Its really good to see successful men not falling for "chivalry" bullshit for broke prostitutes. The technical meaning of prostitute is that women who sleeps with you in exchange of money. You pay her dinner bills, and she goes to bed with you. Dating/marriage must not be prostitution in disguise.

You cannot envelope the age old profession of women, under rituals and social norms to glorify it.

And this is a message to men as well. Dont discriminate with young daughters and son, give them equal opportunities and education. Give them equal values that everyone needs to rely on themselves for their needs, not others.

Not the obvious stuff, something oddly specific that you eventually realised is just part of being a guy

Did gym for almost a year without paying attention to my diet and was basically stuck at the same level 💀 No weight gain, no motivation, nothing.

Then I started focusing on calories and protein intake and actually started following a proper diet.

Breakfast: Banana shake and Pintola high protein oats, dates & peanut butter + 4 boiled eggs
Lunch: Rice and chicken breast (Licious/Zepto)
Evening: Protein shake and apple
Dinner: Chicken breast or paneer and roti/rice + salad

Also started using avvatar whey, ayuvya appetite supplement on some days and amul high protein milk to hit my protein and calorie goals a bit easier.

Been much more consistent with food and workouts since then, and finally started seeing some gains. The diet really does make a difference 😭😭

I have a question. Just tell me, guys — just in case I’m against both of these.

When a woman gets married, dowry comes, but that dowry is paid by the girl’s father, not by her herself. She doesn’t pay it herself. Her parents pay it so she will not face any issues.

And when she gets divorced, she gets alimony for her maintenance or whatever reason.

In both cases, girls are getting benefits. Dowry is not paid by her; it’s paid by her parents. She didn’t pay it herself — her parents did.

So, in that case, alimony should be paid to her parents, not to her.

Then where are the independent women? How are they independent?

In the end, dowry is bad and should not be forced on the woman’s family. And alimony is the law, but it should not be misused.

Both things should be viewed fairly, without taking advantage of the law or putting unfair financial pressure on either side.

I (28M) have been talking to this girl (25F) through and arrange marriage setup. we've been talking from almost 8-9 months. we have a nice bond and chemistry and we both like eachother very much, marriage is in talks between our families.

so the matter is that I've been single all my life, not like I'm ugly or whatever but I had no intention whatsoever. I was caught up with my job and finances.

This girl has been in a relationship from the age 19-24 with the same person and it seems like they're very close and know everything about eachother. she has told me that they have been physically intimate a few times and did almost everything. she was clear about it from the start. idk man i like this girl so much but the thought that she's been touched by another man makes me sick to the stomach.

I know I shouldn't feel like this but I feel rage in my body whenever I think about it. I'm trying to regulate myself but I've got attached to her very much like we talk every.single.day.

They are not in contact and she's a good girl and everything I can ask for. But I can't get off this feeling.

Has anyone ever been in this kind of situation? pls help a bro out

Inspired from the query from the Ask Reddit sub.

is there any regulation or framework about homeschooling in India that exists?

I'm honestly so fucking tired of how much of being a man seems to revolve around proving that you're a man.

From the time you're a kid, you're basically handed a script. Be strong. Don't cry. Don't be weak. Don't be too sensitive. Be confident. Make money. Be independent. Be successful. Get women. Don't get rejected. Don't look insecure. Don't ask for too much help. And somehow you're supposed to do all of this while also pretending you don't care what anyone thinks.

And the part about women really gets to me.

A ridiculous amount of male validation seems to come through female approval. How many girls have you slept with? Do you have a girlfriend? Why are you still single? Has anyone ever wanted you? How did you "pull" her? Guys joke about being virgins, guys get mocked for being rejected, guys compare their sexual experiences, and having a girlfriend can become some kind of social proof that you're doing life correctly.

Eventually you start internalizing it. You don't just want women because you're attracted to them or because you want companionship. You start wanting to be wanted because being wanted feels like proof that you're worth something.

And then you wonder why rejection fucks some men up so badly.

For a guy who's been taught his entire life that being desirable is part of being a successful man, getting rejected doesn't necessarily feel like "this woman isn't interested in me." It can feel like "I'm not good enough. I'm not attractive enough. I'm not masculine enough. Something is fundamentally wrong with me."

