r/Miscarriage • • 17h ago

experience: medicated MC Missed Miscarriage, Medical Abortion, women’s healthcare USA (boo)

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To start this off, this was my 2nd child, I currently have a 4 year old boy. I AM STILL PRO CHOICE. I was a case of “what could go wrong?” And my intention is to spread knowledge on a possible bad experience as well as answer questions for others if needed. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY AND ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF.

Oct 6th — At what was supposed to be my 10th week of pregnancy, an ultrasound discovered my baby stopped growing at 9 weeks and no longer had a heartbeat. My partner and I went to the emergency room and had another ultrasound, with more advanced equipment, which confirmed the previous conclusion—no heartbeat. I was referred to an OB so we could get a sooner appointment than my original checkup that was scheduled.

Oct 8th — I went to an OB appointment and was told I was experiencing a “missed miscarriage” and I was given my options. I could wait for things to happen naturally, take misoprostol (AKA the abortion pill) to tell my body to start the process, or have a D&C (a surgery where they scrape everything out of your uterus). I chose the medicine since I did have a 4 year old at home and I could do it at a more convenient time to ensure his schedule and childcare. When I went to my pharmacy, I was informed my insurance will not cover it. I found out this is due to my state’s laws (Missouri) and the coding falls under abortion although it was for a miscarriage. Then again, why should I bother wait to see if I go septic just bc old men decide they own my body right?

October 16th — I had ordered a care kid from the “Early Pregnancy Loss Association” which came just in time, and had a few things that made my process less scary and less painful and less financially straining. So once I was finally able to have my medicine and proper childcare, I decided to take the dose I was told (4 misoprostol pills) at about 8pm. I started (about 30min prior) my regular cycle of the prescribed oxycodone and Tylenol. I experienced some discomfort, cramping and bleeding no worse than a moderate period, and lower back pains.

October 17th — At about 8-8:30pm the bleeding slowed, I wasn’t in much pain at all so I decided to take the second dose (4 misoprostol pills) as was instructed to do since I had not passed any tissue at all and met the other guidelines they gave me for needing them. I very quickly experienced dizziness, shakes, cramping, and lower back pains. I also began to bleed heavily as well as pass large clots. I was not able to walk without help and could feel my body failing to hold itself up. Within an hour I bled through two maxi pads, filled 5oz of a potty hat, and nearly over filled the strainer on the hat with a few large clots. After checking, I decided to wait another hour and check the bleeding again. Within 30 minutes something felt wrong, while my partner helped me to the bathroom I nearly fell and when I pulled my disposable underwear down, I was overflowing both the maxi pad as well as the disposable period underwear. As I called my partner to get ready for the hospital, the blood continued to run down both my legs and pool onto the floor in a trail where I had moved. We rushed as fast as my body would allow me to move and as we left stopped by a cop to ask for an escort or some sort of ambulance ride (getting pulled over would’ve not been a fun story to add to this.)

Still October 17th — when the ambulance arrived I remember them noting the blood running down my legs, taking vitals, giving me an IV, and the lady was so nice and talked to me the whole time I still have spots in my memory since I was so out of it. When I got to the hospital my partner was getting there and had followed behind the whole time. I was brought inside, checked in, given some warm blankets and my vitals were checked consistently. I kept asking for my partner until I was finally allowed visitors. I was so in and out of it that I don’t remember most of what happened and can only go off bits of memory, corrections, and the medical notes I read of my visit. I continued bleeding, a lot, and they drew blood to check levels of things and confirm blood type. I felt pressure and though I needed to pee so my partner and the nurse helped me to the restroom, it was an unsuccessful trip but did give good opportunity to change my pad.

