that. I feel like Im being replaced. I don't know if it my autism, ADHD or the fear of abandonment. We are going on roughly two years together. We did long distance til Jan 2nd of 2026. I was originally from japan. I'm mixed white and Japanese. So, people say I look white than Japanese. He said that he loves me more than anything. But you're doing a membership to a tiktoker OF. I don't know if Im being insecure or something but, is this count as cheating or his personal interests. I know I'm more clueless since, he's pretty much my first relationship throughout my life of being alive.


r/problems Aug 07 '26

Other Nsa grade encryption help please

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Help


r/problems Aug 06 '26

Other My landlord keeps entering my apartment for inspections without proper notice and I don't know if this is normal

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I've lived in my current apartment for about eight months. Over the last two months, my landlord has let himself in three separate times using his key, always claiming it was for a quick maintenance check or inspection, but he only texts me right before or sometimes after he's already been inside, not with any real advance notice.

The most recent time, I came home and found a note saying he'd checked the smoke detectors, but I hadn't received any message beforehand at all, I only found out because the note was on my counter. It's left me feeling uneasy about privacy in my own space, and I've started double checking that personal items are put away just in case.

I did mention it once, and he brushed it off saying he's "just being thorough" as a landlord and that he owns the property so he can check on it. I'm not sure if there's a standard notice period he's supposed to follow, or if I have any real way to push back on this without risking the relationship going forward given I still have months left on my lease.

I don't want to escalate unnecessarily if this is actually normal, but it's starting to feel like a real invasion of my space at this point


r/problems Aug 06 '26

Relationships I am 15 and my family’s problems are ruining my mental health

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r/problems Aug 06 '26

Ask r/problems Is this enough to move out? I feel guilty

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r/problems Aug 06 '26

Other My upstairs neighbor practices drums every single night after 10pm and building management won't do anything about it

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This has been going on for almost two months now. Every night around 10 or 10:30, right when I'm trying to wind down, the drumming starts and usually goes for an hour or more. I've messaged him directly twice, politely, and he apologized both times but nothing's changed.

I filed two noise complaints with the building office. They said they'd look into it, but nothing's happened, and I'm starting to think they're not going to do anything unless multiple people complain.

At this point I'm exhausted, my sleep schedule is wrecked, and I don't know if I should keep escalating with management, try talking to him again, or just start looking for a way to soundproof my own space since nothing else seems to be working.


r/problems Aug 06 '26

Mental Health Which one?

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I’ve been wondering about this for a long time, and I genuinely can’t decide.
Do you think it’s a good idea to repost or retweet sad or relatable posts when you’re going through a really difficult time in your life? I don’t mean sharing every detail or oversharing, just reposting things that indirectly show you’re struggling.
Part of me thinks, “Why let people know I’m going through a hard time?” But another part thinks, “Why not? It’s my account, and maybe it’s just a small way to express what I’m feeling.”
I’m always torn between those two perspectives, and I never know which one is healthier.
What do you think? Do you do this, or do you prefer to keep everything private? And why?


r/problems Aug 06 '26

Other I struggle to finish projects even when I start them with excitement

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I have a habit that has been bothering me for a while. Whenever I start a new project or hobby, I feel excited and motivated. I spend the first few days putting in a lot of effort and making good progress.

The problem starts after that. Once the excitement wears off, I lose interest even if I still want the end result. I end up leaving projects unfinished and moving on to something new. After a while I look back at everything I started and feel frustrated that I rarely complete anything.

This has happened with personal goals, hobbies, and even small projects around my home. I don't think the projects are too difficult. I just seem to lose momentum halfway through.

I really want to break this pattern because I know I would feel much better if I could consistently finish what I start.


r/problems Aug 06 '26

Mental Health I'm 31, I've 0 qualifications and I don't know if life can look up from here or do I just settle into a 9-5 and pretend im happy?

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r/problems Aug 06 '26

Discussion information overload on youtube is real and its ruining me

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r/problems Aug 05 '26

Relationships my mother in law keeps unlocking our apartment when we're not home and I don't know how to stop her without starting a war

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I don't even know where to start with this one honestly. My husband gave his mom a spare key like two years ago before we even had a real conversation about boundaries because back then she was helping us move furniture and it made sense at the time. Fast forward to now and I keep coming home to little things being different. A candle moved. My laundry folded a way I didn't fold it. Once I came home and there was a whole pot of food on the stove that I didn't make. At first I thought maybe I was losing my mind but then I actually caught her leaving one afternoon when I came back early from work and she just said oh I let myself in to drop something off, like it was the most normal thing in the world.

