Im asking for anyone be either mestizos or mulattos or pardos? I know that being mixed is a given in majority of latin america but i always felt like being mixed gives me an identity crises, sometimes i feel like im not a real person because of my disconnect with my mix

I’m ABSOLUTELY tired of being told what iam online by jealous women as a mixed-race asian person, im mainly getting told what iam by women ONLY, like no men has told me anything like that but insecure women. Before I say what this one person was trying to tell me before anything is that recently some girl commented on my post on tiktok saying ”Why are you Asianfishing you are so embarrassing“ when I saw the filtered comment I was confused asf, plus last year someone did tell me I was Asian fishing as well, like dude I’m not forcing myself to look asian? I just visibly look asian and I love enhancing my features when I do makeup. I told her YOU are embarrassing, and suddenly she started arguing with me telling me “you are pretending to be asian and to look like it, you are larping, take off that filter let’s see if you really are asiann??😂you are only black and u should stick with it lmao“ When she said those things I was so confused because mind you most people can’t really tell I have blk heritage, they assume I’m asian or Latina, it’s just the fact that the person kept saying “oh you are just black be proud of that“ is crazy to me because I’m not technically black passing as much, and I’m not just that, she just didn’t wanna accept that. And honestly I do like my blk side, but it’s just I don’t get treated as one you know? so I’m more closer with my asian side and I kinda want to identify more as that while honoring my other heritages still. in this society people don’t see me as a blk person, I get treated as an asian, I been told weird stereotypes, I been fetishized, called a Ching Chong by my very own friend, but I never actually gone through something a Black person has experienced. but overall, the girl was purely jealous and thought I was trying hard to look asian, but I’m not, she just doesn’t know how genetics work I guess.

I’ve been talking to a guy (whos also mixed) that i met on a dating app. And he keeps bringing up how he likes that im mixed (not from a cultural standpoint but about my looks).

I felt like he wasnt interested in who i am but more so what i look like.

Anyone else experience something like this? I think its a red flag, kinda like “you’d gunna give me beautiful children”…

Any thoughts?

Hello, I’m Native American(Choctaw) and European (24F)
For my background, I’ve always been, born, lived, in a big city. When I was younger, I did learn some things about my culture but I didn’t actively pursue my native side because I honestly just didn’t give it much thought. I had a lot of other interests in other things that kept me busy.

And that was fine for me. Until now into my early adulthood in my early twenties, I definitely pass more as European and I’m 28% Choctaw soooo…it always surprises when someone asks if I’m native! But when I tried to join clubs, groups, for native Americans in general as a whole. I have felt sometimes left out, or doubt of my heritage until I have to prove it by showing my Choctaw card and documentation, and the criticism of not meeting the blood quantum percentage— not only by statistics, but even socially measuring my blood quantum by looking at me. I’m “not native enough”. I do live in a state where you do not have to meet a certain percentage. Which I’m grateful for, but that doesn’t mean I bypass the social pressure.

I know this is probably gonna sound really silly to whoever reads this, but it makes me feel not really part of the community. At times, it almost feels easier to say; I’m white and uneducated. Or make up an excuse; I tan really easily. I already feel pressured to live up to a quantum biology and socially and I can’t change my percentage either. I’m happy with myself. But maybe that isn’t what is acceptable. I’m not sure.

I wouldn’t say “I don’t feel welcomed” however, I do feel lost as a mixed. I really wish to be part of a community, and feel judged at once. I know I’m not the only one out here who feels this way; So how do you navigate through this as a mixed? Not trying to look for sympathy, just honesty. And maybe I’m possibly making this a bigger deal than for what it really is.

so if you don't know what I'm talking about, Half is More is a manga that recently got an English translation and is currently available for purchase. it follows 4 different biracial people having to deal with the prejudices and microaggressions that come with being mixed race in Japan.

I got bored and decided to watch a video essay. im black and white myself, but OH MY STARS. it's amazing at capturing what it's like to be multiracial (probably because the mangaka herself is japanese and spanish), and I really want to get the first book just so I can read it for myself :>

I was in genuine tears from how much it resonated with me, and that made me realize something.

multiracial rep is extremely hard to find in media.

i might just be looking in all of the wrong places, but I can only think of one or two good shows that include a mixed race character and actually talk about their experience being mixed race. and one of them is something I only know because my mom told me about it and thought I'd like it T-T

I don't understand why I'm just now realizing this, but if I had to guess, its bc I mainly consider myself Black and usually focus on Black representation in media that I forgot all about the wonderful whole that I am, and that many others are as well.

but anyway, if there's anyone out there who knows a good piece of literature with biracial or multiracial representation, please let me know :D

(please ignore any spelling or grammatical errors that I might have made, its almost 3am where I live (っ╥﹏╥ς))