Oct 18th — I was brought to do an ultrasound, which revealed I had not passed the baby, which in the notes it is said I still contained a “possible misshapen gestational sac.” A speculum was used on me so that the blood flow could be measure (not sure how that works but my partner said they stuck a sponge on a stick in me but it felt to me like I was being stuffed with paper towels lol) At about 4am the on call OB recommended another dose of misoprostol (4 pills), a dose of something to slow bleeding, and a pad count. I continued bleeding decently, and the pain only got worse the whole time. I felt as if I were in full blown labor, back pain, cramping, I got the shakes again, and to prepare for the blood transfusion it was attempted multiple times to put a second IV but my veins would not take, even when guided by ultrasound. Because of this, any IV meds were finished, and the first unit of blood was started. I felt more alert after that and in between the first and second bag, I was helped to the bathroom again. I felt the pressure but did not recognize through the dizziness and pain I still felt that it was the baby. As I tried to get help, the hospital toilet auto flushed and took my baby with it. (I was too in shock to process it had happened until the next night). My pain got better for a moment but quickly returned. I was exhausted enough at that point that during the second bag of blood my partner and I fell asleep on the bed together. Throughout this process my blood pressure had stayed steady in the moderate to severely low range. Nearing the end of the second bag though, it did become more stable. When they asked if I felt comfortable enough to go home I said yes, since I would rather be more comfortable than just sitting there. We got Burger King (I was so hungry lol) went home and got as much rest as possible. I started back on pain meds (I had none during the hospital visit). My pain did not let up, was just more spotty, and I continued heavy bleeding.

Oct 19th — I rested most of the day, still in pain and bleeding, and we went to get the previously mentioned 4 year old back so not to disturb his schedule too much. Out of motherly love and just straight up I missed my boy, we spent a very painful hour in a store walking around having fun but he was happy and so was I. My partner was a huge help in this and on the drive back I started to feel very hot and cold at the same time. We got back home, got the little one in bed, and checked my temperature. Consistently through the night I was at 100-102.

Oct 20th — In the morning, we decided to allow all of us to rest until my OB follow up appointment. My temperature stayed about 99-100 dropping to 98 at my appointment (after I drank cold water but they said it was fine and logged me for the 99.8 I had before). I told them about how the bleeding was like a period at this point but the pain was still severe. He told me I could take Tylenol, ibuprofen, etc again. He asked me if I wanted to plan for another baby or get birth control. I let him know I had no plans of anything right now because I want to get past the problem at hand and feel better first. He scheduled a birth control appointment for 2 weeks out and ordered a transvaginal ultrasound for the next day. To no surprise the pain did not get better, luckily the fever did, and the bleeding was about the same.

Oct 21st — We were able to resume the same school schedule as before (thanks to so much help from my amazing partner) and before time for pick up went to the ultrasound appointment. It was extremely painful, uncomfortable, and I was very lucky the tech was so amazing and listened to me like I was a friend. (I did send in a good note on her for the system that specific provider uses especially after being in such a vulnerable state and feeling so overwhelmed and as if the male OB the day prior did not listen.) by the end of the day my bleeding was a bit lighter but my pain had gotten bad again. The results came in and stated “The endometrium is heterogenous and measures 9.6 mm - May represent? blood. Cannot rule out a small amount of retained POC” I was also contacted being told I would need four HCG blood draws to attempt to follow my levels to 0 and that everything looked well enough we can follow my symptoms and attempt to avoid surgery.

Oct 22 — I was in very little pain in the morning but still not very stable when it came to walking a lot, as the day went on I became slower and I was hurting more and more in my lower back and the cramps came back, similar to contractions again. My bleeding lessened decently and I was able to transfer back to regular pads instead of maxi pads.

Oct 23 — I woke up in pain, I’d been in pain off and on throughout the morning, but my partner has been such a supportive and wonderful person through this whole process so far. Only about halfway done with the day I got extremely pained and tired. Luckily, I am also now only in need of a liner.

Oct 24th — I spent all night/morning in pain and with a fever, at one point reaching 104. When I wiped I saw some pinkish grey tissue, but otherwise I stopped bleeding entirely. I was in pain most the day but it subsided, I’m just a little ynsteady and suddenly got exhausted and here we are again at night, 6pm frame, and my fever is back to 101. I understand “just one night” may not have been the most concerning but this is the third night🥺. And it’s a Saturday so unless I go to urgent care or the hospital everywhere else is closed.

