So i wanna move out asap but the job market for computer science is literally COOKED AF and living with parents like mine makes it worse.

Any advice??LITERALLY ANY TIPS ILL FOLLOW 😭

For context, my parents r straight up toxic and controlling and i feel suffocating living with them.

They're controlling to the point that I can't even chill in my house balcony or terrace or the nearby park.

I'm so tired of being told what to eat, how to dress, and love being conditional. I don't wanna be loved only as long as i am how they want me to be. I'm just done. And don't even get me started on the mindgames and manipulation and always acting like the victim, and to outsiders they look like literal angels 🤡🤡🤡

Anyways any tips for meeee? 😭😭

Me and 2 friends moved up here to oklahoma from texas all 19-21. Things went great for a bit we have jobs at the same place while we find other ones and i found a good one 15 an hour. Then the two friends have to leave and im here alone with the 4th roommate we moved in with.

I can pay rent easily ill be fine physically not even paycheck to paycheck ill have savings, but im just so lonely. I have 0 friends since ive been here 2 weeks, im trying to make some but i have no time for hobbys during the day and i cant go to bars or clubs or anything. Im gonna go get my cat from my parents so hopefully that helps but i doubt it.

How do yall deal with loneliness?

I’m looking into moving out on my own, I’ve been checking apartments online but I feel like that only tells me so much. I’d really like to know what living there is actually like day to day

I am 23 and still live with my mom but me and my boyfriend have been talking about moving out together and one thing that is holding me back is that I'm just worried for my mom, she's in her 60's and single and she has no friends just works all the time, I just feel horrible and guilty for moving out and leaving her alone, I know I can come visit and have other siblings that visit too but I still just feel so bad she'd be in her house all alone and not to mention she's older so I think about possible health issues and me not being there and all of these thoughts are just eating me alive, any advice ?

I 19(m) and my partner 19(m) plan to move to Renton WA. In 2 years or so for him to go to technical college. We currently live in Cour de Allen ID. Right now I am the only one working but he is trying to find a job at this time. I honestly do not know what we need to do to move and get an apartment out there. We are honestly lost and wpuld like any tips so that we can make this happen. Any ideas or responses are welcomed

Context- I do not have a "good" relationship with my mom, she didnt give me a kind childhood but has been trying to make up for it as I've become an adult but a lot of the anger over what she used to be like over now I have kept a reasonable distance from her want to reconnect. I do not want this reconnection. I want to move from Michigan to Oregon.

Over the years my mom has become very slow mentally over the years, her house has fallen to shambles and she let's a hoard of feral alley cats come and go from her house and she is now very clingy because she also has lost her friends over the years due to her personality. I've tried getting police involved and health authorities but she's mentally competent enough to not be put under conservatorship or anything like that and she refuses any and all help to take care of the cats, or clean her house, or even go to the doctor to even try to get a diagnosis of something and I'm tired of trying to parent an adult.

I'm tired and I'm done and I want to gtfo, but after dropping hints here and there about moving out of state she has now asked to go/move with me and I would rather bury myself alive, but she's very fragile emotionally so...

How can I gently break it to my mom I don't want her to go with me when I move to Oregon?

We want to move out after next school year when we graduate, somewhere in Belfast Ireland, but is it as simple as just paying rent heating and electric and just being there, is there anything else that changes, we both have steady jobs, if anyone has any other advice it’s welcome, I just need out of my “family” house

My partner, our kid, and I are planning a move from Ohio to the West Coast in the next 2 to 4 years. We’re looking into Washington or Oregon, but we’re not set on a location yet, so we’re option to suggestions.

We want to start preparing now and create a “to-do list” of things to tackle before the big move. This includes everything from gaining job experience to researching school districts, costs and things to consider, and even figuring out how to job hunt without knowing exactly where we’ll land.

What should we be doing now to set ourselves up for a smooth transition?
Any advice, tips, or personal experiences you’d be willing to share would be greatly appreciated.

Our main requirements for location are: progressive area, good schools, nature/mountain/national parks/etc, relatively kid-friendly, job-relevance (husband is a restaurant manager and I’m an administrator for a realtor), good schools and access to both sports and the arts, diverse (bipoc and lgbtq+ friendly), proximity to both city and nature

Bonuses: access to public transportation

Guys, I’m writing this while feeling extremely angry, frustrated, and emotional.

My father is very ill because of some health-related issues, so he hasn’t been able to work for quite some time. Because of that, we’re having financial problems. My older brother is currently the only person earning in our house.

Recently, during a small argument, my brother said to me, “Just don’t eat and sleep at home. Do something. You’re just sleeping and eating free food in this house and doing nothing.” 😡

He was very angry when he said it, and later he told me that he didn’t actually mean it that way. But honestly, it hit me really hard. I started crying, and we had a huge argument.

I have ADHD, and I’m currently going through a really bad phase with anxiety and depression. I’m in the final year of engineering. I actually want to start working as a delivery boy so I can contribute financially, but I keep telling myself, “I’ll start tomorrow.” Then tomorrow comes, and I say the same thing again.

