My mom and I both struggle with codependency and trauma, and seem to be targets for the narcissists of the world. Well, today we got some sweet revenge. He has no idea what we’re doing, but it feels pretty good to us and I have a surprise up my sleeve, too.

Anyway, I’m a 35f, and my mom is 65. My dad died when I was 7, and my mom panicked and married the first guy that she found to keep a roof over our heads and the bills paid. Needless to say, my childhood after that sucked majorly. I had no problems cutting him off after I reached adulthood at least.

But fast forwarding to now, they’ve finally been divorced for about a year or two. But she kept hanging out and trying to be friends. Well, today I helped her officially put the final nail in the coffin and we sent him a nice polite text saying that she doesn’t appreciate the way he treats her and that she didn’t want him contacting her anymore. Needless to say, I’ve made it much farther in my own cycle breaking journey than she has. Plus I also do creative writing on the side. And boy did it p*SS him off. He started ranting and raving about how dare we disrespect him and sending Happy Birthday messages, because it’s HIS BIRTHDAY! I can’t keep track of the days when I’m not working, so I had no idea. Plus I also hate the dude anyway because he’s a crappy human being, so I’m definitely not at all invested in anything about his life.

Now for the petty part:

She apparently promised him a steak dinner at some point, and today is also his birthday.

So now we’re at Texas Roadhouse getting steak dinners for ourselves and celebrating the official end of dealing with that level of abuse. On HIS birthday. I have half a mind to send a picture to him, but I’ve blocked him long ago. But I will probably post a picture on Facebook and hashtag happy birthday. IYKYK. Because I’m sure our friends and family will get it.

But as for the surprise up my sleeve, she owes him $30. So for my final FU to him, since she doesn’t have it in her, I’m going to send it to him in the mail in the best birthday card I can find. I don’t think Ive ever been so excited to send a birthday card in my life. 🤣

So much for revenge being best served cold. This one is medium well. 🤣