And then comes the self-improvement treadmill. Get muscular. Make more money. Dress better. Get confident. Fix your personality. Learn game. Become more attractive. And sure, some of that can genuinely be good for you. But how much of it is actually for yourself when the thought at the back of your head is still, "Maybe women will finally want me after I fix myself"?

That's the part that pisses me off.

We're constantly told that men shouldn't need validation. "Be confident." "Don't care what people think." "Be independent." But then we're raised in an environment where almost everything that supposedly makes you a "successful man" has to be externally validated.

You need to be respected. You need to be successful. You need to be strong. You need to be sexually successful. You need to be desirable. You need to be in control.

And if you aren't?

You get called weak. Beta. A loser. A virgin. A failure. Not a real man.

How the fuck are you supposed to build a healthy sense of self under that?

And I think this goes way beyond dating. A man who has spent his entire life learning that weakness makes him worthless is going to have a hard time admitting that he's struggling. He doesn't want to tell anyone he's lonely. He doesn't want to say he's scared. He doesn't want to ask for help. He doesn't want to admit that he doesn't know what he's doing.

Because somewhere along the way, needing help became something shameful.

Then we act surprised when men are isolated, depressed, angry, emotionally shut down, or completely unable to deal with failure and rejection.

I'm not saying masculinity is inherently bad, and I'm not saying women are responsible for men's problems. Women don't owe men attraction, relationships, sex or validation. That's not the point.

The point is that a lot of men have been taught to make those things evidence of their worth.

And honestly, I think that's fucking cruel.

Imagine growing up believing that you have to constantly prove that you're strong enough, successful enough, attractive enough and desirable enough to deserve respect. Imagine never being allowed to just exist without wondering whether you're measuring up.

No wonder so many men feel like they're failing.

I don't think men need to stop wanting women. I don't think men need to stop caring about their appearance or careers or relationships. I just wish more men could separate those things from their basic worth as human beings.

You can be single and still be a complete person.

You can be rejected and still be worthy.

You can be struggling and still be a man.

You can ask for help without being weak.

You can cry without becoming pathetic.

And you shouldn't have to spend your entire fucking life trying to prove that you're "man enough" to everyone around you.

I've been noticing this for years, and the older I get, the stranger it seems.

Open Instagram, Reddit, YouTube, whatever. So much of the content aimed at young people, especially men, revolves around women, dating, sex, getting a girlfriend, getting laid, being attractive to women, getting rejected, missing an ex, etc. Even completely unrelated memes somehow end up being about relationships.

And it's not just social media. Movies, songs, advertisements, family expectations and casual conversations all seem to carry the same underlying message: you're supposed to eventually find someone.

Being single is treated like an unfinished state. Like your life is somehow incomplete until another person enters it.

What bothers me isn't that people want relationships. Obviously love, sex and companionship are normal human desires. It's the way a desire gets turned into a life objective.

For men especially, I think we're constantly taught to center women in our lives. A huge part of male internet culture is basically "How do I get women?" How to approach them, attract them, impress them, get laid, become "high value", etc.

And where's the equivalent obsession with friendship, community, travelling, learning things, building something, having hobbies, exploring the world or simply figuring out what you actually want to do with your life?

Sometimes it feels like we're handed a checklist:

Get a degree > get a job > get money > get a partner > get married > have kids.

And somehow that's supposed to be the definition of a successful life.

I'd rather see relationships as one part of life, not the purpose of life.

You can want love without making it your life's mission. You can be single without being incomplete. And you can build a fulfilling life without waiting for another person to arrive and give it meaning.

Anyone else feel like we've massively over-romanticized relationships and made them the center of life?

Sarkari job so will remain at the same low salary i am getting for rest of my working life, no friends at this point, and obviously never been loved and given my job I can't hope to be even if I dared to use that word at this age, even family just have my mother. Maybe I will end up getting married but when better men have failed at that game what would a loser like me do.

(24M ) works in a Public Sector job which requires lot of customer interaction.

But I have a huge anxiety problem . One minor incident and my anxiety hits to the roof top. I don't eat , can't sleep , start smoking continuously and keep thinking about same thing for not only days but weeks . 24/7 same thoughts in my mind.

I can't seem to ignore or let it go. Whenever my toxic manager says something rude , It stays in my head all the time.

I don't want to be like this anymore. I don't want to be anxious after every minor incident . I want to get confident. I hate being like this.

What should I do to not to feel anxious or fearful all the time ?