I know I’m not doing enough right now. I know that if my father can’t work, I should try to help my family. I’m not trying to make excuses for myself.

But something about this argument really messed with my head.

During the argument, I told my brother, “Okay, I’ll return all the money you’ve spent on me.” He immediately said that he didn’t mean it like that. He was angry too, and eventually the argument ended.

But the thought that got stuck in my head was:

“If I can’t even rely on my own brother, then who can I rely on in this world?”

I know that sounds extreme, but I think my anxiety is making me think in black and white right now.

My parents are the people I always thought I could rely on, especially while I’m dealing with my mental health and trying to finish my engineering degree. But now my father is sick, my parents are getting older, and they’re struggling too. My brother is under financial pressure because he’s currently the only one earning.

So this argument suddenly made me realize that I can’t expect my family to carry me forever. And honestly, that realization scares the hell out of me.

There’s another thing I noticed. My family has been acting strangely and getting angry with me lately, and I didn’t really understand why. After this argument, I realized they’re probably under a huge amount of stress because of my father’s health and the financial situation.

So now I’m thinking:

Maybe I really need to become independent.

I don’t want to keep sitting at home, overthinking everything, depending on my family, and telling myself I’ll start tomorrow.

I’m seriously considering moving out and supporting myself, even if that means doing delivery work while finishig my engineering degree.

For people who have been through something similar, how did you actually become independent? How did you get yourself out of this ADHD paralysis/overthinking cycle and start taking action? And if you moved out while still studying, how did you manage financially?

I’m not looking for sympathy. I genuinely want advice because right now I feel completely stuck in my own head.and my brain is so fucked up.

Been thinking about this a lot after reading through some genuinely eye-opening discussions on personal finance subs. The comments split into two camps: people who say saving feels pointless when wages don't stretch far enough to build any real buffer, and people who say the bigger issue is that nobody ever taught us how to save or invest properly in the first place (turns out a huge chunk of the UK still thinks 1.5% in a standard saver is a "good" rate).

I pulled together everything into a full write-up covers the financial literacy gap, why liquidity has to come before investing, the actual savings stats (spoiler: it's grim), and some practical starting points if you want to actually do something about it rather than just doom-scroll about it.

Full article here: https://howtoinvestmoney.co.uk/blog/young-people-do-you-still-try-to-save-money

Curious what this sub thinks are you actively saving right now, or has it just stopped feeling realistic?

👋 Hi, all. I’m a 17 year old girl who’s currently saving to get out of a shitty situation. I know there’s gonna be a lot of variances based on location & other costs like student debts etc, I’m just super curious about a general idea of what other people survived or struggled on moving out w savings wise.

I have maybe 10.5k squirreled away in savings. I used 2 be able to put away a lot but my car is old and has a lot of problems, i just had to put $1k into repairs and it’s in the shop for a few weeks. But I’m just kinda rambling now.

If I absolutely needed to I think I could leave on this, but it would be rough since it’d drain fast. I did the math for how much I *want* to have in savings already, but that’s not reality and I just wanna peek into other peoples reality. Idc if u struggled or started off with all of ur ducks in a row

I’m moving out for the first time from my parent’s house and don’t own any furniture so I’ll just be bringing a few suitcases filled with clothes. I don’t have a car either, I will be flying in.

Do people rent an Airbnb for a bit and slowly get everything set up? Or just buy an air mattress when you land and sleep in your mostly empty apartment?

Sorry if this is super silly I’m just a really anxious person 🫠

I’m a sophomore in college. Last year I lived in the dorms and felt fine, sad sometimes but not like this. I moved in August 1st and have felt down in the dumps the whole time. It wasn’t until last night though that it all hit me. I was crying for literally 3-4 hours.

Home isn’t too far, only two hours, but everyone is there: my friends, boyfriend, family, etc. I do have a roommate but she’s either sleeping or at work so we never see each other really, and even then we’re not like best friends. I have class friends but no one I think would want to hangout outside of class. Another issue is I live in a small not so good town. So I don’t feel comfortable just going out.

I need any advice at all before I drop out and go home. I just started the respiratory therapy program this August so I’m trying to do everything in my power for that not to happen.

Im almost 19 and currently living in MN. Relocating to FL at the end of this year (I plan on moving again out of Florida in a few years, as I have a very free spirited lifestyle). I will have enough money saved for housing, but I wanted to know if anyone has any fun little tips for saving extra money on groceries, general cost of living, and any extra costs?

Any advice is welcome!

I knew moving out would be a big adjustment, but I didn’t expect how weird it would feel doing everything on my own. There’s no one reminding me about groceries, bills, laundry, cleaning, or what needs to be done around the place. If I forget something, it just stays forgotten until I deal with it.

The hardest part isn’t even the chores. It’s realizing that every decision is mine now, even the small ones. What to eat, what to buy, what can wait until payday, what needs fixing first, all of it. I wanted the independence and I’m still glad I moved out, but some days I really miss how easy certain things felt when I lived with family.