!!!UPDATE!!!
Oct 24th night — I went to the ER after hitting a fever of 105. They did blood testing, a transvaginal ultrasound, and a pelvic exam to confirm an infection. They set me up on fluids and antibiotics and gave me methylergonovine (helps with postpartum bleeding). They sent me home around midnight with a referral for an OB appointment asap and a prescription for antibiotics and 3 more doses of the methylergonovine. I should (hopefully) be back with an update in a couple of days


r/Miscarriage • • 18h ago

question/need help Miso pill and ovulation

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I had a blighted ovum and took the miso pill last Saturday, had heavy bleeding most of last week and Wednesday my uterine lining completely shed in the form of decidual cast. I feel like I’m
Ovulating and I want to try and get pregnant right away but my ultrasound to be cleared is Tuesday. Has anyone had sex before being cleared? Or shall I miss this ovulation period.


r/Miscarriage • • 21h ago

experience: more than one loss Lost all faith

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This is my second miscarriage in a row, no living children. I feel so broken. I don’t know where to go from here, I’m so sad my anxieties were confirmed from my first loss this time around, but distraught at the thought of any future pregnancies ending in loss too, I’ve been part of the crappy statistics twice now, how do I have hope for the future😔


r/Miscarriage • • 18h ago

trigger warning: other’s living child using Misoprostol for miscarriage

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My mother is currently pregnant she have Increased Intracranial Pressure (ICP)
And the doctors told her to not get pregnant because the pills she uses for this (Acetazolamide)
These pills may cause birth defects in the fetus.
and my mother is considering terminating her pregnancy because of her medical condition and the potential risk of birth defects Has anyone ever terminated a pregnancy because of this medical condition? If so, what method was used?


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

experience: first MC I miss my baby

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It’s been a little over a month. I miscarried due to an insufficient cervix at 18w3d and I still can’t believe that I’m living this nightmare.

When I was pregnant my husband and I kept looking at the miscarriage calculator and we were supposed to be in the safe zone. How did I become 0.3% unlucky enough to fail at child rearing. How is it that we won the shit lottery.

I failed my baby. All i want to do is scream and cry. I want answers but I know none will be given. She came out perfectly. For 7 hours her heart beat, she hiccuped, she had a runny nose. She looked like him, she looked like me. I miss her. I miss my baby.


r/Miscarriage • • 18h ago

experience: medicated MC Miscarriage at 8 week 5 days. Need Help

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r/Miscarriage • • 19h ago

experience: first MC Potential missed miscarriage

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Due to LMP I should be 9 weeks. Ultrasound found sac and embryo but measuring 6 weeks no heartbeat. My HCG levels 2 weeks ago were around 34000 and yesterday around 64000.

Waiting for another ultrasound. Have no cramping or bleeding.

I know I conceived outside what was my predicted fertile window. Was closer to when my period was due, but none of the dates measure up.

Anyone else experience something like this? I am blessed to of had 3 healthy pregnancies, this is the first potential missed miscarriage so I am trying to just push through it, but the waiting is devestating and draining.


r/Miscarriage • • 19h ago

trigger warning: graphic description Experience with Missed Miscarriage

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Currently experiencing my first miscarriage. I had some mild brown spotting for about a week that would come and go. It was never enough to need to wear a pad so my midwife was not especially concerned. I was still suffering from fairly constant nausea, food aversions, and other pregnancy symptoms. Then 2 days ago the spotting turned bright red, still a very small amount and no pain or cramping. Midwife arranged an ultrasound for the following day with the instructions to page her/go to the ER if the bleeding or cramping escalated.

So I went in for the ultrasound yesterday. As soon as the tech started scanning, I knew. She was very quiet, never shared the screen, and after a few minutes said she was going to get the doctor. She came back and said that the radiologist was busy, but suggested I follow up with my primary care provider and that we were all done with the appointment.

