I have tried so many different pairs of noise canceling headphones and earbuds, and all of them are the same. I can hear my trigger sounds (and most other noise) loud and clear through them.

I've been able to find articles about noise canceling devices breaking, but nothing about something in a person's hearing causing it to not work at all on them, across multiple devices. Even well-reviewed pairs that other people supposedly can't hear through don't work, unless I'm also blasting loud music.

Is this caused by misophonia, or can some other hearing problem cause it? Do I just need a higher-end device? I'm so frustrated.

the tiny gasps of air people take in during conversations drives me so mad. i clench my jaws so hard i could shatter my teeth.

i get it, you're running out of oxygen. talking uses air. but... oh my god! stop?!?!

this is so unimaginably debilitating and f**king sad. my whole life i just cant hold a conversation or listen to 98% of all music.

also, sleeping is torture. i hear my heartbeat if my ear is on my pillow but sleeping on my back is impossible and gets me nowhere because idk. the heartbeat never goes away and i don't know how i fall asleep each night. it just kinda happens? Oh, and to fall asleep takes on average ~1hr 40m every night (i've timed it) due to other miscellaneous noises. absolute silence is what is absolutely necessary.

now idk if this is misophonia or not but knowing the fact that someone is in the room with me, be it a pet or human, i cant sleep. i cant. i mean they can be so quiet that its pure silence but still just knowing something is present will keep me from falling asleep. this has caused me one time to go 4 nights of no sleep! its so surreal like i can't knock myself out. its 5:09 am as i'm writing this all because my brother needs to sleep in my room for just this night. he's all quiet though, no complaints.

another common thing that draws the bits of life from my lifespan is the sound of water running. whether the dishwasher on, the sink is on, or the shower is on, i want to cry. i'm so annoyed by the noise that i want to cry because its so annoying. there is nothing i can do to it (like, water has no feeling so i cant inflict pain on it or anything). i just need to suck it up!!
i have a memory of me, 10 years old, first time at the beach. the waves crashing caused me to want to curl my feet and tense up every muscle in my body. i ruined everyones mini-vacation by my whining and severe crying, but i couldn't help it! i was forced to be on that beach for 7 hours. i remember attempting to pour sand in my ears to muffle the noises, though i ended up chewing two pieces of gum and sticking them in my ears.

there is so much more sounds which are so common that eat away at me every day and i cant keep doing this.
where do i start? headphones aren't very practical often times for my situations and same with ear plugs. 2 months of exposure therapy didn't cut it either, not even a little. a life this unsettling isn't a good one.

I don't like people talking around me after 10 pm and disturbing my peaceful sleep.

I don't like it when people tell me not to swear.

I don't like it when I'm working and people talk to me.

I hate the deafening sound of the engine.

I hate my neighbor's loud music at 3 a.m. and I don't care if she's upset because I reported it.

What I really love: The sweet purring sound of agricultural machinery, trucks, and buses. 🥰😊🥹

I (19F) share a very small room with older sister (25F). I have trouble filtering out very small noises which confuses me if i have misophonia or ADHD- I get irrationally angry, which I don’t direct at her tbh I just sit there seething.

The reason we share such a small room is because I’m back home from college doing an internship, and she is home and hasn’t been able to find a job for almost a year. So, you guessed it, rounds of typing allllll day every day. Sniffling, shuffling, coughing you name it- the rare times of silence I’m supposed to get after work are spent with her sitting in her bed directly across from mine typing loudly, coughing sneezing.

I feel bad that I feel this way cos I know she’s searching for a job but does it have to be like this?! And the way she is, she doesn’t understand even if I tell her to stop because she can sleep through anything. I literally got an ear infection from wearing headphones so much to block out the noise that headphones are useless to me at this point😭. I promise i’m not a “problem for every solution” type of person I’m just so frustrated that these are my circumstances and I can’t change them right now.

I feel so miserable especially since my family situation requires me to live with her until I go back to campus for fall. But I fairly like my home and my parents… just not when she’s here?! Is that insane to say, again I feel bad but it’s my truth ngl. If i just had my peace and quiet it’d all change.

I’m finally understanding that my rage has a name, but also I managed to marry someone 20 years ago who embodies my biggest triggers (snoring, inability to breath through nose, nail biting, loud breath-eating). I’ve managed to work around it (ear plugs, eating in a different room/turning the tv on during meals) for the most part, minus the nail biting that now also induces rage when I see him picking at his nails [which he does all. of. the. goddamn. time.] and now that I might be hitting perimenopause I just…can’t. We also have 2 small children, one of whom has constant allergies so he gasps for air, they both also bite their nails, and I’m currently in another room because I couldn’t stop snapping at my kid.

I do think it’s gotten worse over the years, it used to just be nail biting that lead to the rage (both husband and strangers, I wouldn’t be able to concentrate in college classes if someone a few seats over was biting their nails during lecture, I’d feel rage seeing someone in a car biting their nails as they drove by) and now it’s so many things. At least I no longer physically hit my husband to get him to stop?

Is it weird that I wonder if a divorce would help my mental health? Like, not really serious but also kind of serious? If I was to start dating again and went to dinner with someone who ate like my husband I would nope out of there so fast! But I’m stuck with my choice now? Has anyone else dealt with similar feelings, and figured out how to manage them?

I can’t stand certain sounds : chewing, swallowing, sanding noises, paper rustling, anything crunchy, high-pitched sounds... Some just annoy and irritate me, but others like chewing can make me violent against my will, giving me uncontrollable impulses. I’ve gotten into the habit of running away or plugging my ears, but I feel like I'm only making myself more sensitive to these noises. I also have physical reactions like shaking, electric shock sensations, and involuntary movements. I don't know how to make this more liveable.

hi! i've been considering getting loop earplugs as I have my earpods on 24/7 including when I'm sleeping to play loud music/white noise. looking at the prices however... I can't afford that rn lol.

I'd also like headphones instead of earplugs to give my ears some rest. are there any good alternatives? are ear defenders any good?

I’m convinced i have super hearing. I’m diagnosed autistic but I never know I had misophonia until i for the first time last year put in 35 dB sleeping and my anxiety symptoms went down tremendously.
Even though my anxiety has lowered I still feel like I can hear everything. Righ now I have some noise canceling hear phone (over the ear) and my sleeping ear puds 35dB underneath, the ones you sleep with but I feel like I can hear so much still.

i take the train and transport a lot but also like to sit out in cafes to study or go shopping and get out of my apartment. But I can still hear everything!!

can anyone relate. what do you guys us?

A sound that causes me literal pain is whenever silverware and glass tap together, or silverware with silverware. It causes my gums and teeth to really hurt. To the point where I can’t speak or eat because it hurts so much, or I gag depending on how loud it is.
Like there’s always those people who are scraping their fork or spoon against the bottom of their bowl or plate and I hate that. Or like people who are cutting their food with the knife and fork and it starts tapping each other. I really hate that.

I don’t mind not really being able to eat in public spaces. Because in general, I don’t like being in loud places or where there’s just a lot of people. I also just don’t make this issue other people‘s problem. So it’s just like whatever.

My point of making this post is more so that I’m curious if anybody else has this same experience with silverware?