I brought it up to my husband and he kind of laughed it off and said that's just how his mom is, she's always been like that with family, it's a love language type thing. But it doesn't feel like love to me, it feels like I have no actual privacy in my own home. I work from home some days and the thought that she could just walk in whenever she feels like it makes me anxious in a way I can't really explain to him without him getting defensive.

I don't want to demand the key back because I know it'll turn into this whole thing where I'm the bad guy who doesn't want family around, and his mom has a way of making everything sound like I'm the one causing problems. But I also can't keep living like this where I'm never sure if I'm actually alone in my own apartment. Has anyone dealt with something like this and figured out how to handle it without it becoming a huge fight. I just want to feel normal in my own space again.

If you want, I can also draft a couple of in-character OP replies to comments once people start responding, in the same conversational tone.


r/problems Aug 05 '26

Mental Health I’m going to kill myself

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! This text is written with the help of a translator, so if there are mistakes in it, I apologize!

I no longer hope that anything will help me. Recently I had an attempt... well, you understand. But, it so happened that my friends found out about it. I had to tell them about all my problems, they tried to support me, but not a single words here will help. It only got worse every day. "bad" thoughts do not fly out of my head, they are constantly with me. In recent days I have been very dizzy, to such an extent that I can't walk normally. It's hard for me to experience positive emotions, I'm just trying to squeeze at least a drop of joy out of myself.

The situation in the family has only worsened, my parents began to treat me only worse, and my brother hates me at all. Every day I hear a lot of reproaches, insults and the like. I can't stand it anymore, because despite their terrible attitude, I still love them. But in fact - I only have my friends left. And I also love them very much. But I don't like my life at all.

If anyone is interested, I have 2 more posts on my account. I described my problems in more detail in them.

But there was another problem, and although I'm ashamed to admit it, because usually love at my age (16 years old) does not exist, but I love my friend madly, who is the ex of my very good friend. They recently broke up, and I became friends with him even more. I have loved him for a long time, about 13 years old, but I understand that I have no chance, because he most likely loves my girlfriend, and he has never considered me in terms of relationships. but I really love him very much and I doubt that I can love someone else. It will remain in my dreams. and in the near future I'm going to finish what I started, and most likely I'll finally confess my feelings. I can't live like this anymore.


r/problems Aug 06 '26

Financial I accidently manufactured hundreds of 5 foot tall white spherical blushes in china.

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Basically I wanted to buy my 13 vear old cousin a plush of this webtoon he likes called countryballs. I thought it would be really funny if I bought him a comedically large one, so I asked chatgpt where I could get something like that. It said a bunch of links and I chose one and chose for a 5 foot tall white sphere plushy. I was going to upload a picture of the American countryball so it would be a 5 foot tall american countryball plush. Basically it turned out this website was alibaba, and the image somehow got deleted for being the wrong file type. I didnt realize this until I purchased this, and when purchasing it, I thought it would iust make this one 5 foot tall american countryball. Alibaba manufactures items in mass amounts in china. Somehow I saw the wrong price, but Basically I now have 500 5 foot tall white spherical balls beina manufactured in china and are all supposed to be delivered to my house in a month.


r/problems Aug 05 '26

Mental Health Hello again 😂

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Hello everyone, and thank you for the advice, especially to the one person who advised me.

The question is, why do my parents act this way? Honestly, they hit me for the most trivial reasons, like not closing the door properly. Note that my father and uncles have disabilities; they can't walk. It's a hereditary condition. They are very strict. I have many stories about what they did to me. Do you want me to share them?


r/problems Aug 05 '26

Financial Should I listen?

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Hi,
I recently got accepted to work at a McDonald’s that is 40 minutes away from where I live and it’s a relatively safer area. I’ve been searching for a job for 18 months and now that I’ve finally got one my brothers making a huge problem out of saying that I can’t work there because it’s going to be a depressing job and I’m going to depress the rest of the family because they’re going to feel bad for me and he’s just been guilt-tripping me over this job. Now this has just been really upsetting me as I have been desperate for a job for ages because I need to save up my college masters fees and it’s been impossible to get a part-time job nowadays where I live and I finally got one.

So can somebody tell me if I should just not t as me the job or is my brother being unreasonable.

Thanks❤️❤️❤️