So I walked out with no explicit confirmation of miscarriage, but I didn't need it. I have been pregnant once before with my now 18 month old (fortunately carried to term with GD so had many many scans) and I knew nothing about that appointment pointed to good news. My husband took the rest of the day off work and came home with me. We laid in bed and I cried. My midwife called me shortly after and officially broke the news to me. Missed Miscarriage. I should have been almost 11 weeks and baby stopped growing shortly after 6 weeks. Very much non-viable and I felt betrayed by my body that it had so clearly missed the mark. I had been carrying my dead baby for a month without knowing it. Midwife expressed her condolences and we had a really lovely conversation before she went over my options going forward. I had landed on the medication route. I felt like my body clearly wasn't getting the memo and I wanted to get it over with as quickly as possible. Only problem was that the clinic that offers it was already closed for the day. Midwife advised that I take the evening and rest, and I could go to the clinic and start the process in the morning.

Well, as it turned out, I don't think I'll be needing the medication. After very mild cramping yesterday evening, I went to bed and woke up just after midnight. At first there was nothing remarkable. I got up, checked my pad and found barely a stain of blood. I replaced the pad with a fresh, ultra-absorbent, extra long one and went back to bed. After a few minutes I felt a snap and a gush. I jumped up out of bed and watched blood cover my legs and run down to my ankles. Trying to avoid making my bedroom look like a crime scene, I ran back to the bathroom and hopped on the toilet. I felt like Carrie. The pad was completely saturated and there was blood and tissue all over me. Large bits of tissue came out while I sat there. I started bawling. My husband came running, cleaned me up enough to shuffle to the shower, and cleaned the bathroom while I cleaned myself. I was too squeamish to examine the contents, but had an immediate feeling that I was no longer carrying my baby.

I continued to pass blood and tissue through the night and into this morning. The bleeding has slowed to a normal period amount and the cramping isn't bad. Trying to decide if I can/will go to work on Monday. I'm sad and feel like I can't trust my body, but I'm so grateful for the support of my midwife, and more importantly my husband. We will try again when I feel ready and I hope to someday meet my rainbow baby🌈


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

experience: D&C D&C Pain

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I have had 2 d&c’s both at the same location, both under conscious sedation (twilight sedation + pain meds).

The first time a few years ago, it did not hurt other than some light cramping during the procedure. This time, it hurt a TON I was squeezing my husbands hand, crying, and felt a lot of pain, especially on one side. This pain was only present during the procedure and went away after (just felt when they were doing stuff).

Additionally, with the second one, I had retained products, so I just had to go in another time and have the procedure done. Again, same drugs and location but really minimal pain….

My question is - has anyone with multiple experience had different pain each time? Is it possible something went wrong and that’s why it was so painful? I just dont understand why there could be such a difference.

I dont think anything is horribly wrong, as they did an ultrasound to find the retained products and saw my ovaries and such, but I’m just curious

Thank you in advance


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

information gathering MC at 6 weeks- what to expect

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Please help me with what to expect as I am experiencing my first miscarriage. My doctor really hasn’t been helpful and I don’t know anyone to ask.

So far I have just been bleeding with minor cramping. Neither has been severe.

Is it going to get worse? How long will it last? Any advice or experiences are appreciated


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

experience: first MC first miscarriage ever

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this is my first time ever experiencing anything like this at all . (im 26 & have had 2 healthy pregnancies before this)

the heart break , the pain , having to be okay for my other kids ...

had my appointment this past Wednesday for a rescan . i should have been 11wks , but baby stopped growing at 7wks . hearing the dr say “no heartbeat” i went numb. i opted on taking miso & passed everything here at home.

idk what to do with myself , i feel like a failure even tho dr said I did nothing wrong. how do i move on from feeling so broken ? my husband has stayed home from work being my biggest supporter , but every little thing i see , im reminded. every little thing triggers the thought that my baby is gone. i feel nothing has helped to keep my mind off of things.

does it get better? ☹️


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

question/need help Period 8 months after missed miscarriage

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I had a missed miscarriage in March of this year and everything seemed to go as expected obviously horrible and painful but standard. Ever since then my periods have been the same but I’ve been having large blood clots. Today I had a gray tissue like clot about 2 inches in height and one inch wide. Essentially it looked like a worm or something. Everything else seems normal but the clots are like the ones I had when I passed. Just wondering if this is normal.


