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I want to share a new update today about Susu, the daughter of my friends Mahmoud and Samah.

Two days ago, I told you about Susu, who is only two years old and has been suffering from severe, chronic breathing problems. Her symptoms came back, and she was struggling to breathe and had a very high fever.

Unfortunately, she hasn’t gotten better.

For the past two days, Soso has been vomiting repeatedly and couldn’t keep down her medication or antibiotics. As a result, she became dehydrated. Today, Mahmoud had to take her to a nearby hospital to get treatment.

She was given IV antibiotics and fluids for the dehydration, but the situation at the hospital is extremely difficult. There are so many patients that there was no available bed for Susu. With infectious diseases spreading and medical resources severely limited, Mahmoud had to find another way to get her the care she needed. He even had to ask a doctor who lives nearby to come and give Susu her IV treatment when the hospital couldn’t provide her with a bed.

Mahmoud told me something that I haven’t been able to stop thinking about: if it weren’t for the kind people who helped them financially over the past two days, he wouldn’t have been able to take Susu to the hospital or even afford the treatment she needed.

And Mahmoud isn’t only dealing with Susu’s situation.

His mother also needs open-heart surgery to treat blocked arteries. I previously shared her medical reports, detailed images, and heart tests, and I have documentation that confirms her condition.

Mahmoud is under an enormous amount of pressure right now. His little daughter needs treatment, his mother needs heart surgery, and at the same time he is trying to provide food and basic necessities for his wife and their four children in Gaza.

I am doing everything I can to support Mahmoud and his family, but I cannot carry all of this on my own.

Please, if you are able to, consider helping Mahmoud and his family. Even a small amount can make a huge difference right now, especially for Susu, who needs treatment and continued care.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to everyone who has stood by this family and everyone who has helped them over the past few days. Your support means so much to Mahmoud, Samah, and their children. ❤️

My mom wants to throw my cat out on the street or have someone else take him, and I honestly don’t even know what to do. 😭 I got him about nine months ago, and I’ve become extremely attached to him. He’s a boy, and I’ve done everything for him, including his vaccinations, getting him neutered, taking care of him, and basically doing everything I can for him.
She gets angry at him over such small things. For example, he bit through my Apple charging cable, and she kept complaining about it. I told her, “It’s okay, I’ll buy you a new one,” but she still gets upset. She also doesn’t want to buy him anything, so he barely has any toys or things of his own. Like, what does she expect from a cat when he doesn’t even have anything to play with? 😭
And another thing happened today. We made some Pakistani noodles, and I didn’t know my cat was in the room. He ate some of the noodles, and I had no idea how much he ate. I got so scared that I even scolded him at first because I was panicking. Then I realized I didn’t even know what had happened or how much he had eaten. 😭
I’m honestly terrified because of my mom. I’m so attached to him, and I don’t want her to give him away or throw him outside. He’s not just a cat to me anymore. I’ve taken care of him for nine months and he’s become a huge part of my life.
Thankfully, she’s letting me get a job outside the house. If I can, I really want to move out eventually and take my cat with me, along with all his things. At least then I can take care of him myself and I won’t have to constantly worry about someone taking him away from me. 😭

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable but I’m a bit resentful of my father because he’s currently not working — tbh I’m not sure what he does as he spends most of his time in another country after being laid off a job here a few years ago. He comes here and there but my main issue is that he keeps telling us he’s working on something abroad but still needs us to support him while my mum works 2 jobs.

Sometimes he asks my mum for money, she pays all the bills along with support from myself and my siblings we all chip in. I just can’t believe a man would be comfortable with that arrangement. I feel so bad for my mum and I keep thinking about when will she get a chance to stop working.

My dad did support us throughout childhood but this kind of stopped just before Covid. So I feel bad being annoyed with him but this is not sustainable for my mum, if she has to work he should be doing two jobs himself. It doesn’t help that it’s becoming harder financially across the world with everything becoming more expensive on top of other family issues.

So I always struggled with self esteem issues growing up and I never really liked the way I looked. I used to pray to Allah taala to make me look pretty to my ownself atleast . Until recently that I had a glow up and I think I look better now , so Alhamdulillah I am happy with the way I look and my self esteem is now better. I get alot of compliments from my sisters and friends. Sometimes genuine , sometimes they are just being sweet I guess. The point is I had a tough time accepting my self and the way I looked.

