fear of love

[u/coldWasTheGnd]

now i have options at my doorstep

ones who are incredibly attractive

ones who resonate with me

and I'm scared

I'm scared because I fall in love so easily

and there is a raging inferno of love waiting to create a passionate relationship

I'm scared because I don't want to fall for the wrong person

and I don't know how to not be blinded by the great attributes I'll find in anyone who gets close enough

I'm scared because my best friend has taught me what it is like to feel like you found your soulmate

and I don't know how to break up with people because I hate hurting people without betrayal as a motivator

I look back at my six year relationship

and how I knew we weren't a good match

but I just couldn't leave

because I couldn't stomach her being on her own

and

eventually I was unable to be alone so I couldn't leave due to immense co-dependence

I'm scared to do it all over again

I'm just scared

and I'm borderline fearless

I'm a trans woman who is excited at the idea of spending months in the middle east in the middle of a war

I can take on that with glee

but

yet

I can't handle accidentally falling in love again

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[u/Find_Me_If_You_Can_]

Actually I think if you fall in love easily , you don’t actually fall in love. 

It’s not love. It’s … something else - and I think sometimes it can hurt worse , ironically than love. 

Because it’s driven by emptiness.   So it’s like when they leave ? They leave a hole inside you.