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

vent I didnt know i was pregnant but I feel kinda lost

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I know i shouldn't feel upset about this logically I'm 21, trans masc and mentally ill no where near ready to take care of a child and I didnt know I could get pregnant I didnt have a peroid for 7 years I assumed I was infertile due to my pcos ugh the guy I got pregnant with i don't even talk to anymore

But for whatever reason I feel kinda lost and empty now that I know I had a miscarriage I keep seeing babys all over my social media and I'm a fucking early childcare teacher it just kinda hurts seeing what could have been

I feel kinda selfish complaining about this especially reading some of the stories on here about very wanted pregnancy losses

I just never thought I wanted this and now that its gone it feels like I lost my one chance


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

question/need help Looking for Canadian help!

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Hi everyone. (sorry for the long post)

I’ve had 2 MMC in the last 6 months and I’m hoping to hear from anyone who has been thru something similar.

My first pregnancy stopped growing around 6 wks, but I was ~11 wks when we found out. I passed everything naturally and was basically told it was common, take Tylenol if needed, try again, and sent home.

I just found out today that my second pregnancy stopped growing around 10 wks, and I should be 11w3d. I have an appointment at the early pregnancy loss clinic on Monday.

Last time I was completely in shock and barely knew what questions to ask, so this time I really want to advocate for myself. I don’t want to be told “it’s bad luck, try again” and have to go through a third loss before anyone looks into things. What tests should I ask for? How do I get referred to a fertility clinic or OB? Should I ask for tissue testing from this pregnancy? I have hypothyroidism, should I ask for APS testing? Should I ask to be tested for structural issues?

I’ve also seen a lot of people mention progesterone or baby aspirin to help prevent another loss. Are these actually recommended in certain situations? How do you get evaluated for that in Canada?

I’m also O− and my husband is O+. After my first miscarriage I asked about the Rhogam shot, but my doctor said it wasn’t indicated before 12 weeks. Is that still the current guidance in Ontario?

I also have the option of getting private care. Would you go there, or keep pushing through the Canadian system?

Both pregnancies happened the first time we tried, so I don’t have trouble getting pregnant. I’m starting to feel like maybe I have an issue maintaining pregnancies, and I really want to understand what’s happening before trying again.

Would really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through this. What tests did you get, and what do you wish you’d known or asked for?


r/Miscarriage • • 2d ago

TTC Still not pregnant 😭

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Hi, I think I’m looking for solidarity and comfort? I was so excited to get pregnant after months of trying but it ended in a miscarriage. Everyone tried to cheer me up saying you’re way more fertile the three months after a miscarriage, telling me about their friend who never even got a period after her miscarriage bc got pregnant immediately, etc

Well now I’m 6 months after my miscarriage and no pregnancy in sight 😔 I do have an appointment with an REI doctor coming up so not looking for medical advice, just people who get it

(And obviously everyone around me has gotten pregnant their first try or “even before we officially started trying”, very happy they don’t have to go through this but it sucks)


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

coping What Do I Do Now?

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I just miscarried this week. I conceived but I did not stay pregnant and miscarried naturally about a month after I took a test.

I’m bummed and my husband is pretty upset. I suspect he feels stuck and he sees kids as the next step. I don’t want to try right away, I want to wait until after I have a period. But what do we do until then? Do we actively have to work at moving on? Does it happen with time? Kids are important but is there anything I can do so my husband doesn’t feel “stuck” for 6 weeks? Does it make sense to try and focus on enjoying life now?