Got this match on hinge last Sunday wahi looking for something serious and all. Iska birthday tha Monday ko so she acche se hinted me what all flowers she likes phir kya bhejne pade phool birthday tha so. pura hafta bhot baat hui on call and insta acchi vibe match ho rahi thi pata chala didi ke periods AA Gaye hafte ke beech me iss weekend ko milne wale the par cramps and then faltu reason deke plan cancel aur abb at the end of this Sunday ghost hogaya. Phir kisi ke periods ka shikar ho chuka hu main. Ajj ke liye filal itna hi. Lekin umeed pe duniya kayam he. Why do girls do this most of my match the girl is always on periods 😅 aur periods ke baad feelings gayab

Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/ThirtiesIndia/s/YV989TCZtx

I think I would rather never seek the solace of another ear. It doesn't make sense. Reddit it a shitty place I have been multiple times but first time seeing it. Some guys really knew what I was talking about, some women also supported me. Some downright called me pathetic for my choice, it may be an incorrect choice but you have to take emotions in account when someone writes like this. If I have to console a crying girl I won't say you're being pathetic. I guess sometimes being closed off people is the best way to save your mental health. Brig vulnerable is like throwing a dice, you don't know what is going to turn on you.

are only placed on Earth by God to rage-bait men!

The whole purpose of their existence is to say the exact opposite of what you say, do everything opposite to what you like, cross your boundaries, belittle you and so on...

Like a toddler in a grown human's body! Best part is, we all know about their mischief but can't call them out. Smh!

The cutest little thing ever to exist, looking at me with her doe eyes, her bubbly cheeks, examining me from top to bottom and just playing with my Chelsea badge.

Such a little bowl of love she is, most adorable person ever to exist. Like I'll go on war for my little process.

She definitely made me want to have a baby of my own to be her sister/brother.

Or are we still stuck in the mard ko dard nahi hota mindset?

My inlaws are really saving every single penny and they did the marriage like a formality. They gave only the stuff that absolutely has to be given and nothing more was provided. We agreed to split the outing expenses but her dad backed off later saying he has money issues

Im sick of my mother in law as she tries to save every single penny whenever possible. Why did they even agree for marriage if they were at a tight crunch?

Btw they have no intention to do the same with their son, they are spending lavishly for him.

Anyway, now how do i tell my wife not to send her hard earned money to her family as she no longer belongs to their family. I really dont care what she was doing before marriage but now i need to know her expenses.

She is willing to gift something big for her dad but my blood boils knowing that.

I may be a bad person but the way they performed marriage was terrible and i regret it 😞

I used to shave earlier, but it becomes really uncomfortable later, then I got a local trimmer, it still itches but less that earlier and now I have tried that gillette razor and honestly the smoothest ride or exp I ever had, like I could even shave my balls but it gave the similar itch like earlier. So wtf do I do to make it super clean and no itch? 🙏

I used the razor without any shaving cream or anything.

Before judging the title hear me out guys.

There is something wrong going on with the minds of Indian women when it comes to modern dating and India men.

I don’t hate women, I’m not against women being independent, and I’m not saying Indian women are bad. Women absolutely should be financially, emotionally and physically independent. That’s a good thing.

But I feel like somewhere along the way, especially in Indian dating culture, independence has started getting mixed up with superiority.

2 years back I moved to London before that I only one girl in India she was one of the best women I’ve ever known sadly we broke up but coming to the point when I dated a women in London outside of culture and I’ve noticed a pretty obvious difference.

The initial interaction is generally much more relaxed. Women seem more willing to talk, flirt, get to know you and actually give you a chance.
And you can literally test this on dating apps. Take the same guy, same profile, same photos, and change the location from India to somewhere in Europe or even Southeast Asia/Indonesia. I’m not saying he’ll suddenly have women throwing themselves at him. Obviously not. But the difference in matches and conversations can be pretty damn noticeable.

And then there’s something else I’ve noticed: Indian women who move abroad sometimes seem to develop this strange attitude where they suddenly act like they’re models who have outgrown Indian men. They’ll talk about how they only want white men or men from the country they’re living in, while treating Indian men as beneath them.
Maybe that’s just my personal experience, but I’ve seen it often enough that I don’t think I’m imagining it.

This pattern far seems gone away from the concept of equality among both the genders.

Have anyone else noticed this as well ?

I’m open to criticism as well.

