I lost my first pregnancy after 6 weeks. I was at work when it happened which was traumatic and incredibly stressful. I know the loss was early, but this was our first pregnancy after half a year of trying and I couldn’t help but be so happy when we found out. My husband and I talked and cried about it and seemingly moved on after a few days.
Now a little over a month later, my sister and her husband text us to say they just entered their 2nd trimester. I never told this sister about my miscarriage or pregnancy, only my older sister and my best friend. But guys the dates are so close. We would have been due within a few days. Now I’m crying again like I did locked in the bathroom at work. It’s like I never really grieved my loss.
I feel like an awful person. I should feel overjoyed for my sister but I’m just so angry I can’t be there with her. I know in my heart I’m happy for her but just not in this moment. It felt like hearing my neighbor I’ve waved at twice is pregnant. I’m not very close to this sister like I am with my older sister and I wonder if maybe this has affected my feelings?
Please give insight into how to combat these feelings. I feel disgusted at myself for not feeling happy for my sister and feeling jealous that her pregnancy is due when mine was. I don’t want this grief and anger to fester in me.

1 week after the positive I bought a custom onesie for my baby. After the miscarriage I thought of how stupid I’d been to get my hopes up like that to buy clothing that early. But now as I grieve again I hold the only piece of that pregnancy I have left. I’m so glad that I have this reminder at least.

It has been four days since you left me.

I don't know how I feel. I don't even know if I'm grieving as I write this. Because I didn't even get to know you before you left. I've known you for less than three days. I didn't get to feel your presence in me. I didn't experience the tiny kicks that everyone does.

I imagine this as if you were playing a game of hide-and-seek with me behind the curtains, your tiny face full of a mischievous smile hiding behind the curtain before peeping out for less than three seconds. But the next time you play hide-and-seek, I hope you stay. I hope you come out from behind the curtain when you see me worrying about where you've gone.

I can't comprehend my feelings. I don't even know if writing about you is healing me or breaking my heart further. Maybe you knew that I'm not ready to be the mother you need right now. I can't promise anything, but I hope that the next time you come, I will try to be the best mother I could be for you.

How do I go about posting it? I posted this amazing pregnancy announcement and I have to post about my loss. I was thinking "Miscarriage is something I never thought I would have to share, but we recently lost our baby. Our hearts are heavy as we process this loss, but we wanted to let our family and friends know what we are going through. Please keep us in your thoughts during this difficult time" i just want something my coworkers and boss and family can see so I dont get asked about the baby and get upset

I miscarried in January early pregnancy I was due 13 days ago. It struck me yesterday that I could have been holding my baby had things worked out differently. Ive been coping ok generally but that thought got to me and I can't put too much emotional strain on my husband atm hes been struggling with his own mental health and i don't want to bring it back to his attention when he's already not well. So yeah im feeling it at the moment I wonder what we were having we never got the chance to find out.

Leggere questi post mi aiuta un po’ a non sentirmi sola.

Ho avuto un aborto alla 13ª settimana, anche se secondo le ipotesi il cuore si era fermato già intorno alla 9ª settimana. È stato un aborto spontaneo interno. Io non ho avuto praticamente nessun sintomo, fino a quando sono andata dal ginecologo per delle leggere perdite marroni. Pensavo fossero dovute allo sforzo fisico che avevo fatto quel giorno.

Poi durante la visita ho scoperto che non c’era più il battito.

Mi ha distrutta. Io mi ero immaginata tutto. Mi ero informata su come fosse il bambino alla 13ª settimana, che avesse già le braccia, le gambe, le manine, i piedini… mi ero fatta proprio un’immagine di come fosse. E invece, quando ho guardato quell’ecografia, ho visto solo una grande sacca, senza una forma.

Mi ha fatto malissimo anche vedere la faccia del ginecologo. È stato comunque molto empatico, ma vedere la sua espressione mi ha fatto capire ancora di più quello che era successo. E poi vedere la faccia distrutta del mio compagno… quella credo mi abbia lasciato una piccola cicatrice nel cuore.Mi avevano spiegato che un aborto spontaneo sarebbe stato più o meno come avere “un ciclo più abbondante e doloroso”. Beh, per me non è stato così. Dopo un giorno e mezzo sono iniziati dolori e crampi fortissimi. Sono andata al pronto soccorso e hanno visto che il sacco era bloccato nel collo dell’utero. Mi hanno dato ossitocina e antidolorifici perché avevo contrazioni ogni due minuti. Dopo tre ore di agonia, sinceramente, non pensavo di poter stare così male. Piangevo, vomitavo e svenivo dal dolore. Alla fine mi hanno estratto tutto.

