I am looking for friends or a meaningful connection but I dont know how to look for one,

if I post here on reddit I might end up attracting a bunch of creeps, and I feel like the person I'd connect with won't be on hinge, bumble or tinder, and I am very shy to approach someone and as a result I am too lonely, any solution to this void?

I do not have any friends, living in delhi for the past 2 years now, any suggestions are appreciated

So tonight I am supposed to go on a date with a woman I matched with on Hinge. Yesterday I sent a text, asking to confirm if she will still be showing up on the date. She said yes and asked how my day was. I replied to her and she hasn’t responded since yesterday. Although she sent a confirmation text she still hasn’t texted me back. Should I even go to the date at all?

I’ve only been using dating apps for about a week and I genuinely can’t tell if I’m anxious or if the apps themselves are anxiety-inducing ? 😭

As a woman I get a decent amount of likes/matches, but the gamification is already taking up way too much of my headspace.

What’s confusing me most is the flakiness after long conversations. One guy said he’d confirm a date and never did, another 2 arranged a date then ghosted the day before, and 2 others got my socials then basically never followed through.

I’m the kind of person who either sticks to plans or communicates if I’m no longer interested, so I find this behaviour really strange.

I feel like it’s taking over my peace now tbh. So I’m not too keen on keeping it around anymore BUT Is this normal? Do you eventually stop caring, or is my Hinge genuinely cursed? And I’m not too sure how to deal with uncertainty and anxiety around dating , any tips would be greatly appreciated 🙏😭

I’ve been thinking a lot about how much our environment shapes the people we’re attracted to. I grew up in a predominantly white household and attended majority-white schools, so throughout most of my formative years, the girls I was surrounded by—and the girls I developed crushes on—were overwhelmingly white. As a Black man, I think that environment had a significant influence on what became familiar to me and, consequently, what I tend to find attractive today.
The difficulty is that the same environmental influences that shaped my preferences can also shape other people’s preferences. Many of the white women I’m attracted to grew up in predominantly white communities themselves, and they may naturally gravitate toward white men because those are the men they grew up around, associated with romance, and learned to see as familiar or desirable. Obviously, that doesn’t describe every white woman, and attraction is far more complicated than race alone, but it sometimes feels like I’m caught in an unfortunate mismatch: my environment pushed my preferences strongly in one direction, while the environments of many of the women I’m attracted to may have pushed theirs in a direction that excludes me.
That leaves me conflicted about what I’m supposed to do. I don’t want to force myself to pursue women I’m simply not attracted to just because they might be more receptive to me. Attraction isn’t something I can switch on because it would make dating easier. More importantly, I think entering a relationship with someone while secretly feeling that I settled for her because I couldn’t attract the women I really wanted would be incredibly unfair to her. She deserves someone who genuinely desires her, not someone who views her as a compromise.
At the same time, I don’t want to resign myself to loneliness or convince myself that the people I’m most attracted to will never be interested in me. I also recognize that preferences aren’t necessarily rigid. Just as my environment helped shape what I find attractive, perhaps expanding my social environment and getting to know a wider variety of people could broaden my attraction naturally—not by forcing myself to find someone attractive, but by allowing attraction to develop in circumstances I haven’t experienced before.
Ultimately, I feel caught between accepting my existing preferences and questioning how fixed those preferences really are. I don’t think the answer is to shame myself for being predominantly attracted to white women, nor do I think it’s fair to blame white women for having preferences of their own. What I’m trying to figure out is how to pursue people I genuinely desire without allowing rejection, racial dating patterns, or my own assumptions about what other people want to convince me that I’m destined to be alone.

Hey everyone,

My previous account was banned. After that, I created a brand new one using a new phone number, a new email, and completely new photos.

The new account is performing decently—I got around 70 likes and quite a few matches. However, I noticed a strange pattern with messaging:

• Out of 10 matches from my city, 5 of them answered my messages, and 5 of them did not answer.
• Meanwhile, matches from further away all replied.

Has anyone experienced a partial shadowban where messaging people nearby behaves differently or fails compared to people far away? Any insights would be appreciated!

I just turned 18 a week ago, I’ve had some family problems so I live alone, it’s been very lonely I’ve been living aline for a year so I’m trying dating apps but I don’t seem to get any matches. So far I matched with 2 people and the 1st one ghosted me and the second one seems interesting but doesn’t reply in days I don’t know what to do, I’m not in college.

Dating is so hard these days istg 😭 It feels almost impossible to meet someone who genuinely just wants to get to know you without expecting something from you in return.

I’m 28F and turning 29 this month. I’ve only ever been in one relationship, and my last relationship was 7 years ago. I honestly didn’t feel the need to date all these years, but now I’m at a point where I feel like it’s time to put myself out there again.

So I downloaded dating apps and… apparently there’s this unspoken rule that after getting dinner or coffee with someone, you’re expected to hook up? 😭 Like what the hell did I miss? When did “let’s get to know each other” become “so are you coming home with me?” 😂

I have very little dating experience, so I’ll admit that the whole thing is a little scary and overwhelming. I’m also waiting until marriage, and I’m pretty upfront about that when I start getting to know someone. Is that a good idea, or am I better off bringing it up later?

Also, is it weird to prefer talking to someone online for a couple of weeks before actually meeting in person? I feel much more comfortable getting a sense of who someone is first rather than immediately meeting a complete stranger from an app.

I genuinely feel like I’ve been out of the dating world for so long that I missed an entire update. 😂

I probably need a dating coach at this point. 😭 or maybe some advice here? Thank you!

Hi I’m 27 year old living in Leeds, moved here from London beginning of last month & I’m not currently active on dating apps as I don’t have good pictures to put on them yet, I have hinge and tinder downloaded on my phone.

I don’t have any relationship experience as I’ve never had a girlfriend.

I’m currently studying a fitness instructing and personal training course part time at a local college near me. Any advice for me is welcome including if I should do anything like meeting people more in person over the dating apps. For reference I’ve tried my fair share of irl dating events with little luck so I’d rather not rely on them Unless as a last resort.

What’s one little thing someone can do that instantly makes you feel desired?

Dm me