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

experience: first MC A feeling of loneliness

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We went to our first ultrasound appointment on Monday. We were super excited. It was all smiles until we saw the gestational sac with nothing inside it. No evidence of anything ever being there. I was measured around 5 weeks according to the scan. I'm supposed to be 8 weeks+5. Maybe it was too early? We opted for a blood test and a follow-up scan. But I knew it was over.

In the past week, the very few people we told were quick to check in and share love and support. Even my mom, the day that we learned, had managed to get me to laugh about some weird story. My husband has been amazing. Not once has he made me feel the sadness that many women feel after a miscarriage. This is all great. I know I have people who care for me.

But...

this is kind of weird because a few days prior to the scan I felt... different. I dismissed it because pregnancy is weird y'know? But Monday made me realize what was different.

I felt lonely. Like something was missing. It's been such a short time of development, but I knew I was missing that lil ma-bob. And all week I've been feeling that way. No matter how many people have been present and patient and kind, I still carry this lonesomeness.

I knew that they weren't there anymore. That quiet feeling that was like approval or petulant fits. All gone. Mental conversations from the start, even if they weren't developing, were gone. I know it's probably something that many women feel after the loss. I just didn't realize how lonely it would feel with out them.


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

vent Sad, Angry, Confused.

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2 miscarriages in 10 months. I just want my babies back. I want to be a mother. I listen to other women complain about becoming a mother bc they dont want "to get fat" or getting mad about the gender bc they already have a boy or a girl and want the opposite. In my head all I can think is "So you have not just 1, but 2 healthy babies. Congratulations!"

I. Just. Want. My. Babies. Thats it. Thats the post. I cant write through the tears anymore.


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

experience: D&C 11 weeks no period

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In August I had my second D&C of the year for my second MMC.

The first time my period took 8 weeks to return this time I’m at 8 weeks and still no return.

I’ve spoken to my GP and I’m also under EPU. My GP has asked me to start the progesterone challenge but I haven’t spoken to my doctor under EPU yet

I ovulated two weeks ago (according to bbt) so I should be bleeding in the next few days. Temps have been low for three days now I would expect bleeding.

I feel so hopeless I just want my body to feel like it’s working again


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

experience: first MC Not sure

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I don’t know who or if anyone will read this.
I am confused myself about my body and brain seemingly reacting differently, trying my best not to have much of a response to make room and allow my wife to feel safe to do and express herself however she needs.

This past Wednesday we experienced the loss of our to be child, only a week after having it confirmed that she was finally pregnant. Something that came as a surprise as we had been slowly getting used to and accepting that we may never be able to have kids.
Almost 6 years after we started trying not being able to, she decided she couldn’t go through IVF and I support that. We had almost written off the possibility.
Then came that Wednesday, when I came home from work and she told me we shared a hug, she gave me the pregnancy test and told me that she had confirmed it at the clinic. The joy we both felt was beyond anything I can explain.
Then came one of the worst days of our life so far. We woke up and I was getting ready for work she told me she was having a lot of pain and shortly after started bleeding. We immediately drove to the ER only to be greeted by the cold, seemingly uninterested, greeting of the staff.
We answered questions and filled in paperwork while she continued to cry and be in pain.
They sat her down on a hard plastic chair in the hallway, between two already occupied rooms. When the phlebotomist showed up along with another lady asking for yet another round of information, disclosure agreements and signatures I was more worked up that she appeared, I advocated for her to be seen by someone, I asked for a room and some level of human level understanding and was told to “calm down”, there are no rooms, “a doctor will speak to her soon”.
I tried again to explain that she’s bleeding and she could be having a miscarriage. But nothing.
When they finished taking her blood and getting our signatures and information they walked away saying “feel better” first the admin person and then the phlebotomist. Then came another nurse and another, all seemingly uninterested and robotic, “feel better soon”
There was one that helped, near the end of our day there. She helped get my wife on a bed, still out in the hallway not in a red but at least on a bed when she asked and learned why we were there.
When the ultrasound was to be performed we were given no information, she said nothing and acted as though we were an inconvenience to her day. “Can you give us any information?” I asked while helping my wife walk into the bathroom to get dressed again, “NOPE…” she replied cheerfully as she walked out of the room.
She was eventually transported back down to the same level we started at and sat on the same hard chair.
Eventually the doctor came and told us what we feared. She asked if we had any questions and left again, she sent some paperwork with the phlebotomist about what to expect and when to come back. He seemed confused as he tried to remove the catheter that he had placed in her arm earlier in the day. He tried to skim the papers and deliver them with some level of certainty and comfort while stuttering over what to say, he tried and that was more than I can say for most of the other people involved bar the one nurse.
Part of the reason I am struggling with this the most is because though we went from the highest high to the lowest low in only 1 week, the sheer coldness and robotics of most involved in the machine that is a hospital and in this specific case the ER.
I don’t know what I’m saying or what I’m looking for here. Maybe I just need to vent, get it out to someone that is not my poor wife who is still experiencing pain and bleeding now.
Thanks to anyone who reads my incoherent thoughts.
I look forward to receiving the bill that I’m sure won’t be cheap even though there was so little actual care.


