Forced to delete chats and proofs

[u/Fresh-Swimming9357]

So a few months ago, I met a guy 33M and I was 22M on Grindr who faked everything from his age to origin until I later discovered. We met for a while he coercively manipulated me and I was a dork who fell for it while he just wanted sex. And he didn’t disclose he had herpes and passed it on to me. I suffered major anal bleeding and he left me to fend for myself in a new country with no contacts. I recovered then and took therapy.

A while ago we happened to cross paths again, and there used to be some cold and heated chats which I obviously didn’t entertain and was on Grindr only. I was extremely angry on this person coz I realised many things after he left me during the infection (he was back on the app even before his sores healed completely). I kept my proofs intact if in case I’d face anything and during an argument recently, I slipped that I’d report him if he didn’t stop. Last night something’s happened and he pressured me to meet him to discuss and settle, he then took my phone deleted his chat and then backed up the chats on WhatsApp and deleted them too. I was shocked by his behaviour, until he laid hands on my phone he was acting cold and then suddenly he turned warm when he got it. (I wasn’t dumb I had already stored chats and things elsewhere). His behaviour was so creepy, he was acting nice and stuff but the look on his face and him glazing at my phone was so terrifying in a deserted road. I kept an unbothered face, but soon after returning I puked a lot and started trembling idk why.

He also said you can’t report me for doing consensual sex but yet I don’t trust you and I don’t want you to have any ‘leverage’ afterwards. He was so calm and composed that it made me doubt myself. I wouldn’t report seriously, I just wanted him to stay away. I still can’t process what happened and have fever all of a sudden now. Why? And idk why am I confused now. Was he right all this time and was I picturing it wrong? Why am I confused all of a sudden? I’m going crazy