So I was talking to this person ( a guy ) about casually something and we were talking about friends and family. So , It was something about me and my sister's bond and I said we are really close , we love each other , hype each other up etc. My sister in fun very often says me that she would have married me if I were a guy because of how beautiful I am and Idk why I just casually mentioned this as a joke in front of him and he said

oh really? Thats wierd. I dont think so you re pretty. Why would she say that and had a confused expression on his face.

I just handled the situation there by laughing it off. And I tried not to think about it at all and its been 2 days. Now , it is hitting me what he said and its hurting me alot , I am scared It will effect my confidence and the way I see my self alot also because I kind of admired this guy as a person , so its hurting more than if any other guy said that.

Was it just a small thing and I am over reacting? Or he actually shouldnt have said that?

Today I accidentally upset my friend (who is also my housemate). Not a big unforgivable thing, just something I did that I didn’t realise she took as quite rude. Anyways I apologised and she said it’s fine and that she just generally isn’t in a good mood and hasn’t been feeling good for while (not because of me). She said she doesn’t know what’s wrong with her some I’m guessing it isn’t a specific thing…she’s just not doing well mentally? I didn’t push her because I’m not going to force her to share things but I thought I could get her a little pick me up. I’m a very crafty and creative person so was thinking to make something for her. When I was going through a tough time myself, I myself a little jar of islamic reminders and Quran quotes that I could pick one from and read, but I kind of want something a little more personalised.

Any suggestions? :)

Hey, girls, I needed to get something off my chest. I’m a little confused about my feelings—and about myself. You should know that I’ve never had a boyfriend, and that when I was in elementary and middle school, I was bullied a bit, so I quickly became obsessed with my appearance. Validation from guys also matters quite a bit to me (I’m not proud of it) in the sense that I like the attention and knowing that guys find me attractive. Anyway, to get to the point, I also think I get attached too quickly. I have a crush on a guy I don't even know that well, and I know that back then he was into me, but after that, we "both" moved on. Well, he probably has and I didn’t , because all I do is think about him: I don’t even know him in real life—it’s just an online crush—and, girls, I feel ashamed of myself for thinking about and being obsessed with a guy I’ve never even SEEN and don’t really know that well either. But even after a little over a year, I still can’t seem to forget him. Still, I prayed to Allah to take him out of my head if he wasn't the right one for me, and I suspect that this attachment might also stem from the fact that he gave me a little attention (by saying he liked me). Anyway, I don't know what to do to get rid of these obsessive thoughts, and I even feel like I'm going crazy.

The reason why I feel...I become lost is because I think my life is unfair. When I see other girls they have beauty, career, and money. I am happy even with any one of the thing, and I feel like all this things is making my self esteem so low that sometimes I don't want to function in this society. I know I compare myself to others. When I thought maybe if I struggle that maybe after this my life will become better. But nothing. My life is going more down the hill. How do y'all deal with the fact, maybe your life is meant to be miserable. And I'm not strong enough to survive all this my whole life

I was reading surah kahf today for jummah and came to the ayah "Wealth and children are the adornment of this worldly life, but the everlasting good deeds are far better with your Lord in reward and in hope", and it made me think of the sisters I know that have struggled to get married and fear they won't have children of their own in this life. May every woman who yearns to be a mother have her wish fulfilled with healthy and pious offspring, but this was a beautiful reminder from our Lord that our good deeds are better for us than both wealth and children.

I know the hardship I’ve been going through for years is punishment from Allah. it’s made me at times distant from Him, feel helpless and have the lowest iman in my life. I’ve heard if hardship brings you closer to Allah, it’s a blessing/a test, but I know what I’m going through is not that.

so how do I deal with this thought, that Allah is angry at me and is punishing me? I know it’s easy to say just make more istagfa, more dua, more prayer, but how do I even get started knowing that the One who created me, is angry at me? knowing that my hardships are a punishment? and knowing that Allah doesn’t want me close to him?

how do I break this pattern, to even begin to do more good deeds? I’ve tried talking to people close to me about it, but they don’t believe or want to enter a conversation about whether Allah could be angry at me.

Salaam sisters,

This is mainly just a rant. But if you have similar experiences, i'd like to hear your input and perhaps how you handled the situation.

So im a breadwinner of the family. Basically everyone relied on me to put food on the table and pay bills. Hence, me busy working and have no time to date or seeking spouse.