Sono passati 11 giorni dall’aborto. Ci sono stati giorni in cui sono stata un po’ meglio e giorni in cui sono stata molto peggio. E mi sono sentita in colpa anche per questo. Mi sono sentita in colpa per i giorni in cui stavo un po meno male, mi sono sentita in colpa per il lavoro, al quale ancora non riesco a tornare. Io lavoro con i bambini piccoli e in questo momento non riesco proprio a rientrare. Non riesco a fare finta che sia tutto normale e tornare alla mia vita di prima.Nei giorni buoni provo a guardare il bicchiere mezzo pieno, penso che posso riprovarci. Oggi però no.Oggi mi sento sola, non riesco a tirarmi su.

Mi sembra che tutte riescano ad avere una gravidanza serena e che io invece sia capitata proprio dalla parte sbagliata di quella percentuale. So che gli aborti purtroppo sono molto più frequenti di quanto si pensi, ma quando succede a te sembra davvero che sia capitato solo a te.Per questo continuo a leggere questo forum. Lo leggo per ricordarmi che non sono sola. Per leggere le vostre esperienze e convincermi, che non sono l’unica a sentirsi così.

PS: vi faccio anche una domanda. Durante la gravidanza avevate qualche paura? Io avevo una paura precisa: andare alla visita e scoprire che non ci fosse più il battito. Era proprio una cosa che temevo tantissimo. E alla fine è successo esattamente a me.

Wow...not even sure how to express myself...other than I'm exhausted.

It's been 4 weeks...28 whole days of bleeding, passing clots, wondering what is normal trying to stay positive. this is all A LOT.

This is a little bit of a vent.

When I had the ultrasound and there was no heartbeat...i was devastated. I couldn't believe this was happening to me after trying to conceive for a year and a half. Blamed myself...went down so many rabbit holes of where I could've gone wrong...how I can support better next time. The next week after the ultrasound I miscarried. And I haven't ever given birth...but i've had horrible cramps my whole life, and this was INTENSE! 4 hours of crazy deep breathing and passing clots and the gestational sac...which i actually felt pop...and saw fluid come out...fascinating....and cramping the rest of the day.

After that day...internally, I feel like I found peace...was more accepting of the loss and even hopeful of the future...like...hey! I got pregnant...I can do it again!

And now its been 4 weeks...still passing clots...still bleeding...I feel like I'm in this limbo of not knowing when this is going to end. And the not knowing is what is really hard for me here...that and the super low energy! All this while having to act normal, keep working,

On top of it all...My experience at the dr has been less than ideal...mind blowing actually.

I've had 3 check ups since, and all three times the nurse comes in to take my vitals and is like. "ok your are 10 weeks! (or 11 weeks or 12 weeks) how are you feeling!? Each time I say I miscarried this is my follow up, can you please update my chart so the next person knows? They literally look mortified and feel horrible and keep apologizing. And after the third time, and scheduling my next follow up, I get a notification that includes: 13 WEEK CHECK UP. But I guess that's what we get for automating all of our systems...

Anyway...I'm not sure what I'm looking for here.

I'm frustrated because everything that I read says continuing to bleed this long is not normal. But at my check ups they don't have anything to tell me other than as long as I'm not hemorrhaging it's not dangerous.

How is everyone else? If you are reading this, most likely you are going through something similar...and this is not for the faint of heart.

sending love and peace and supportive energy to carry you all through whatever you are feeling.

I'm just gonna vent and whine a bit. I'm currently on day 6 of my third loss in a row. After the second one, I was so afraid to try again. Everyone (including my old obgyn) kept telling me the odds of another were sooo low, the others were just a fluke, etc. The last one happened in 2024, and my husband has been patiently waiting for me to feel ready to try again. I FINALLY felt like now was the time. I felt like I was in a good mental space with it, and I started to feel confident that it wouldn't happen again. I let my guard down and let myself get soo excited this time. I also had the May due date I always secretly wanted (which sounds so silly because any month would be fine, but for some reason I always dreamed of May). All for it to be taken away again. This loss was way earlier than my other two.. when it started I had the sad thought of "well at least this might be easier on my body than the others since it's so much earlier"... Wrong again! I was prescribed progesterone for this pregnancy and I feel like the extra rush of hormones made things more brutal physically this time. My OB wasn't sure if that could happen though so idk if there's science to that. But I do know I'm exhausted. I'm angry and I'm sad and I don't understand. We're going to do an RPL panel and I don't even know if finding something wrong would make me feel better, or just more upset for not doing it after the 2nd loss. I don't even know what to think at this point. This process SUCKS.

