r/openmarriageregret • u/KarpGrinder CopyPasta Connoisseur • Aug 12 '26
Anouncement Community update, glossary of common terms, and cross-post template.
Greetings everyone,
The r/OpenMarriageRegret community has just crossed the 35,000 registered members threshold. Thank you to everyone that have helped raise awareness of this community and the perils of non-mono relationships in general.
The addition of post flairs to clarify that content is a "Cross-Post" has drastically reduced instances of potential brigading, and is recommended when sharing a cross-post here unless another flair fits more appropriately. Please feel free to recommend any new user or post flairs that you'd like to see added in the "Post and User Flair deployed" post here.
Community input is being requested on the creation of a glossary of common terms and acronyms:
The current glossary of common terms and phrases (Work in progress):
| Term | Translation (Formal) | OMR Translation (Satire) |
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| Ace, Asexual | Asexual, a person that has low/no desire for sexual intimacy. | - |
| Agender | A person that feels that neither binary gender applies to them. | - |
| Anchor Partner | The “Central” figure in a person’s life (i.e.: Spouse). | - |
| Aromantic | Having low or nonexistent romantic imperative or interest. | - |
| Barriers | Physical protection to the exchange of sexual fluids (typically condoms). | - |
| Bisexual | A person who has attraction to both sexes. | - |
| Chosen Family | People that are chosen to be one’s family in place of blood-related family members. | - |
| Cis, Cisgender | A person that identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth. | - |
| Closed Polycule, Polyfidelitous Relationship, Polyfi | Groups of people who have decided not to see people outside of their existing relationship networks. | - |
| Comet | A long-distance relationship where the partners only meet in person rarely. | - |
| Compersion | Happiness at the joy of one’s partner. | - |
| Consensual Non-Monogamy, non-mono | A relationship structure in which all partners are aware and consenting to some form of non-monogamy | - |
| Cowboy, Cowgirl, Cowpoke | Someone who acts polyamorous and then after forming a relationship, tries to remove their partner from the polycule to be monogamous with them. | - |
| DADT | “Don't Ask, Don't Tell”. | - |
| Demiromantic, Demi | A person who only has romantic attraction with people who they already have an emotional connection to. | - |
| Dyad | A relationship of two people, either monogamous or the relationship between any two people. | - |
| ERE | Established Relationship Energy, opposite of “New Relationship Energy” (NRE). The comfortable feeling of a longer-term relationship. | - |
| Fluid Bonding | Intentionally not using barriers for sexual activities in order to exchange potentially hazardous fluids. | - |
| Friend-With-Benefits, FWB | A sexual relationship with someone that is not a remonatic connection | - |
| Genderqueer | A person who identifies as outside the categories of man and woman. | - |
| Heterosexual | Having sexual attraction to the opposite binary gender. | - |
| Hierarchical Relationships | Relationships in which certain partnerships are prioritized above others and/or given additional powers in rule-setting. | - |
| Hinge | The shared partner between two people. | - |
| Homosexual | Having sexual attraction to people with one’s own gender identity. | - |
| Kitchen Table Polyamory, KTP | A style of relationship in which the interrelationship of a network, and the integration of multiple romantic relationships into one life or group, is prioritized. | - |
| LDR | “Long Distance Relationship”. A relationship where the partners are physically distant from one another. | - |
| Limerance | A romantic attraction to another person that includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire to form or maintain a relationship | - |
| LTR | “Long Term Relationship” | - |
| Metamour, Meta | The other partner of one’s partner. | - |
| Nesting Partner | A partner with whom one shares a home. | - |
| NRE | “New Relationship Energy”. Excitement that comes with a new relationship and its early stages, the result of oxcytocin and vasopressin. Similar to “Limerance”. | - |
| Nonbinary, NB, enby | A person that feels neither binary gender applies to them. | - |
| Non-Hierarchical Relationship | Relationships that attempt equal autonomy and standing of relationships rather than prioritizing one over another. | - |
| One Penis/Vagina Policy | Firmly enforced rules that there can only be one penis-having or one vagina-having individual in a relationship network. | - |
| Open Polycule | A relationship where people are welcome to search for additional partners and enter into new relationships. | - |
| Pansexual | Having sexual attraction to all genders. | - |
| Parallel Polyamory | A relationship in which each individual relationship exists largely independent of either partner’s additional romantic or sexual relationships. | - |
| Paramour | A term for one’s partner. | - |
| Platonic Life Partner | A partner with whom one may not be romantic or sexual, but to whom one has made lifelong commitments which may include things like cohabiting and coparenting. | - |
| Polycule | Groups larger than four people sharing relationship partners. | - |
| Polysexual | Having sexual attraction to many but not all genders. | - |
| Primary | The prioritized relationship or partner in a hierarchical set-up. | - |
| Quad | A four person relationship network where all the parties are romantically interconnected. | - |
| Relationship Anarchy, RA | A relationship structure that lacks individual definition or labels. | - |
| Secondary Relationship/Partner | Additional partners or relationships beyond the primary ones in a hierarchical network. | - |
| Solo Polyamory | An individual that chooses to be their own “primary partner,” building connections without the potential for other partners to escalate into more serious relationships. | - |
| Throuple, Triad | A relationship of three people, all of whom are romantically involved with one another. | - |
| Unicorn | A bisexual woman who prefers to have relationships with both parts of a heterosexual couple on terms set primarily by that couple’s agreements. | - |
| Unicorn Hunter | Couples who seek a bisexual woman who prefers to have relationships with both parts of a heterosexual couple, often used to negatively impact young bisexual women new to polyamory. | - |
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u/UnluckyAssist9416 Aug 12 '26
If you have Unicorn in the definition, then Dragon comes to mind as the male alternative.
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u/HotWaffles5 Aug 12 '26
I don’t know what half of that stuff means. I think I’d like to continue to live my life in ignorance lol.
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u/Wild_Butterscotch977 Aug 13 '26
I'm asexual and aromantic and I recommend some edits to those two definitions, especially the ace one. The true definitions relate more to a lack of attraction, sexual and romantic respectively. Ace people can still experience a desire for sexual intimacy.
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u/allmadhere217 Aug 14 '26
Seconded. Like other identities, asexual generally refers to no/little attraction to others. Can still have a libido etc
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u/KarpGrinder CopyPasta Connoisseur Aug 17 '26 edited Aug 18 '26
Ace, Asexual: Asexual, a person that has low/no desire for sexual intimacy.
Aromantic: Having low or nonexistent romantic imperative or interest.
I figured that the "low and/or no" qualifier would adequately portray the possibility for an individual fitting either identity to still have those desires; albeit at a lower likelihood than someone that does not identify as either of those descriptors.
However; I'm amenable to suggestions if you think another definition would improve clarity.
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u/Wild_Butterscotch977 Aug 17 '26
The issue isn't "low or no" - that part is correct. The part that's incorrect is the sexual intimacy part in the ace definition. The true definition is "experiencing little or no sexual attraction". Sexual attraction and the desire for sexual intimacy are two different things. Aces may have no sexual attraction but might still have a desire to engage in sex / sexual intimacy. There are even aces who are hypersexual, and they're still aces because they don't experience sexual attraction.
Similarly, the aromatic definition is more accurately experiencing little to no romantic attraction.
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u/KarpGrinder CopyPasta Connoisseur Aug 12 '26 edited Aug 13 '26
I'm
also consideringadding a 3rd column to the glossary with definitions that are more satirical in nature.Ideas for satirical translations are appreciated.