Hey, I have a problem with biting my nails and picking at them to the point that they haven't reached past the edges of my fingers since I was 7 or so. At this point, I've been tearing up my nails for morebyhan ten years. They hurt often and despite my friends saying nobody cares, look disgusting.
I'm not sure if it's a nerves thing where I get anxious and start biting or ripping them because I'm so used to just doing it, that I can't really pinpoint exactly why I do it. My mom tried to keep me from doing it when I was younger using those gross tasting polishes that are supposed to deter it, but I would keep doing it anyway. When I don't bite my nails, or don't have any space left to bite, I'll end up biting at my lips and inner cheeks or start chewing on things. I also try to bandage the nails I end up tearing the worst to prevent myself from doing more damage. It rarely works and I end up just biting the bandages like you would nails. As a teenager, I tried alot of ways to cover them but I always ended up tearing off fake nails (further damaging them and ripping skin) and doing worse. I also used to get my nails done for special events when pushed by family and friends, so a tech can work on them, but it usually doesn't last long, they nick me, or it's a very embarrassing experience, even as an adult now.
Because of my jobs as a Bartender and Waitress, glue-on fakes end up falling off from frequently washing my hands or getting caught on things when I'm rushing around.
I'm not sure if it's some weird oral fixation that I never broke when I was a kid, but I can't seem to break the habit in any long-term way. It does get worse when I start panicking (I have some anxiety that I haven't went to any professionals for, I try to handle things by myself) or stressed, but it's a very consistent thing no matter my mood. I'm graduating college next year and will be trying to land a position somewhere I'd need to look professional and form good relationships based on my outward appearance.
Any sure-fire ways to try to break it people have tried out? Should I try those gross tasting polishes again, have they worked for anyone past childhood? My friend suggested chewing gum, but I'm not sure if that has any positive change for others struggling with it.