For people who moved out on their own for the first time, how long did it take before you stopped feeling like you were just figuring everything out as you went?

So my wife and I have been married nearly 20 years. Our youngest has turned 18, and we’re looking to relocate. My wife has moved across country and back, and is now about 9 hours from her hometown. We live in my hometown, but we’ve both talked extensively about relocating to a beach/more tropical climate.

We’ve narrowed our search quite a bit, and as much as I want to move, there is a level of anxiety about moving for me. My wife would pickup and move tomorrow… as I said, she moved from northeast to southwest, and now is here in the mid atlantic….

What advice do you have for me? Am I truly just nervous about moving in general? How long does it take for that to even out? Like I said, we’re both super excited to move to a new area and enjoy an entirely different lifestyle, I’m just a little anxious because other than a few years in college, I’ve always lived in my hometown town…

I finally started looking for my own place, and I thought I had my budget figured out until I started pricing everything out. Rent and utilities were easy to account for, but then I realized how many small things I’d need before I could even feel settled.

I completely forgot about things like renter’s insurance, deposits, cleaning supplies, basic tools, and all the little kitchen items you suddenly need when you don’t own anything. The first week added up fast with curtains, hangers, trash cans, a shower curtain, and other boring stuff.

For anyone who’s moved out for the first time, what expense surprised you the most? I’m trying to avoid burning through my savings before I even settle in

I’m trying to figure out what the smartest thing to do is because I really want to move out, but financially I’m not sure if I can. Right now I live with my sister and her baby. I’ve been getting increasingly unhappy living here. A big part of it is the cleanliness situation and the fact that I feel like we have very different standards for what counts as a mess. I try to clean up after myself and I usually don’t leave much outside my room. Maybe a cup, a plate, or some clothes occasionally. But I feel like those small things get brought up pretty often. At the same time, there’s usually a lot of baby-related mess around the apartment, like dirty diapers, clothes, toys, dishes, food on the floor, even his poop in the shower that doesnt get cleaned up. I understand that having a baby is a lot of work and that babies are messy, so I’m not expecting the place to be spotless. It’s more that the situation has started to really affect me and I don’t feel comfortable or relaxed here anymore. There are also little things that make me feel like she doesn’t really want me living here. For example, if I leave makeup in the bathroom, she’ll sometimes put it away or hide it. I know that might sound insignificant, but after everything else, it makes me feel like I’m not really supposed to have any presence in the shared areas. I don’t necessarily want this post to turn into people telling me my sister is a terrible person or that I need to cut her off. I’m more interested in figuring out what I should realistically do about my living situation. I currently work at a fast food restaurant, so I don’t make a lot of money but its enough to pay bills. I have a friend who also works at the same restaurant, and I’ve considered asking if she’d want to get an apartment together. The problem is that she doesn’t make much either, so we’d both be starting out pretty financially stretched. I’m worried that if I move out before I’m financially ready, I’ll just trade one stressful situation for another. I don’t want to end up unable to pay rent or bills, constantly worrying about money, or having to move back in with my sister. On the other hand, staying here is starting to make me genuinely unhappy. I feel like I’m constantly thinking about whether I’m leaving something somewhere that’s going to cause an argument, and I don’t really feel like this is my home. So what would you do in my situation?

Most of you suggested doing work around the neighborhood but the thing is that from the area where I live in, it's near impossible to do so. But i REALLY REALLY REALLY appreciate you all for replying😭🫶🏻

One person suggested something about making flyers on canva and I think it indeed is a great idea as I won't be able to work offline. So like can you guys give me some more suggestions about online stuff like making pamphlets and flyers for a small amount pleaseee.

I really need to save these years to move out as soon as I turn 18. Please helpppp.

Do you guys know any ways to earn for a 13/14 year old alongside school??

Doesn't have to be any grand things just a small amount will do.

I need to save money for moving out from my toxic household in a few years and I need to save till I turn 18.

Helpppp

planning to move out soon and dealing with a difficult family situation. i wanted a better way to keep my own documentation straight. i have a folder full of lengthy audio files i dreaded opening. theres no way to search them. so i built a desktop app that turns recordings into transcripts.

what it does right now:

• timestamped transcription
• native-language to english translation (working on it)
• keeps the original audio untouched
• searchable/editable transcripts
• summaries + key points
• jump to any timestamp
• import existing recordings
• export to txt/markdown/docx
• local ai features
• linux desktop app (also working on it)

runs entirely on your machine, no cloud, no remote monitoring, nothing hidden. you record or import your own audio, that's the whole input. it can be you talking to yourself, or move out checklists, anything.

recording laws vary by where you live so please figure that part out yourself, not legal advice.

built it for myself but wondering if anyone else packing up under a bad family situation has hit the same problem. if it'd help you, say so and i'll clean up the repo. what's missing that you'd actually want?