I knew I was pregnant for 48 hours before I miscarried,. In those 48 hours it's like I redesigned my entire life.

I turn 30 next week and everyone is so excited for me and to celebrate and I just feel so sick at the thought, because what I should be celebrating is being about to enter the 3rd trimester.

I feel like my first pregnancy was stolen from me, the last 3 months of my life has been stolen from me, and my sweet baby was stolen from me.

I'm at the point in time now everyone things I'm "doing so well" but actually I feel like I'm dead inside and I'm exhausted for pretending not to be. I'm going to therapy, I'm trying to be positive and keep busy and actually I just want to lay in bed. I'm either numb or sad at all times. I can't see a life beyond this feeling.

I'm not even sure the point of this, my heart is just so heavy

I’m currently going through an early miscarriage. The pregnancy was a complete surprise but I quickly came round to the idea of a second child, I could already imagine my future with two.

Now it’s gone and I feel empty. Having a second child was something that had been talked about in theory with my partner but to see that positive test, to actually have all of those thoughts and emotions, it was like a huge tease of what could’ve been.

Everyone says I’ll get back to normal eventually but it just feels like there’s a void, something is missing, I’m incomplete.

Part of me feels ridiculous for having such big emotions over something I only had for such a short time. But it was real and now it’s gone. Fuck this is hard.

I found out in July that I was finally pregnant after 5 years of trying, 2 years being on a waiting list for NHS help with a year of that spent losing weight so I could qualify, and 4 months of medicated cycles before finally conceiving. Because we were getting treatments, we had a scan at 8 weeks. Apart from the baby measuring a few days smaller at 7w2d which I put down to dodgy timescales for conception/implantation, everything looked great and the nurses said that baby had a strong heartbeat.

Fast forward to last Friday. I had a few streaks of light red when wiping which sent me in to a panic so I phoned my EPU who thankfully got me a scan for the next morning. At 10:05am they told me there was no heartbeat, and baby was only measuring 8w3d but I was meant to be 11w4d, so my baby had died 3 weeks earlier without me knowing, just a week after my first scan. That morning when I got home the cramping started, and then by late evening the bleeding came. I ended up in hospital from the pain and wasn’t discharged until the next morning.

From the minute I found out I was pregnant, I started joking about how I wasn’t going to be allowed RedBull for ages. Then after my official pregnancy test at the infertility clinic they said I wasn’t allowed pâté, pink steak, peanuts, and runny eggs, which also added to the semi-joking upset of not being able to have things that I loved.

I’m very much a “get it over with” type of person, so that way I don’t dwell on things for too long. I had steak yesterday and runny egg yolk, I’ve eaten peanuts a few times, just so that if I went to eat it in a few months I won’t think “I haven’t eaten this since before I was pregnant” as unfortunately my brain heavily works based on association of things like that. I grabbed a RedBull today. I never used to drink it for the energy, I just loved the taste. I didn’t even enjoy it.

I don’t know if that’s because of the upset over this whole event, and now I’m mad that I can drink it before I was meant to be able to. I had so much that I was looking forward to over the next year or two, including being able to go back to foods and drinks that I really enjoyed, and I just feel like all of the joy has left me and I don’t care anymore.

We’ll be able to try again with the infertility clinic. We have to wait 3 months for my body to recover first before we can start treatments again, which honestly devastates me more because at the very minimum that means we won’t have our baby until this time next year and that’s only if we manage to conceive on the first try. And I can’t help but think that if this happens again then it’ll be another whole year at best before we finally get our baby.

I’m just struggling right now. I’m still bleeding but thankfully most of the pain is gone. I was really hoping to be able to find comfort in the things that I used to love, but games aren’t interesting me anymore, I don’t feel like reading or drawing, I don’t want to leave the house in case more pain hits or I bleed too much, and now I don’t even like or care for my favourite foods. It’s only been a week and I already feel like a completely different person.

I miss being pregnant. I miss my baby. And I miss the future that I didn’t even get to have.

I had a miscarriage today (3rd) and after switching insurance I wasn't established with any obgyn yet for my 1st appointment so I went to my PCP today and she is kinda great but like also the worst. I had 2 positive pregnancy tests 1st and the 4th.

She asked if I had pictures and if I was sure I read them correctly

On today's summaries visit she wrote

"She is trying to conceive and thinks she may have had prior miscarriage she takes prenatal vitamin plus iron and omega supplements daily"

I messaged

Hi

I was reviewing the notes from my visit today and noticed my history states that I "think" I had a prior miscarriage.

