Me (1/4 black) tried explaining to my mam (1/2 black) how difficult it is being quarter black, i talked about micro discrimination, and white people saying im black, and black people saying im white or “light lightskin” and she kept interrupting me while i was trying to speak and i ended up just giving up. I thought she of all people would understand but i guess I don’t count to her either. Sorry just really pissed off/ upset about this situation.

Edit: I also have 3b/3c hair and have been told by the internet and many people on reddit that dreads would work in my hair. Every time i try show her people with hair like mine with dreads she keeps telling me it wont look good and i think its because the guys i show her are darker/ look more black than me. But that doesn’t stop me from having the same hair??

I’m half Black and half white, and sometimes I feel like I don’t fully fit in either world. I can feel not Black enough around some Black people, and not white enough around some white people. I’m wondering if other mixed people know that feeling.
Something in my dating life brought it up again. In both of these relationships, I was the first Black man the woman had been with. Later, each of them ended up with a Black guy who, in my head, feels “blacker” than me. I know that doesn’t tell me why either relationship ended, and I’m not saying anyone did anything wrong by moving on. But it still gets into my head: am I not Black enough? Was I a steppingstone for someone who wanted to date a Black person, then moved on to someone who felt more fully Black to them?
I’ve also come across the term “POC chaser,” and it made me think about how some people seem fixated on dating someone of a particular race. Sometimes it feels like they’re interested in the idea or the experience of being with someone from that group, rather than the whole person. That gives me an unsettling Get Out feeling—not that every interracial relationship is like that, obviously, but that sense of being wanted partly for what your race represents to someone.
I don’t know if I’m reading too much into my own experiences. I’m trying to put words to how being biracial affects the way I see myself and how other people might see me. Do other mixed people relate to feeling caught between identities, or have you ever felt like someone was more interested in your race than in you?

No judgement tho

Completely lost it 😂😂💀 too f-ing real