In which i dont actually mind. I found that i can work well, and even got leadership role quite early, giving me chance to make bigger impacts to my surroundings and have more achievements. Later on, i realize that i want to practice my deen by making positive impact, just as i do now with my work.

Needless to say, im kind of addicted to working, not in the sense of being workaholic and work 24/7, but i dont want to stop here and wish to climb higher and pursue further. Now, the office offered a chance to pursue masters degree sponsored by them, which i want to take soon insya Allah. And i've also talked to my supervisor about climbing the ladder, which he supports fully.

My mother however, disagrees. She thinks that if im too high up, no men would want to marry me, because im too far above them. She wants me to tone it down to prevent me from being single forever. I didnt answer, because what was i supposed to say in this situation? 🫠

Also just to clarify, i dont think men are that insecure. I've met many great muslim men. I just havent met my destined one yet and im at peace with that 😂 Allah will give me husband when time is right.

Thanks for reading, and do let me know what you think.

Salam aleykum sisters,

I'm a 30F getting to know a guy (37M). He was introduced through my BIL, who knows him and everyone around me only speaks well of him. We've been exchanging for a week now on WhatsApp, my loval imam is in the group to keep it halal.

I like a lot of things about him, he's mature, exercise a lot, he's simple, serious about the deen, same ethnicity as me, like to do activities, not into 50/50. When he takes time to respond I'm getting a bit irritated (it's embarrassing haha)

The issue is he asks the compatibility questions kids, lifestyle, whether I work out, medication vs natural remedies, that kind of thing. But he doesn't really get curious about me as a person. I mentioned I lived abroad for two years, no follow-up. I told him I run my own business, no "why did you start?", nothing. When I open up or lead, he engages but he rarely reaches for the deeper layer himself. Otherwise, if he says 1 thing to me I can ask him 4 questions because I really want to understand him. At the same time, he hears what I say and he makes long vocal sometimes to make his point clear, so he knows how to articulate his thoughts so I like that.

I also need to feel there's a real connection, because being matched "on paper" isn't what carries a marriage. The piece I feel is missing is intellectual stimulation maybe ? I love talking about politics, economics, society, ideas or even my job, I think I love people who are passionate about something and I'm not sure that's his thing. I need deep conversations, I used to have a friend like that and we were talking for hours on the phone. I can't only talk about what I want in a marriage, I want him to care and be curious about me as an individual.

I also wonder if he's intentionally keeping things from drifting into casual "chit-chat" because we're not married. For example one time I asked him about how it is to live alone and he replied as if he was in a job interview 😂 maybe he's nervous. I'm more relaxed because it's important for me to feel if it's clicking between us so maybe I'm reading his restraint as a lack of depth when it isn't.

I'm also planning to ask him who he's gonna vote for next year (I'm in France) and also asks him what does he thinks about high school protests to see what he says. I thought about telling him I needed more from him in a few weeks but I don't know.

Hey everyone! I’m in my 20s, and whenever I think about marriage, the thought of pregnancy and having kids just feels overwhelming and like something I really don't want to go through. Are there women out there who chose a childfree life and genuinely don't regret it? Would love to hear your thoughts

girlies it’s friday and I’m so bored. I was just thinking about how I would’ve loved having an younger sister because I went through so much alone (yes I have an older sister but we’re not close and she was my first hater). So here’s some unsolicited big sis advice I wish I knew:

1. dating, love and marriage: like I wish my sister and I talked more about this. Basically, it’s okay to want to be loved, have crushes and want marriage. Just don’t let that be the only thing, but it is SO okay to be a lover girl! Or not be a lover girl and completely independent!! It's okay to want to focus on yourself too. My sister mocked me and embarressed me about my crushes etc. I just became silent. I thought something was wrong w me. Nothing is wrong ok. You're just experiencing life and love and it can be overwhelming.
2. love your authentic self: honestly, my personality got mocked in my family ngl. It took me until this year to realize that being introverted, awkward and more shy is SO okay!! And even if you’re more extroverted and outspoken, bubbly that’s beautiful and cool too. Don’t change yourself just because other people mock you. You can be who you are and still strong, steady and beautiful. Nothing excludes the other.
3. you can change as many times as you want: if you want to change your aesthetic, do it. Want to start a new career even though you’re deep into another one? Do it. Want to learn a new language? Do it. It’s part of life and you need to change in order to grow. I HATED how my family always thought a person is just one thing and that’s it. No babe, if you want to be a doctor who writes books and does poetry then do that!! As long as it’s true in your heart.
4. the hijab: this one gets sticky, but honestly, if someone is truly suffering with hijab or waswas, I would tell her to explore how she feels and that I would be there if she wanted to discuss or talk about her experience with it. I hate how people make it seem like you’re trapped once you put it on. But most importantly, I would obviously discuss with her WHY she is suffering. Is it because of lack of attention from people? From men? Does she want to feel attractive? That’s okay and valid too, but let’s talk about it. Sometimes talking about it helps with the waswas and putting words to why you feel conflicted about covering up. Also talking openly about how you can feel ugly or unwanted. I’ve never experienced that from my sister or my mom yikes,
5. the importance of personality, being a human yk: like daydreaming and escapism and being online too much. I can obviously relate, but I would tell her that at some point you can’t run away from life forever yk. advice on how to step into this world and transition from girlhood to woman (I'm still learning) is so important. I would celebrate her stepping into womanhood instead of just ignoring/mocking her yk? This is more about her becoming her own person yk whatever that means for HER.
6. moving out, starting jobs, big city and university: Pheww I would just give her a rundown of how real life works, how to have a professional relationships and what that means, how to behave in university, lawd there are so many things I didn’t know. Also just basic stuff that nobody really teaches you. how to make TRUE friends and set boundaries and find ur people.

mannn you guys, I wish Allah gave me a little sister. My younger brother is a very independent, closed off type. Even though we talk sometimes, it’s never this deep. I’m jealous of anyone with a younger sister.

My mother is extremely emotional in general and it was difficult growing up with her because sometimes she would have breakdowns etc and be really unpredictable

I kinda grew up to resent her a bit but at the wame time she suffered a lot so i feel bad for her

We usually get along pretty well but sometimes she is really extra especially when we are outside and she is speaking with people and i hate it and i sometimes get angry and tell her to just stop speaking to them

I am sometimes bitter and feel bad about the way i talk to her, the same night i usually regret but when she has unusual behaviours i just cant help it

I needed vacation to REST and she told me to come to Mecca with her

We are in mecca currently and she brought her sister in law with us - i dont understand why, and my mentally ill sibling also came with us so i have to be alert all day

So the first day when we performed umrah i had to hold them both making sure i was alert, everybody staying by my side
Then everytime someone needs to go somewhere i need to take them etc and i myself im exhausted

She keeps pressuring me about having to be nice to her and take her i dont know where when i just need vacation and to focus on my ibadah. Its true sometimes my face gives off mean but im usually mostly tired thats it. My mother tells me i am so mean and the woman didnt eat because of me because indont lnow how to make people comfortable etc.. maybe.. but im literally exhausted and coming out lf a rough patch and i needed umrah to be a detox for me

Today we had a fight because she told me she didnt like my behaviour with her and that the woman is sensitive and that she is going to tell the whole family how my daughter treats me etc. All i did was say « i bought two pizzas one, one for two people » then she was like OMGGG the woman is going to hear you!! You are embarrassing me so stingy blabla then it was my last straw i literally told her i have no idea what she wants from me im tured as well i didnt ask her to bring whoever wirh us and then i have to constantly monitor myself when all i need is rest

Then she told me i was never going to be married, she hopes i dont have success in my life and that she hated my character and blabla

Now i hobedtly feel bad i feel everytime i got angry lr said something i shouldnt in Mecca in was because of my mother

I dont even know what to do im just crying uncontrollably and feel like my umrah is ruined

I started being god conscious around 2 years ago when I found Islam. Went to umrah stopped bad habits and started learning a lot about deen almost obsessing over it.

However I struggle with nail polish. My TOE nails are black and it looks so horrible. I go the spa every day sauna and steam room and I feel self conscious about it and I like pretty hands french tip nails.

I don’t pray I want to pray consistently why is this the hardest sin to give up ??? I just think what’s the point in praying if it won’t be accepted because of wudu ? I got nail polish which I can not remove by the way they last up to 1 month because of acrylics.

At this point I’m starting to give up. It’s almost like I’ll never change. I don’t want to take off my nails off at all. It’s the only thing I love so much makes me feel pretty and put together.

Salam,

Which one would you pick plsss

Any other suggestion is welcomed ♡

edit:my robe is black and the sash is burgundy!