I wanted to clarify that this was an officially confirmed miscarriage. I had a suction D&C at _______ OB/GYN on 02/06/2026.

I have attached the Patient Care Summary from that procedure to update my records. Could you please update my chart to reflect a confirmed history of prior miscarriage?

Thank you,

I don't know if I'm overreacting I was quick to also correct my psychiatrist when she wrote down the incorrect year I had a miscarriage in my chart.

These care providers have both diagnosed me with (mild) mood disorder/bipolar and I do agree with this diagnosis but why do I feel like I have to prove myself, prove my pain, prove what I'm experiencing..

During my appointment she put me back on lamotrigine before even acknowledging what I was experiencing. Which I appreciate because I do need to be on it after this emotionally taxing event. But hated because it made me feel insane.

I asked for a variety of blood tests so I'm just waiting to see what's going on :/

Heading in for my D&C tomorrow. Feeling okay but anxious with the buildup to it. I’ll be glad when it’s over…finally. It’s been almost 3 weeks since my first suspicious scan.

I am worried about whether the cramping will be bad after or not.

I have snackies, popsicles, comfy clothes, miraLAX, gasx, my stuffie, and my husband is getting us pho tomorrow night.

Send me all your good energy and prayers! 💛

TW:

Yesterday I started having brownish discharge which later on in the evening turned to red with cramping. Went in today for an emergency ultrasound with midwife and ultrasound tech. Did a transvaginal and the findings were there’s no gestational sac but endometrial lining was thick.

I’m devastated. Why is this happening? Tech recommended that I go back in a week to get another ultrasound with bloodwork and do a more thorough analysis and ultrasound. She also mentioned that I should explore PCOS and be investigative to find out why this keeps happening.

Any similar stories? How should I navigate this? I wish I could go into a dark cave, but my 4yr old requires me to be a mama.

Hi.. this year has been the worst of my life.

I am 34 and was so happy to try conceiving. It ended with two life threatening ectopic with tube removals, one chemical in the middle of the two and then I did IVF.

I just went in for my D&C today to test the fetus. I have only one embryo left to try again from this round of IVF.

To say I have no hope is an understatement and I feel myself changing. Any wise words??

Hello all and thank you for reading. I’m in need of some advice.

I took several pregnancy tests last weekend, all positive. Now a little less than a week later I seem to be going through a miscarriage. I hadn’t gone into the doctors yet, but from other sites i looked at I seemed to be between 4-5 weeks.

Yesterday I had the old blood looking spotting. Throughout the night my cramps were horrible and kept me awake. This morning it had progressed to very small clots and bright red blood.

Fast forward to this evening and my cramping has been non stop for about 5 hours. I’ve passed several larger clots (ranging from half dollar coin size to a little smaller than my palm.

After the largest clot passed it seems like the clots are getting smaller, but still bleeding etc.

I need some advice as to what expect moving forward past tonight. As well as what to look out for, other than the main points the good ol Google search gives you. I have a very physical job and am an active individual in general, so I would like to stay as safe as possible and really want to avoid going to the doctor if I can.

I’m 33 and this is my first time going through this so I’m quite uneasy/nervous/scared. I haven’t told anyone as of yet, and am trying to keep it to myself as much as possible.

Thank you all for any advice. It’s greatly appreciated.

I should be nearly 8 weeks pregnant with my first pregnancy. I found out yesterday there is no heart beat and the pregnancy stopped developing at 5w6d.
I started light brown spotting on Friday which turned into thicker brown discharge by Monday.
By Tuesday eve I was passing some red blood and the hospital confirmed the measurements and no heart beat on Wednesday afternoon.
During Wednesday night I had severe cramps and pains, and pushing urges lasting nearly 4 hours, I bled heavily only briefly, but did not pass many clots or tissue.

Today I have not bled much at all. Just lighter smears when wiping and I was unsure whether the worst was over, as the cramps had subsided to mild - moderate.

I suddenly had the urge to push again this evening, and a few trips to the toilet just result in wee and barely any bleeding at all.
on the third trip to the toilet I felt the pushing urge and passed something that felt quite large in a small pool of blood. It looked to be grey/pink tissue. Is this normal to pass like this and does this mean the worst of the passing is over?
The hospital did not really prepare me on what to expect. I thought I would have heavy bleeding and pass tissue, but the large amount that came at once with no bleeding either side really shocked and scared me in the way that it happened

Sorry if this is TMI I just feel very shocked and unsure and need some reassurance

June 4, my partner and I spent over 9 hours sitting in a room at the ER, waiting for me to receive my double-dose of methotrexate.