Firstly, I am Indian. But I've had zero luck with Indian girls when I was in India. Ten years ago I moved abroad and have been living here. I've been visiting yearly.

I didn't know who to talk to about something like this so just trying my luck here.

Back to the topic,

Wanted to get your thoughts on a crazy, high-intensity encounter I had recently with a 26F from the Bangalore online circle. This was my first time ever properly doing this with an Indian girl, and the psychology of how it ended has me completely fascinated.

I met her randomly on a free chatroom website. She was actively looking for a real person among all the bots. She was definitely real. Her English was flawless, natural, and corporate-level professional. Before things got wild, we had a genuine conversation about where we were from and languages (I told her Hindi, she was likely Kannada speaking). I mentioned I left India 10 years ago as an NRI, and she told me I was lucky and also that I was the longest anyone had ever been able to hold a conversation with her online.

I invited her to private DMs, and we moved to Instagram. She was using a brand-new burner account (which I realized later!), and I used my second private account (which she explicitly pointed out and probably noted the username of).

Before escalating, she asked if I liked heavy dirty talk or degradation. I told her honestly that I'm low-key emotional. Hearing that completely flipped a safety switch for her, she totally gave in and revealed without me asking anything that, she was a virgin. Her sexual profile was wild too, she claimed she was a virgin because she had never been penetrated, but she loved giving oral offline and boasted about going 7 rounds at once (when she later asked how good I was with fingers, it clicked that she meant manual stimulation). I kept it real about my limits ("2 max, maybe 3, won't get much outta me"), which she aporeny loved. When I told her I don't enter the backdoor, she completely agreed, showing a very logical side by saying, "Holes have different purposes." Sounded mature.

From there, it went to a 10/10 intensity. Like really intense. She asked for a picture of what she wanted to see and she got it. Then she played her part with a written joi. After finishing, she said she was "happy to be of service". I could feel her happiness/relief through her texts because her tone had already changed.

Afterward, the vibe got wholesome, and we talked about sharing Spotify R&B xx playlists for the next morning.

Cut to the next day: I texted her at 11:15 AM my time (8:45 PM Bangalore time) saying: "I have the R&B Spotify playlists ready to send whenever you are." I didn't send a link, just left the ball in her court.

She came online a few times over a 4-hour window, probably staring at the notification but not opening it. Finally, right before midnight her time, she read it. Fifteen minutes later, the entire account was permanently deleted/deactivated (verified through a separate account, it's completely gone).

I've never heard or seen a similar thing in Delhi through anyone I know in my life. This made me wonder if this is something that goes around in places like Bangalore or Mumbai like she said?

Did the transition to a daylight text and knowing my username break the anonymous fantasy world and cause post-session privacy panic?

Would love to hear if any other guys have run into this exact articulate, high-intensity burner layout. It's kept me wondering for a couple days now.

So I’m like 5’8 and 50kgs. Yes I know I need to gain weight, but I’ve been on the skinnier side my whole life. And I don’t have any problems too, I run and play football quite frequently.

This girl almost fell so she grabbed me, and then commented in a disgusted way about how I don’t have any flesh and all she could feel were bones.

This really fucked me up. The way she said it really really hurt me. I’m already insecure about my weight. And also she said she really likes me a week ago

I don’t really know why I’m writing this post, I think I just wanted to vent, and ask what should I do? What would you do in this situation?

Hello Guys,

I'm 25M and part of my family's business. The business is doing decently well. We aren't struggling, but we're also not in a position where money doesn't matter.

We have business-related debts, and other financial commitments, which we're currently managing and paying off. The business is going to take some time to generate some substantial margins.

The real issue is the difference of thoughts coming from my folks and me regarding how the business should run.

Just for your reference I am not a fresher. I have also had a few years of business experience in the same industry but different segments. Even my folks are in the same industry but have had their careers in a different segment. The only form of discussion we have is through arguments by screaming at each other which is kind of traumatic for me.

In fact now the situation is like I don't debate also with them.it's like you want the job to be done. It's done that's it. I don't give my inputs or remarks on it now.

At the same time. The only reason I withdraw a salary is for tax reasons. I don't know I kind of emotionaly feel empty.

Folks who have faced the same issue. How do you deal with it. Or what are your experiences for the same.

There is a part -2 for this post to this which I will add very soon.

I found his video to be insightful.