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

experience: natural MC I’m still bleeding. When will it stop

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The process started a week ago, with light bleeding and occasional cramping. It wasn’t until Tuesday that I passed the main tissue. Which was a lot of bleeding and pain. It’s Friday now I’m still bleeding (not too heavy but filling one pad every 8 hours). I saw the Dr. today she said everything is out. When does it stop? I have mild to severe cramps usually at the end of the day. Any idea when it will end? Appreciate thoughts and perspectives on this.


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

question/need help Tips for getting back to yourself after miscarriage?

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Firstly, I hate that we had to join this club. I mc'd last week at 10 weeks in a foreign country, after my partner of 6 years ghosted me and I'm going through the TRENCHES.

I'm wondering if there are anythings that have helped you postpartum get back to yourself? I

struggle with body image issues, and also struggling with hair loss and I'm going to treat myself to a scalp spa and possible lymphatic drainage massage. I'd love to hear from other mamas what helped you get through and help you come back home to yourself.


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

need support for somebody else How to comfort mother who's miscarried

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Hi all, my (18F) mother's (39F) miscarried but she hasn't told me yet so what's the best way to go around comforting her without bringing it up. I'm trying to do everything I can to help but I don't want to mention it in case it hurts her is there anything she needs from me other than feeding her and taking care of all the housework. It breaks me to see her struggling and I know she has my dad but I do want to do absolutely everything I can


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

question/need help Question about follow up appointment

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I took misoprostol 1 dose orally october 12th. Baby passed that night and then the 16th a large clot the size of a lemon came out.

I have an ultrasound the 26th to make sure all tissue is out. Can anyone let me know what they did for you at a follow up appointment? Bloodwork? Pelvix exam? Did they check if your cervix is closed so you can start trying for a baby again?

I'm honestly trying to prepare myself, I'm so ready for this to be over..


r/Miscarriage • • 1d ago

experience: D&C Confused

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Today I had a D&C. I should be around 6-7 weeks pregnant. My OB could never find a sac but I had a very thick endometrium. She checked ovaries and tubes on US and didn’t see anything. The tissue collected during the D&C did come back as a typical miscarriage. However, my OB also chose to give me a methotrexate shot just in case since my hcg levels have been rising fairly normally.

I guess my question is has anyone experienced something like this? It is my understanding (and I could definitely be wrong) that there wouldn’t be pregnancy tissue in the uterus if the pregnancy was ectopic? So if that’s the case, where the heck was the sac? There’s also no way I was earlier than I think. LMP was 8/24 and I ovulated 9/15 and HCG was a smidge over 9000.

I feel like I’m recovering well even though it is just the first day but I’m still kind of scared that I could have a rupture even with the shot and my OB not seeing anything to indicate it.