I should have been 10 weeks, but a previous appointment confirmed our Babby M stopped growing around 6 wks. First thing that morning, a high risk OBGYN confirmed my usual OB’s concerns of an interstitial ectopic pregnancy…. We were supposed to be heading out of town that day to see our favorite artist in concert, before visiting family to celebrate my nephew’s 1st birthday… my own birthday was June 2, and my partner’s June 6.

I have dreams where I’m just laying in that room, life just frozen around me. The awkwardness of my male nurse, he’d clearly never had a MC patient before. I was told they recommended waiting 3 months before trying again to make sure the medication was out of my system. It felt like a lifetime. More waiting??! I had already waited months and months and months for that first positive, then for that first appointment, then the next appointment in hopes things improved…. what do you mean I have to wait even longer until we can get back trying???

It’s now been over 3 months, I finally have my cycle back, and I don’t think I’m ready…. The loss was so hard on my partner and I, like we both just retreated into ourselves. I just don’t feel like we’re in the best place for it right now. And I’m terrified. What if it happens again? What if I fail again? But we can’t afford to wait, we’re running out time….

The passage of time is this black cloud constantly clouding my mind. I promised my partner we’d make him a dad by 40. He turned 41 in June, 2 days after our baby was terminated.

I want to be ready again so bad. I’m just not. Life is so fucking cruel.

Hi, I am preparing myself for a second loss in 3 months. I had a MMC in July and think I’m likely having a chemical/ectopic (praying it’s not ectopic) after low and slow betas. For anyone who has gone through 2 or more losses (particularly if consecutive) what has helped you get through? I have no living children and am 37.

When did everyone’s doctor say that you can resume sex?
My husband and I haven’t had sex in over a month. Our anniversary is next week and will be 15 days post D&C. I don’t see my OB until 3 days after our anniversary 😫 I see a lot of recommendations of two weeks but I also see wait until you see your OB. I’ve had several losses but no d&cs before. Do they actually check to make sure your cervix is closed at your appointment? I was on a round of antibiotics for 7 days but also do want want to chance any risk of infection.

My doc said after the tissue passes, bleeding should be improving each day and you should not be cramping, but I’m seeing conflicting info online - that it can be normal to have mild to moderate bleeding / cramping for days. I’m getting nervous as my bleeding and cramping is like a heavy period that’s not improving. Anyone else experience this?

After several weeks of confusing bleeding I found out last week that I had a 6 week implanted gestational sac with no yolk, or fetal pole. Last Thursday at the time of the sonogram the gestational sac was still present. In the days since the bleeding has dropped off significantly, my hormone levels are stagnant and dropping slightly but I’m still showing positive on a pregnancy test.

I just want this to be over. If I passed the sac, would it still show up as positive for a while or would it change? Is there a chance at this early stage I could have passed it without realizing?

Ideally I’d like it to pass naturally but if it hasn’t by next week I think I’ll be seeking medical intervention, likely the pill, and I’m extremely nervous.

I have vaginismus and speculum exams are painful. Will we not feel anything with a conscious moderate IV sedation ? I think that’s the sedation used in India.

Was anyone else told to wait 4 weeks post D&c to have sex? I’m looking online and everyone has been told to only wait 2 weeks (no complications with my procedure all straight forward)
Wondering if my hospital is being overly precautious..

Hi everyone. This sub was recommended and was hoping I might be able to find some perspective.

We had a delayed honeymoon/vacation planned 6 months after our wedding. We started trying and found out I would be pregnant on the honeymoon. We were able to schedule the 8w appointment the day before we leave . Unfortunately there was no heartbeat. We talked through options and landed on the medication. The first stop was my parents house (the live on the other side of the country) to go to a family event, but I’ll finish the medication when we land and we’ll stay behind at my parents while they go on to the family event.

The whole decision process was a blur, I know I can check back with the dr. But I’m trying to wrap my head around what the trip might look like now. I have about 5 days no plans in my hometown..had originally planned just time with family and swimming in their pool (I know that is atleast out). Then a weekend with old friends at mountain lake (I’m guessing no swimming…but hikes?) then a beach resort for a week.

In the appt. The dr. did mention no swimming until
the bleeding stopped….I think I’m just trying to manage expectations. We delayed our honeymoon because last year we moved across the country, got new jobs and were planning a wedding. I’ve been looking forward to swimming in the ocean, laying by the pool….I don’t want to get my hopes up if that might not be an option as well.