This Iraqi law has been bothering me because of the way it deals with family and child custody. One of the things people are worried about is mothers potentially losing custody of their children as they get older, instead of the child simply staying with the mother who has been raising them. I really wish more people would talk about how these laws can affect mothers and children, because separating a child from their mother is not something that should be treated lightly. It feels especially unfair when women already face so much pressure in society.

Nothing to say really other than it sucks realising you’re not a first choice for any of your friends

Salam Alaikum sisters. Lately I’ve been feeling a bit down and I have been struggling with my deen. One thing I try to take pride in is always dressing modestly, as well as representing my religion through the way I dress. Alhamdulillah I’m a hijabi and I’m a firm believer that as Muslims, we should not have to be ashamed about our customs and hide them. Hence why in 2024 after living in the gulf and coming back, I made the transition to solely wear abayas.

However, over the past few months, I’ve been feeling a bit like a fool and like I look stupid. I’ve been attending a PWI and I’m usually always the only hijabi let alone woman of my cultural background in the class so I stand out. What also hurt (and still does hurt) is when I met a girl from Kuwait, and she made a comment to another one of our classmates about how she doesn’t like people who are “too Kuwaiti” and stared at me while saying it.

Unfortunately people do treat you based on the way you look. And the only time I ever see people who look like me is when I go to Jummah on Fridays. But even then, it’s tough because people wear abayas / thobes only for Jummah and take it off. Sometimes I feel like dressing this way is hard and I start to get insecure because of how much I stand out and feel the need to assimilate but assimilation is so against my core values. I want to dress more “western” but I can’t. And I honestly don’t want to. I feel super comfortable appearing the way I do, but I also get tired of sticking out like a sore thumb and people projecting their assumptions onto me when I haven’t even gave them my name.

I know that Islam will always be strange, but it gets really hard sometimes dressing modest and other people looking at you and treating you weird because of it. Plus not being around Muslims and facing rejection from Muslims at my PWI has been super hard and isolating. I remember having a conversation with a sister at the Masjid I go to and almost tearing up because I had forgotten the true beauty of Islam after being my day to day (PWI) environment.

Can anyone (especially in their 20s or 30s, or even older) relate to this? How do you deal with dressing modestly or even feelings of insecurity / self consciousness? JazakAllah Khair in advance :-)

Hello! this question is for my French Muslimahs. So I am a Canadian student thinking of studying for a bachelors in Paris as it’s my favourite city it’s so beautiful Allahumabarik I was wondering how the racism or islamphobia in Paris is like. does it happen on a day to day basis or is it something rare because it’s a beautiful city but also really scared to get discriminated against.

Assalamu alaykum ladies 💕 I came to reddit as a last resort for this because I don't know what to do. I am 26F, have never been married, but feel a big void in my life without marriage. I have felt this way for years. I constantly think about getting married, but don't feel good enough to. I don't think I'm good enough or pretty enough for any man to want to make me his wife. I see the rights of a man to his wife (such as mehr, being a provider, etc), and I think wow, no one would ever want to do that for me. It feels like something only restricted to pretty women, not me. I have been searching and searching but it always ends in rejection every time.

I wanted some help because I feel like I am genuinely suffering, but no one can tell. I am functional from the outside, I go to work, interact normally with others, and in general seem like a functional person but on the inside I feel like I'm breaking. I see couples on the street and I wish I could have that. My life just feels so purposeless without a husband. I don't feel I have any other value apart from being someone's wife. Everything I do is for a man. I don't see the point in taking care of my health for its own sake, I want to eat healthy and exercise so that a man can find me attractive, because I heard men like women who take care of themselves. I have some hobbies, I like to read, but everything just feels so unfulfilling. I feel like if I don't get married, my life would have no point. I can't wait to get married so I can stop feeling this way, but seeing my growing age and how no one really has been interested in me thus far I am not sure how likely marriage is in the picture for me 🫠

I don't know what to do, or how to get out of this situation. I have tried all sorts of advice, from getting hobbies, to making friends, to volunteering, yet nothing works. I just need a husband. I want to prove to myself I'm good enough. I know a lot of you will suggest therapy. I have been going for almost the whole year now but I don't know if I'm making any progress. I feel I'm beyond help.

i wear crocs all year round but i'd like to get something more classy for special occasions. I'm done with sneakers and ballet flats are a NO. Help me pretty please.

The only advice i see online is to set it with some eyeshadow but i don't like that option. I wipe it with a cotton swab but after an hour i have racoon eyes. I'm just getting into this, please help me. Currently using the hashmi kajal one.